Ancient Greek philosopher Telles pointed out: "What is easiest to do, it is easiest to give opinions to others! What is the most difficult to do, it is the most difficult to manage yourself."
So, when we interpret some historical events and characters, whether we can break out of our inherent vision and emotions and transform the idea of giving opinions to the ancients into refining some wisdom from the ancients that can help us improve our self-management will largely determine the value and significance of our reading of history.
Wei Zifu , this name should be familiar to many people. From the singer to the queen, she has a legendary color. Coupled with the output of their high-quality "Emperor Relatives Group" ( Wei Qing , Huo Qubing , Huo Guang ), she is destined to leave indelible traces in history.
Wei Zifu ended up dead and killed because of the witchcraft disaster of , which is very sad. However, such a civilian queen still has many survival wisdom worth learning from.
How did Wei Zifu board the big ship Emperor Wu of Han ?
Sometimes, we don’t need to guess and worry too much about what will happen tomorrow? Because many things are unimaginable even if you want to break your head, or even you can't imagine them normally.
For example, , before the second year of Jianyuan, Wei Zifu did not dare to imagine that he would become a woman in the world and become an emperor in the future, and be very popular. Because she was just a singer in the house of Princess Pingyang at , said cruelly that under normal circumstances, there was no power or freedom to dream!
However, one day in that year and month, a young man walked into Princess Pingyang's mansion, thus changing the fate of Wei Zifu's life.
This young man is no one else, but the famous Emperor Wu of Han in history. He just went to to Bashang to worship his ancestors and pray for blessings and eliminate disasters. Then when he returned, he went to his sister Princess Pingyang's house to take a break.
At this time, Emperor Wu of Han had just ascended the throne for a year, and was only eighteen years old, which was the age of full blood. Moreover, although he married his cousin Chen Ajiao , so many years have passed, and Chen Ajiao's belly has not changed much. This situation in made his sister Princess Pingyang feel that it was a huge "business opportunity".
Princess Pingyang, who had been deliberate for a long time, quickly put on her usual repertoire. With a greeting, a large number of girls who were all the best came out to dance.
I don’t know whether it was because Emperor Wu of Han had too high quality requirements or the beauty prepared by Princess Pingyang could not stand the test. Anyway, after the first round of inspection, Emperor Wu of Han waved his hand and said that he had just returned from celebrating his ancestors and was not suitable for too much entertainment.
There is no way! Princess Pingyang cannot change her mind, she can only change people. She quickly arranges the second wave of beauties in to continue to take over!
Results, among this wave of service workers, there was a person from who made Emperor Wu of Han lit up and felt it was necessary to have a deep communication with her alone. This person is Wei Zifu.
Who is this Wei Zifu? It's also a long story.
Her father's name is no longer verified. Her mother is a servant of the Pingyang Hou (Princess Pingyang's in-laws' family) Cao Shi family. Some people say they are concubines, but their status is relatively low anyway. In that era, older women were generally called "媢", so we will call Wei Zifu's mother Wei Mo .
Wei Yu didn't know whether it was active or passive. Anyway, he had many children, and there were one man and three women in the lineage of Wei Zifu. Wei Zifu's elder brother is called Wei Changjun , the elder sister is called Wei Junru , and the second sister is called Wei Children , and Wei Zifu is the youngest. In addition, Wei Ma was still lonely and developed a one-night stand relationship with a minor official named Zheng Ji in Pingyang Mansion, and then added a younger brother to Wei Zifu, which was the later God of War Wei Qing.
Here is a sentence, her later nephew Huo Qubing, who was born to an affair with a young official named Huo Zhongru, her second sister, was born to an affair with a young official named Huo Zhongru, .
In short, from Wei Zifu's complex family member relationship, we can see that their Wei family actually lives as much as we imagined.
However, when luck comes, no one can stop it. The luck of Wei Zifu is coming, the era of Wei family is coming, and the strongest illegitimate group in Chinese history is coming. Otherwise, after the ethics system is gradually improved, it is destined to be difficult for people like the Wei family to have any great prospects, because they will not be able to obtain core resources that can help them break through class barriers.
