Introduction:
people will be able to live smoothly in their later years if the elderly have pensions and some pension savings in their old age. However, the seventy-year-old Mr. Wu said that although he had deposits and pensions, his deposits and pensions became a burden for him to enjoy his old age. What's going on? Let me hear what Mr. Wu said.
Uncle Wu:
I am seventy years old this year, my wife is three years older than me, and I am seventy-three years old this year. As the saying goes, "A woman in the third year of a junior, she holds a gold brick." Since my wife and I got married, life has become like a cheat, and sesame has blossomed step by step.
Back then, my wife and I met on a blind date. Since my wife is three years older than me, I feel very unhappy. However, because my family was not in good condition and had no money to give the woman a bride price, I became husband and wife with my wife under the strong persuasion of my parents. What I never expected was that I had luck since my wife and I got married. In the past, I was just an ordinary worker in the company, but since my wife and I got married, I have become an official career.
I started as a small squad leader until I got into the position of workshop director. For those who have achieved success, the workshop director is nothing, but for a man like me who has no education and no great ability, who can sit in the position of the workshop director, it feels like the ancestral tomb is burning incense.
My wife and I have had one son and one daughter in the past few years after marriage. My wife is a thrifty woman who uses every penny to the extreme. After her careful calculations, we not only organized the marriage for our children in a grand manner, but also saved 800,000 yuan in savings in the year we retired.
We have an 800,000 yuan deposit in our hands, plus the pension that comes on time every month, our retirement life is extremely nourishing, and we feel that we have finally ended our hardships and have a happy life.
My wife and I worked hard for most of our lives. Now we are at the age of retirement and have lived a good life with enough food and clothing, so we naturally cherish it.
Whenever we think back to the first half of our lives, in order to support our children in school and to organize marriages for our children, we have been spending a penny in half, and we vow to be kind to ourselves in the second half of our lives, enjoy the retirement life well, and never treat ourselves badly again. After retirement, we never saved money. The seafood we used to be reluctant to buy now will have a meal every now and then. We used to be reluctant to buy new clothes. Now, as long as we see what we like, we will buy it no matter how much it costs. We are also willing to spend money on traveling. We have to travel at least once a month, and life is leisurely.
In order to share our joy with relatives and friends, we always like to post on WeChat Moments. We will show you the delicious food at home, buy sweet clothes, the customs, mountains and rivers you see when you travel, etc. We will show you in our circle of friends.
never expected that the circle of friends we posted became a disaster. My son and daughter are extremely disgusted with our "luxury" life after retirement. They say we only care about our own enjoyment and do not consider the difficulties of their lives at all.
My wife and I argued with reason and said that we supported them to complete their studies and helped them organize their marriages in a grand manner. We have fulfilled our responsibilities and obligations as parents. Now that we are old, why can't we enjoy a few years of retirement?
The son and daughter told us in unison that it was a waste of money to say that our lives were so extravagant and wasteful. My son said that since we had too much money to spend, we would take out part of it to change his car. He said his car had been driving for eight years and should have retired, but he had no money to change it.
's daughter also said that she worked hard every day, got up earlier than the chicken, went to bed later than the cow, and couldn't make much money in a month. She and her son-in-law work hard every month, and the money they earn is only enough to live, and there is no surplus at all. Their lives were so hard, but we spent so much money, and she felt distressed when she saw them.
The son and daughter condemn us, and the central idea is to let us use the money to subsidize them.My wife and I didn't agree, thinking that we did the right thing. We earn money and spend it with confidence. We tell our children that they have grown up and should be responsible for their lives and should not ask us for money anymore.
Seeing that we were unwilling to take out the money, our son and daughter never paid attention to us again, and they didn't even come during the Chinese New Year. My wife and I thought about it all our lives, and we can't keep this happening with our children.
In order to calm down, we had to take out 300,000 yuan to change the car for our son and give our daughter the same money. After the son and daughter took the money, they smiled and never ignored us again.
