INFP belongs to a type I personality (introverted). Generally speaking, this type of person is relatively withdrawn, not good at socializing, resists big scenes, focuses on his inner world and feelings, has a strong self-esteem, and is often wary of attacks and harms others have on himself, but most of the time, he is overdefensive and has a strong sense of honor for his personal value. It can be said that this type of people have high requirements for themselves and hope that they are a perfect person in the eyes of others, such as studying and working. At the same time, they are more persistent, and they will continue to persist in the people and things they recognize, sympathize with the weak, but also despise the weak, and often fantasize about playing the role of a savior.
From an emotional perspective, people with INFP personality often disappear in the system architecture of human nature. They are accustomed to looking down on everything from the perspective of God. Although they admit their cowardice, they do not hesitate to become controllers. If his human structure is completely lost, it is easy to show extreme inferiority complex, selfish and self-destructive depravity.
has typical Fi-dominated performance. Even if there are strong emotions in the heart, it is difficult for them to express for various reasons and worries. They often have different feelings, so they will appear indifferent. In intimate relationships, similar situations are also inevitable, namely, avoidance attachment to . Therefore, in INFP personality, avoidance attachment is a high probability event, and avoidance attachment of this type of person is also difficult to crack.
has an INFP personality with obvious avoidance attachment. Their emotions will be deeper and unpredictable. They are used to empathizing with (1st Fi+2nd Ne) from a personal perspective. At the same time, they will rely more on concepts and experiences that can be tested by time, and use this to strengthen personal beliefs (3rd Si). The ultimate goal of ta is to strengthen his own defense and firmly protect his inner world, but he often ignores others too much and leads to failure (4th Te), that is, he cannot obtain the emotional experience he desires.
I had a case before, Xiao Wang has a typical INFP personality, accompanied by obvious avoidance attachment, her boyfriend has an E personality and an anxious attachment, and these two types of people will get along very hard. Xiao Wang has always been accustomed to being alone. He is only with his current boyfriend because of a blind date arranged by his family, but he is more reluctant to communicate with him in terms of emotions. He rarely talks about topics except work. Xiao Wang has a very profound feeling, that is, once his feelings and perceptions are exposed, his feelings will be restrained by others. In short, it is easy to expose his weaknesses in front of others. My boyfriend is an E-type person. He talks a lot but has less empathy. He complains that girls have always lived in their own world and can never advance their relationship. With age factors, he will be very anxious and constantly want to enter the girl's world through various ways, but it will cause girls to become more and more repulsive.
From the perspective of intimate relationships, the boyfriend's approach is not wrong. He wants to have a breakthrough in relationship with girls, but he also ignores the characteristics of INFP personality. Her inner framework is very rigorous and there is no opportunity to take advantage of it. It is not that easy to disrupt her. From the conversation, I even thought that Xiao Wang was an alienated avoidant attachment, and had very few emotional needs for emotions. It was more that she was the arrangement of her parents' destiny, so she naturally had no intention of exposing herself to her boyfriend.
INFP has three characteristics:
1. The tendency to avoid is relatively serious. Their criterion for handling things is to judge and establish the motivation for personal emotions, evaluate emotional values for things, and thus establish their own beliefs (1st Fi). Therefore, it is more difficult for such people to guide directly.
2. INFP personality is easily driven by subjective beliefs and emotional identification. It is inevitable to encounter difficulties when coordinating intimate relationships. Especially when using extroverted emotions, it is easy to compete with one's own introverted emotions and polarize (5th Fe). Therefore, they often fall into contradictions between language and behavior.
3. It is easy to pay too much attention to internal perspective and ignore other external factors (6th Ni). The feelings and changes of the external environment are often unconsciously ignored (7th Se), but they will also balance after they are aware of it, so the sense of boundaries of such avoidant attachments is acceptable, and they are not as highly boundary as INFJ. Although most of the personality of
INFP is avoidant attachment, and the degree of avoidance is high and not easy to guide, their awareness is relatively strong, so it is a good way to adjust the attachment pattern by communicating with them cognitively.