A singer wants to be a queen? An illegitimate son wants to become the Imperial War God? Can an illegitimate child be trained by the emperor since childhood? Don't even think about it! Those ethical saliva have long drowned you all.
Because of his mother, Wei Zifu was mixed in Pingyang Mansion since he was a child. Later, because he was more beautiful, he was selected as an art student and trained as an artist. He became the praise of Pingyang Mansion (female singer) in . He was finally selected by Emperor Wu of Han and became the most eye-catching heroine of that era.
Although there is a fateful arrangement behind this, we must still realize that Wei Zifu's own conditions must also be outstanding.
After Emperor Wu of Han decided to bring Wei Zifu into the palace, he rewarded his very powerful sister with thousand taels of gold, which was also considered a reward for his favor.
When Wei Zifu was about to enter the palace, Princess Pingyang stroked Wei Zifu's back and said: "Please encourage yourself and work hard. If you are rich in the future, don't forget my recommendation."
In this way, Wei Zifu completed the life transformation of "from the 18th line little singer to the emperor's woman".
However, since ancient times, as soon as enters the Marquis gate, it is not to mention the palace courtyard. Wei Zifu, who entered the palace, realized that Emperor Wu of Han's passion was burning too fast and he had no time to pay attention to her. In this regard, Emperor Wu of Han and his great-grandfather Liu Bang were surprisingly similar to Bo Ji .
entered the palace, but could not surround the emperor closely. What this means for a woman is conceivable. In 138 BC, Emperor Wu of Han chose the elderly and weak palace maids in the palace to release them out of the palace. Wei Zifu took this opportunity to meet Emperor Wu of Han and beg to let her go home.
At this time, Emperor Wu of Han suddenly remembered this female singer brought from his sister's house, so arranged some compensatory work. As a result, Wei Zifu conceived Emperor Wu of Han with a very high hit rate. For Emperor Wu of Han, who had never had any offspring, it was absolutely unspeakable to be so happy.
Since then, Emperor Wu of Han favored Wei Zifu's more than a day. Wei Zifu's belly is also very strong, and he gave birth to three daughters and one man for Emperor Wu of Han. The three daughters are the later Princess Wei Chang , Princess Zhuyi and Princess Shiyi , and the other man is the later Prince of Wei Liu Ju .
gave birth to four children for Emperor Wu of Han. In addition, his outstanding performance in fighting against Huns made Wei Zifu's status in the mind of Emperor Wu of Han unparalleled for a long time.
To summarize briefly, why could Wei Zifu successfully board the luxury yacht of Emperor Wu of Han? First, we confirmed the eyes of the right person at the right time and in the right place (Pingyang Mansion is elected as a prestigious person based on our own conditions); second, we seize the opportunity and timely reflect our own value (Ultra-high hit rate makes Emperor Wu of Han happy to be a father); third, we formed a relationship of mutual achievement with Emperor Wu of Han for a long time and steadily (Uncle Wu of Han valued the Wei family, and the Wei family rewarded Emperor Wu of Han with high returns).
Wei Zifu's palace for 49 years
Wei Zifu entered the palace to accompany Emperor Wu of Han for 49 years, and his mother was in the world for 38 years. He can be said to be the woman with the strongest holy relatives around Emperor Wu of Han.
But history is not so calm in many cases, especially Wei Zifu is in an environment like the harem where it is difficult to be gentle and drizzle. His extremely honorable life is destined to be a life of ups and downs.
When Wei Zifu was just favored, the then queen Chen Ajiao felt very unhappy. Because Wei Zifu's pregnancy and favoredness hit Chen Ajiao's two major pain points: : One is that she cannot give birth to anger; the other is that the old love is naturally hostile to the new love.
