In order to change their destiny, Father Yang and Mother Yang started from nothing. After nearly ten years of hard work, they finally have their own place in the carton factory. The couple were both children who grew up in the countryside. In order not to let the next generation follow their own hard way, when his son Xiaojian was six years old, he took him to the city and asked him to go to aristocratic school and eat the best. Use the best.
Time flies quickly. The son is in junior high school. Dad Yang and Mom feel that the child is old and should be stocked. They can’t control everything so carefully. Otherwise, the child will be small and can’t do big things. . In addition, the factory is getting bigger and bigger, and there are more and more things, sometimes only three or four days a week.
Since every time I go home from school, only the food on the table is hot (auntie hourly worker, please), the whole house cannot find any vitality. In Xiaojian’s words, "home is like a haunted house." Happy time is playing games.
When he started playing at home, he felt too lonely behind him. In the entire 300-square-foot house, he was the only one, and he was very scared. Gradually, he got to know some buddies online, and then he made an appointment to go online together. Even if he was tired sometimes, he would not go home. He would squint on the sofa of the Internet cafe and go to school in the morning.
Later he discovered that, despite this, his parents never cared about greeting him. He said that for him, his mother is the cash machine, every time as long as his mother gives him money on time, they don't need to take care of other things. After he got the money, he went on a shopping spree, as if he would relieve his anger and feel better when he only spent all the money he gave each time. Doesn't he think that his parents make money for him? Then he has to spend hard, so as to be worthy of his parents. In his mind, he felt that Dad was a stranger he knew.
In order to attract the attention of parents, I started to learn to smoke and go to bars. And often do not go to school. The teacher later called the parents and asked them to come over and have a good talk with their children.
In order to let the child go to school as soon as possible,He compromised and said to the child: "The book must continue to read. What can you do if you don't read? I'm sorry, because my dad has too much business in the factory, but my dad can't stop. In fact, my dad is really tired!" The words hurt Xiaojian's heart deeply. He grabbed the vase on the table and slammed it on the ground, "I won't go to school, it's more tiring to be your son." Mother Yang was shocked and cried sadly. Up.
After returning home, Xiaojian looked like crazy, shut himself in the room every day, did not go out, turned on the music to the maximum, and played games hard until he was too sleepy to open his eyes.
Later, my mother invited friends who usually play with Xiaojian. Under their persuasion, Xiaojian opened the door and went out to eat something. However, as soon as his mother left the house, he ran out again and did not return for a few days. When Yang's father and Yang's mother were about to give up completely, Xiaojian wanted to commit suicide after drinking on the bridge outside. A few friends pulled him down.
No way, Dad Yang finally had to send the child to a rebellious closed school. Father Yang is very worried about what to do if the child relapses again after returning from the rebellious school, come to consult us, how can we help the child solve the problem?
The physical and mental development of adolescent children is characterized by self-identity and confusion of roles. Parents do not have a good understanding of the child's physical and mental characteristics. Therefore, the wrong direction of guidance will cause the child's problems to become more serious.
Secondly, Dad Yang and his wife neglected their children's company in order to make money for their work. Mother Yang only knows to give the children money. In order to attract the attention of parents, children deliberately go to Internet cafes and do not go home. Parents never care about greetings; they deliberately smoke and drink, and are invited to parents by school. Unexpectedly, father is busy and tired when he speaks... My heart is chilling, and I have no expectations for my parents, but at this time the parents want to discipline their children. The methods are not used properly and everything is useless, so the contradiction between parent and child has intensified.
Children are sometimes simple,Just need the parent's care and companionship, no matter how much money is given to him, it is better to have a good meal with the child and care about the child's daily life. No matter how busy you are, you have to talk on the phone and express your parents' love to your child. Then the parent-child relationship will not be the same as it is now.
We suggest that Dad Yang and his wife learn about family education, learn how to communicate with their children, and most importantly, really want to be with them. Then, help the child establish the boundaries of mobile phone, network, study, work and rest, start with correcting work and rest, and slowly guide the child back to learning.
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