You can have no money when you fall in love, but when it comes to marriage, you must talk about money. Another important thing about money is that trust between husband and wife is very important.
If two people have decided to spend a lifetime together, but always act like a thief in terms of money, guarding their partner, then this relationship shouldn't be enough. To get married, you must choose a man whose outlook on money matches yours.
Exhaustion will only make good things ugly.
After two years of getting along with Pang Yu, He Jia and Pang Yu finally entered into a marriage. He Jia thought that their married life must be a happy one, but he didn't want to have their marriage sprawling after half a year.
He Jia knew before marriage that her husband's family hurriedly bought a house before the two people got the certificate. He Jia and Pang Yu discussed getting a license to get married in May. They had visited a real estate before. They were looking at an off-plan property at the time, and the time to obtain the license was in July.
Both were very satisfied with the house at the time, but when Pang Yu returned home, their plans were disrupted. After that, Pang Yu picked up a lot of problems in this house, and He Jia felt that there were some reasons, but the key issues seemed a bit unreasonable.
He Jia couldn't help Pang Yu's repeated lobbying, she still compromised, but she felt that the main reason Pang Yu didn't want to buy this house was strangely unable to withstand scrutiny.
To He Jia's surprise, in mid-April, the future mother-in-law called her and asked her to visit the house, saying that she helped them choose a wedding room that is very suitable for young couples.
He Jia was very grateful, but when I went there, I found that this suite was mostly chosen with the eyes of the elderly, and she was not optimistic about it. She did not directly conflict with her mother-in-law, but took Pang Yu aside and talked about her concerns.
But the husband’s family insisted on buying it.Also signed the contract on the spot.
He Jia was unhappy, but she didn't want her marriage to change because of this little incident. It was just an episode. He Jia didn't think much, so he didn't say anything.
He Jia feels that when her husband’s family bought this house, the down payment is small, the loan period is long, and the monthly repayment amount is high. I am afraid that she and Pang Yu are under great pressure, which will affect the original quality of life. Why not pay some down payment by yourself, so that the monthly loan can be less repaid.
Unexpectedly, Pang Yu refused without thinking, saying that buying a house is what the man’s family should do. He Jia was still very moved until...
Less than half a year after marriage, He Jia discovered that during this period of time the common living expenses of the two people were borne by themselves, and the two people went out to have some activities, even if it was a movie, the cost You have to bear it yourself.
Once, He Jia bought a coat and his salary was overwhelming. Pang Yu was asked to pay for the charging fee, but Pang Yu talked about it for a long time before he had to pay it. Then he warned He Jia : You are married and have a family. You have a little plan and worry about what to do. How can you spend your salary without keeping a little money on hand?
This time, He Jia vaguely felt that something was wrong.
He Jia’s best friend gave her an idea. Now that men and women support the family together, it’s reasonable, but Pang Yu’s salary can’t be paid to his house’s mortgage. You will be responsible for the rest of daily living expenses and expenses. In the end, your pockets are empty. , The house does not have your share.
According to her best friend's plan, He Jia tempted Pang Yu when she returned home. She solemnly said that she would add a name to the room book.
Unexpectedly, Pang Yu couldn’t help trying, and suddenly exploded: "I buy the wedding house, and I pay the mortgage.It's useless for you to pay a penny, and it's fair not to add a name. "_Strong8strong
He Jia was taken aback for a moment, and then replied: "You...have the skills, don't let me pay for the living expenses. You didn't let me pay the mortgage, but you can't tell the living expenses. This is not a disguised form for me. Will you pay for the mortgage with you? _Strong8strong
The two broke apart.
The next day, He Jia and Pang Yu had a showdown and put forward a series of requirements:
first, living expenses AA, 50% for each person;
second, All household chores are shared by two people;
Third, one's own parents take care of themselves, including old age and sickness;
Fourth, after giving birth, I will not accept resignation to take care of the children, and ask the nanny to pay half of the money;
Fifth, family affairs cannot interfere with the development of my career. I want to make money to protect myself.
Pang Yu said that he couldn’t accept it. He said: Do you mean you have to live your own life after you get married? Like a family?
He Jia said calmly: I treat each other with sincerity, and I never even think about it. Then trust you, what will the result be? In the final analysis, you are the first to do my tricks. I don’t want to go, just stay in the room I add my name to the book. To be honest with you, I am not short of a house. What I lack is the trust and security in the marriage. You calculate me, why should I pay for you?
Yes, a responsible man who really loves you will not calculate your money, but will prepare your personal money and back road for you.
If for a house, the husband’s family and husband will calculate together If you ask your wife to help repay the mortgage in a disguised form, and if you don’t add a name to the house book, then you can conclude that your husband’s family doesn’t treat you as a family at all.
There is a problem in Zhihu: in marriage, women feel safest What is the thing that feels? Some people say it is material,Some people say it's feelings, and they have different ideas.
And if you ask, what is the most insecure thing in a marriage? The answer must be: calculations in marriage.
Marriage will definitely involve financial issues. Money must be carefully considered. After all, marriage is not "poverty alleviation". No matter whether it is a man or a woman, there is no reason to be taken advantage of.
Like the marriage of He Jia and Pang Yu, if one party fails to show his sincerity from beginning to end, it is difficult to exchange for family stability, and it is difficult for both parties to devote themselves to giving. There is no reason in this world. Should be.
Therefore, before entering marriage, having a clear understanding of the two parties' outlook on money and marriage is the realistic factor that must be considered.
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[This article is originally produced by Weiwei'an, plagiarism must be investigated/The picture comes from the Internet, invaded and deleted]
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