So, Chen Ajiao complained to her mother's family, saying that she was neglected by Emperor Wu of Han, all because of a little singer named Wei Zifu. As a result, her mother Princess Tao Chang Liu Piao became angry when she heard this. Why did someone bully our daughter? We must let the eyes of , which are not open, and let the untouchables remember their identities.
Therefore, Wei Qing, who was working in Jianzhang Palace at that time, was almost killed by the killer arranged by Liu Piao. Fortunately, his good friend Gongsun Ao led a group of brothers to rescue him in time, and Wei Qing escaped.
This incident made Emperor Wu of Han feel very angry. you are so blatant to kill people. Who should you kill for? Don’t you know that the world’s surname is Liu? Therefore, he retaliatedly promoted Wei Qing to Jianzhang Supervisor and appointed him as a Shizhong (core position), and also promoted Wei Changjun to Shizhong, and continued to reward the Wei family with cash.
Emperor Wu of Han’s operation contains a strong political signal. is actually annoying that you, Chen Ajiao and her daughter, are interfering too deeply. You better be honest.
Unfortunately, Chen Ajiao did not understand this strong signal, but continued to toss and make trouble. In the end, the position of queen was deposed because of 's use of witchcraft to curse the favor. In the spring of the first year of Yuanshuo (128 BC), Wei Zifu, who had been favored for 10 years, became emperor for 12 years. Emperor Wu of Han, who was 29 years old, gave birth to the first prince Liu Ju. Emperor Wu of Han was overjoyed. At that time, he wrote a letter to the , the master of the , who was the . He asked him to make Wei Zifu the queen. After
, the 7-year-old Liu Judi was made the crown prince; Wei Qing and Huo Qubing, the two imperial gems, showed their powers on the battlefield of the Huns and made countless contributions; Wei Zifu also worked diligently to manage the harem for Emperor Wu of Han, allowing Emperor Wu of Han to release his energy without distraction.
For a time, the Wei family was famous all over the world and respected. The Wei family also received the supreme honor of being a marquis with five people. At that time, someone even compiled the "Song of the World for the Husband of Wei" ("Song of the Queen Wei") to describe the nobleness of the Wei family. The song said: "There is no joy in having a boy, no anger in having a daughter, and only the husband of Wei's husband dominates the world!"
Later, appeared next to Emperor Wu of Han, and other young and beautiful women were favored. However, Wei Zifu, who knew the truth that the moon was full, was detrimental, and the water was full, was overflowing. With a balanced mentality, good morals and fair manners, he was always treated with courtesy and respect from Emperor Wu of Han.
Some people would say that the reason why Wei Zifu won such a high status in Emperor Wu of Han was because Wei Qing and Huo Qubing made too much contribution, because Emperor Wu of Han was afraid of and win over Wei Qing and Huo Qubing. However, even within 17 years after Wei Qing and Huo Qubing passed away one after another, Wei Zifu's status in the harem was still unshakable. When Emperor Wu of Han sometimes traveled around the world, he even handed over the palace affairs under the Shaofu to decide.
From these details and logic, Wei Zifu was able to stand in the harem for a long time, although the two famous generals Wei Qing and Huo Qubing were given the feedback from the back of the two famous generals, , but she herself was also outstanding and could be recognized from the heart of Emperor Wu of Han.
It is reported that Emperor Wu of Han told Wei Zifu what he had to do before he went out. When Emperor Wu of Han returned to the court, Wei Zifu would report the handling situation to Emperor Wu of Han in a vain way. The key is that Emperor Wu of Han felt quite satisfied after hearing this, and sometimes even expressed similarly to "You can do things and I feel at ease." You can just decide on these things in the future, and you don’t have to report them to me. What kind of trust is this?
If history can be assumed, if Wei Zifu bid farewell to the world within 17 years after Wei Qing and Huo Qubing passed away one after another, she was destined to be a generation of virtuous queen praised by later generations. is just a woman who will eventually be pushed in another direction by fate because of the man in her destiny.