We originally had a saving of 800,000 yuan, but since we gave our children 300,000 yuan, we only had a saving of 200,000 yuan. Although this money is not much, we think that we will have a pension that will be paid on time every month, so that we can save a little in the future, save more money, and can also cope with the various needs of the elderly.
Who knew that God didn’t have eyes, but my wife suffered from kidney failure at this time. Due to her serious condition, she needs to dialysis three times a week and often needs to be hospitalized for treatment, which is a huge cost. Even with active treatment, my wife still passed away a year later.
After my wife passed away, I only had 80,000 yuan in savings left. Although my wife has left, I still have to live well. At my age, I have long understood that birth, old age, sickness and death are the norm in life.
I have a pension of 5,000 yuan a month. I think I can save 2,000 yuan a month, save 3,000 yuan, and I can save 36,000 yuan a year, and I can still live my life.
Unexpectedly, when my son and daughter saw that their wife was gone, they had the idea of my house. They said that I lived alone in a house with three bedrooms and two living rooms, which was a waste. My children asked me to rent out the house so that I could get two thousand yuan of rent every month and earn an extra amount.
I asked my children, the house has been rented out, where will I live? My children said that I could take turns living in their two families. I would give the pension to whichever I live, and I could keep pocket money and use it for the house.
I told my children that I don’t go anywhere, I just want to live in my own home. As soon as these words came out, the children's faces suddenly turned dark. They started to talk again, saying that I only care about my own enjoyment, but I am unwilling to help them, so that their lives will be easier. If I stick to my own opinions, they will ignore me again in the future.
The firm attitude of the children made me understand that if I disagree with their plan, they would disappear in front of my eyes like last time and ignore me from now on. In order to maintain the affection between children, I had to agree with their plan, rented the house, and lived a life of taking turns to support my children's family.
Once, I accidentally told my son that I still had 80,000 yuan in savings. Who knew that the speaker was unintentional, and the listener was intentional. Since my son learned that I had 80,000 yuan in savings, he became concerned. He kept persuading me to put 80,000 yuan in his place so that I would not be too confused one day and the money would be wasted.
I disagree, so he nagged in my ears every day, which made me very upset. In order to calm down, I had to hand over the 80,000 yuan passbook to my son, and he stopped nagging.
Since then, I have lived a life of cleanliness. Although I have two thousand yuan in rental income every month, I always spend all the rent on prescriptions and other expenses. I know that the reason why my children hand over the rent to me for management is because they have already calculated that I have to spend so much money every month.
I found that in my old age, if my children are unfilial, no matter how much savings and pensions the elderly have, they still cannot live a happy old age life. Because unfilial children will constantly plunder the elderly’s money until they are completely plundered, they will not calm down.
Now I regret it very much. I regret that when I was young, I was too spoiled for my children, which made them dependent. Children who were spoiled by their parents will be a burden for their parents throughout their lives.
I am now seventy years old, but I just understood this truth. It was really too late. I am patient every day, watching my children's faces survive. In my children's homes, I have no space for my own living. Such a life in his later years has no quality at all, and happiness is simply an out of reach for me.
Conclusion:
Many people say that when people are old, they must keep their house, deposits and pensions so that their lives in their later years will be more secure. However, ideals are full and reality is skinny. It is so difficult for the elderly to meet unfilial children and want to protect their house, deposits and pensions.
Unfilial children will try their best to plunder the elderly’s money. If they fail to do so, they will threaten to cut off relations with the elderly and coerce the elderly to submit. When people get old, it is crucial to regard children's family affection. In order to maintain children's family affection, the elderly can only compromise and hand over their house, deposits and pensions to their children for management.
Under such circumstances, the elderly’s elderly care life will become extremely passive. Unfilial children, they spend the elderly’s money, but may not be as good as the elderly. They think that the elderly can live as long as they live, and they will not consider whether the elderly live in quality. In such a situation, the elderly will live indescribable life.
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