There is a saying among the people: "It is not only poor for three generations, but it is not only rich for three generations."
A family, if you are extremely poor, it will stimulate the potential of future generations and grandchildren, so that they can change their destiny smoothly. On the contrary, if a family is expensive, it will gradually lose its fighting spirit and lose its family.
Why do these poor and rich change at all times?
In the words of Lu Mengzheng , it means "The times cannot be relied on, poverty cannot be deceived, and the world goes back and forth, and it must be repeated."
The times and opportunities will change. Poverty and wealth will naturally change with it. Things in this world are repeated over and over again, and are related to the laws of natural development. Everything is just a "cycle".
For a family, it is difficult to achieve the goal of "from poor to rich", but there is a chance to achieve it. However, it is particularly difficult to overcome the natural law of "wealth cannot last for three generations".
Because human nature is difficult to change. It is easy to go from frugality to extravagance, but it is difficult to go from extravagance to frugality. The descendants of wealthy families have lived in a life of luxury and wealth since childhood, so their ability to resist risks is relatively poor.
lacks four things, and it will not be rich for three generations. Generally speaking, these four things are destroying the family.
1. Too smooth environment.
Mencius said that if you enter, you cannot pass the family, and if you leave, you will be invincible for foreign patients, and the country will die. Then you know that you are born in distress and die in happiness.
For a group, if there is no smart and capable person at home and no certain competitors outside, it is believed that this group will be difficult to develop and will slowly decline. The principles of
are similar. For a family, children and grandchildren who do not have perseverance and tenacity at home do not have certain pressure outside. Wouldn’t they be able to gradually lose in an “too smooth” environment?
from a development perspective, it is too smooth. It is actually not a good thing, it is the beginning of a big trouble.
The road of life has both good and bad luck. The road of family should also have both setbacks and achievements. The family is too rich, which makes the children and grandchildren feel free to live without any pressure, and the family is destined not to last long.
The road full of setbacks will make people stronger. An overly comfortable breeding ground will cause people to lose their direction, be confused and cause disaster.
2. Three views that are not correct enough.
In real life, some people work from time to time and make a lot of money and are full of wealth. We generally call these people "novas".
nouveau riche all have this dream, that is, they hope that their wealth can be passed on to future generations. No matter how bad it is, it will make the next generation live a little more relaxed and comfortable life. The idea of
is most likely not going to become a reality. Why? Because the second generation of children will squander all their parents' money. In this way, the sorrow of being rich but not being a second generation will arise.
You should know that the second generation of nouveau riche lives are mostly rich and arrogant, and they are extremely arrogant and degenerate, and can do anything, so no matter how much wealth they have, they cannot keep it.
people, after all, they still have to look at the "three views". If you have a correct view of yourself, know how to be self-reliant, and know that making money is not easy, then you can keep your wealth. On the contrary, it will only put the efforts of the predecessors into vain.
is like Qin II Hu Hai. Seven generations of ancestors built the foundation of Qin for him, but it was quickly defeated within a few years, which made people in later generations sigh.
3. Family members like to fight in the nest.
When we talk about wealthy families, the first thing we think of is that future generations will "compete for family property".This struggle directly divided the family and became a mess.
To put it bluntly, all "fighting" for family property is to corrupt the welfare of ancestors and damage one's own blessings. It is not a good thing for others and oneself.
We know that "fighting for family property" is not good, but why are we still keen on doing it? Because people are greedy and cannot resist the temptation of material money.
There is a saying among the people: "Brothers, settle the accounts clearly." No matter how close the brothers are, they will fight for money and even refuse to recognize their blood ties. This is the norm in the world.
Look at the royal struggles in all dynasties. Countless princes are cheating on the throne, even if they destroy the foundation of their ancestors. This, is not so much a flaw in human nature, but rather a greed and short-sightedness in human nature.
Fighting in the nest will not last long, nor will the family get anything. On the contrary, the disasters that follow will emerge one after another.
4. The descendants are becoming more and more mediocre.
Throughout history, there is a phenomenon that is particularly interesting. The first generation of people who started from scratch are particularly powerful. And the descendants of descendants become more mediocre, and even their IQ is disconnected.
For example, the Sima family during the Three Kingdoms period, Sima Yi is very scheming and very powerful. His sons Sima Shi and Sima Zhao are also heroes of the world and are famous all over the world. Even in , Sima Yan, generation, he still has a certain talent and strategy.
When Sima Yan died, Sima Zhong succeeded to the throne. Sima Zhong is what later generations call "low-wise emperor". He is born with intelligence and is stupid and incompetent. result, but it caused the subsequent Eight Kings Rebellion . Why does " generation is worse than the previous generation " happen?
The fundamental reason is that the first generation who started from scratch came from the bloody storm. For example, a group of business tycoons are all talented people. However, no one knows whether their son is a human being. Because the descendants of descendants all live in the shade of the first generation, they have no experience, so they will naturally become mediocre.
Therefore, all things in this world decline from prosperity, and then from decline to prosperity. This is inevitable and no one can change it.
text/Shushan Youlu