The forces of foreign relatives represented by the Wei family and core experienced decades of accumulation and development in Emperor Wu , and gradually felt out of control. Because the bigger the gang, the more uncontrollable factors will be. You don’t know when a certain pig teammate will cause you some trouble.
The person who ignited the fuse of the fall of the Wei family was another nephew of Wei Zifu, Prime Minister Gongsun He ( Wei Junru's husband ) Gongsun Jingsheng . This guy is not enough to do anything. With his deep background, he usually feels that there is nothing he dares to do or cannot do. As a result, took advantage of the high position of the Nine Ministers and Taifu, and used Northern Army 's military salary of 19 million yuan, which turned into military corruption.
Emperor Wu of Han is a person with a strong sense of bottom line. As long as anyone does not touch his bottom line, everything is easy to say, but anyone who touches his bottom line will definitely be a ruthless character who turns against others.
When Emperor Wu of Han clearly stated that he should follow the clues and investigate them strictly to the end, the famous "witchcraft tragedy" during the reign of Emperor Wu of Han was born. There are too many hidden stories behind this tragedy, and I can't explain it clearly in this article, so I will tell you another story. However, the result of the tragic incident was that Prince Liu Ju committed suicide. Wei Zifu was unwilling to be humiliated and committed suicide. There were tens of thousands of unjust deaths in who were related to the Wei family and were involved.
When we simply sort out Wei Zifu's general experience in the palace, we can find that although Wei Zifu was not retained in the end, she was able to maintain a family's long-term stability and prosperity for so long, and there was still a profound survival logic and wisdom behind it.
Analysis and summary of Wei Zifu's survival logic
First talk about the key points, What is the most valuable thing about Wei Zifu's survival logic? It is because her survival logic has underlying support! To put it today, that is down-to-earth.
Wei Zifu's background is actually not much better than most of us, and it is even worse. In that era, girls like Wei Zifu, especially those born in families with such chaotic relationships, would not have been too much devoted to their core resources by their parents, and they were basically in a native state of self-destruction.
In other words, Wei Zifu actually represents most of us ordinary people, ordinary people, and lower class people.
So, let’s think further. Due to the limited resources of the survival of the lower class, the philosophy of survival is often very simple, that is, “Eat the mountains and rely on water to eat water” !
So, when we are at the bottom, if we want to develop upward, the first priority is not to work hard regardless of everything. instead of first recognizing ourselves, understanding the direction, fully combining and leveraging our limited resources. Never give up, don’t be impatient and frivolous, be able to calm down, endure loneliness, and work hard to settle yourself.
Wei Zifu has been making a living with her mother at Princess Pingyang's house since she was a child, and gradually became a singer. The things she paid and endured behind her are far beyond our imagination.Didn’t she also become the best among the singer girls in Pingyang Mansion step by step? methods are always more difficult than difficulties. It is not scary to be in a difficult situation. What is scary is that people don’t even have the courage to struggle a little!
Of course, our struggle should not be stubborn and blind! Because a person's development and achievements also depend on his ability to adapt to the times and seize opportunities and decisiveness.
Princess Pingyang called Wei Zifu and other singers to be auditioned for Emperor Wu of Han. Didn’t he just treat them as a bargaining chip for profit? There are many people in our lives who are not capable but have a strong temper. When they encounter such things that others don’t regard them as human beings, they will even quarrel with others with a few slaps. Is it useful? Is it necessary? The anger of the weak is usually not worth much.
If you want life to ultimately achieve you, you must first learn to love life, enjoy life, and cherish life.
When Emperor Wu of Han took a fancy to Wei Zifu and wanted to talk to her about the script, did Wei Zifu act very docile and cautious? When Princess Pingyang proposed to send her to the palace as a gift, did she act very obedient to the arrangement?
The arrangement of fate When we do not have the ability to resist and resist, the only way is to accept and enjoy it!
After entering the palace, Wei Zifu realized that the harem was not so beautiful, but full of wind and rain. Emperor Wu of Han left her aside. Can her life be better?
Then, let’s think about it, why didn’t Wei Zifu complain to Emperor Wu of Han for more than a year before? Why did he have to wait until Emperor Wu of Han’s policy of sending out the elderly palace maids out of the palace to be announced before he could get the opportunity to complain to Emperor Wu of Han, and he used an extremely clever tactic of trying to get it?
is a simple truth. asks leaders to complain to them very much. The purpose of your complaint is to make your leaders sympathize with you, not to make your leaders bored with you. Therefore, you must ensure that you cannot complain to the leader too suddenly, and you must also grasp the leader's thoughts and trends. The promulgation of such a grace policy by Emperor Wu of Han shows that he is also thinking about the problems of the harem out of human nature. At this time, Wei Zifu, as a woman he brought into the palace, talked about the fact that he had been wasting his time, which was actually very likely to resonate with Emperor Wu of Han. Is the effect of
very obvious? After Wei Zifu's pear blossoms were raining, did Emperor Wu of Han feel that he was a little bit like a bear? I feel sorry for it. Even if I take care of it symbolically, it is also a precious opportunity for Wei Zifu to change his destiny!
Of course, if the leader gives us a chance, we must also be successful! This is the top priority! If Wei Zifu had not seized that precious opportunity to make Emperor Wu of Han successfully become a father, it would have been even more difficult for her to break the situation later.
Many of us have spent our whole lives wondering what the leader likes. In fact, it is very simple. leaders must first like people who can achieve themselves and help them solve practical problems; secondly, leaders also like people who like to see and feel happy and can get along with each other. You can either help the leader solve practical problems, but Wei Zifu helped Emperor Wu of Han solve the problem of "wanting to be a father"? Or you can make the leader feel relaxed and happy. At least Wei Zifu makes Emperor Wu of Han feel more comfortable than Chen Ajiao?
After Wei Zifu is becoming more and more popular, we will find a high-quality quality in Wei Zifu, that is, she can quickly get rid of the so-called "nova mentality". is not arrogant, does not make trouble, or is arrogant.
When a person's interest concentration or status is getting higher and higher, it is actually a time when his life risks are getting greater and greater, because the scope of interests involved in you is wider, and more and more people are staring at you, begging you, and trying you. You can't make mistakes easily, otherwise it will be a deep abyss.
Let’s see what Wei Zifu does? For Emperor Wu of Han, it was a core principle - does not cause trouble or cause trouble for leaders; is also a core principle for their rapidly rising relatives - is kind to others, and do not cause hatred casually; is also a core principle for yourself - is committed to your duties and adheres to the principles. Which leader doesn’t like people around you like
?
So, many people say that the reason why Wei Zifu was forced to commit suicide in the end was mainly because Emperor Wu of Han had a liquidation of relatives. In fact, it is not entirely true! Emperor Wu of Han has always had a high recognition of Wei Zifu, and Emperor Wu of Han has never issued an order to deprive Wei Zifu of the title of Empress. This is a very strong detail support!
Of course, after saying so much, it doesn’t mean that Wei Zifu has no limitations! Wei Zifu's limitation is that she chose her son in the conflict between her husband and son, but she did not understand who was behind the scenes of this big game!
However, how many mothers in the world are not like Wei Zifu? After all, my son is the flesh that fell from his body!
From the moment Wei Zifu ordered the killing of the clown who jumped over the wall Jiang Chong , Wei Zifu's life was actually destined to have no way back!
Let’s look back at Wei Zifu’s life. In fact, we can basically summarize a clear and scientific logical line, which is the basic process for a person at the bottom to rise: accept the status quo (survival tenaciously) - recognize yourself (reflect rationally) - seize opportunities (accumulate strength) - make good relationships (consolidately) - keep your duties (actively avoid disaster).
Although Wei Zifu seems to be a loser in the end, her life really has many things worth learning from and summarizing. I hope this article can attract attention and make everyone seriously fall into deep thought!
