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The founder of New Oriental is named Yu Minhong, and his two partners are Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang.
I believe that for many people, when they hear these names, they will have a feeling of indignation, and even simply think that the reason why Yu Minhong invited Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang to join his company was just that he wanted Use them only, because they all have overseas study experience, joining New Oriental can not only enhance the brand influence of New Oriental, but also expand a lot of business. Not only that, because after the listing of New Oriental, Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang were kicked out of New Oriental by Yu Minhong. Since then, they have nothing to do with New Oriental, so they will be more convinced that Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang are just being used by Yu Minhong.
So is this actually the case? If you simply think that your classmates, relatives, and friends invite you to start a business and just want to use you, then there is no doubt that you will lose the only opportunity to change your destiny.
1. Being exploited shows your value
Obviously, in real life, there are many stories similar to Yu Minhong and his friends, so many people are being used by their relatives, classmates or friends When you invite you to join a project or start a business together, you will easily refuse. Obviously, this approach is very unwise, because what you refuse may be the only opportunity to change your own destiny.
Of course, you might say, can we easily be used by others to change our own destiny? Obviously, such a cognition is extremely wrong and lack of foresight!
Imagine if Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang refused the invitation of Yu Minhong, would they still achieve what they are today? no doubt,This is a very unlikely event. If you don't believe it, go and see Yu Minhong's other classmates. Is there anyone who is more successful than Wang Qiang and Xu Xiaoping? Is there anyone who is luckier than them?
From this perspective, the reason why Yu Minhong is willing to "use" Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang is only because they are valuable, and other people don't even have the opportunity to be "utilized".
So if you happen to have a good opportunity today, such as being invited by your classmates, relatives or friends to start a business together, and at the same time you are very appreciative of such an opportunity, please don’t be afraid of being used by others. Just choose to refuse easily.
Because others are willing to use you, precisely because they value you, because you have the value of "use"!
2. Active utilization is mutual achievement
To some extent, the relationship between people is actually the relationship between utilization and utilization. It is just such a saying that is not good.
If you don’t believe me, please take a look at how the relationship between Wang Qiang and Xu Xiaoping and Yu Minhong became after they were kicked out of New Oriental? Is it still very good? why? The reason is simple. Although the relationship between them seems to be a relationship of use and being used, they are actually a relationship of mutual achievement. Otherwise, it is impossible to have the true fund today.
Indeed, why Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang were kicked out of New Oriental? The most fundamental reason is that the existence of these two individuals will no longer bring more value to New Oriental, but will bring certain threats to New Oriental. It is because of their departure that the New Oriental has become today. At the same time, it was precisely because Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang accepted Yu Minhong's arrangement that the Zhen Fund today was made.
Of course, Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang must be reluctant before they are officially kicked out of New Oriental. So what to do? The only way is to give enough compensation,Regarding this point, Yu Minhong must have done very well, and the conditions must be very good, otherwise Wang Qiang and Xu Xiaoping are unlikely to leave easily. You must know that these two people are not easy roles.
Just imagine, if Xu Xiaoping and Wang Qiang did not leave New Oriental, what would be the ending today? Maybe New Oriental has long since ceased to exist, and ZhenFund can't be as popular as it is today.
So what does this indicate? Obviously, this at least shows that active "utilization" is essentially a relationship of mutual achievement.
So with regard to the cooperation between Yu Minhong, Wang Qiang and Xu Xiaoping and the subsequent breakup, we must look at this issue from a higher perspective.
That is, the departure of Wang Qiang and Xu Xiaoping is determined by objective laws, which means that if New Oriental wants to achieve more long-term development, the two must choose to leave. Otherwise, waiting for the results of the three of them will be very unbearable. Not only may it be impossible for New Oriental, but the relationship between the three of them may also change from a partner to an enemy.
Therefore, it is because of the departure of Wang Qiang and Xu Xiaoping that today's New Oriental has been achieved, and they have achieved their own true fund. At the same time, it is precisely because they chose to accept this fact that they did not agree with each other. Friendship brings harm. It is precisely because of this that now when they meet again, they can still tease each other and still regard each other as their most intimate friends.
Therefore, active use must be mutual achievement, not mutual torture, nor mutual harm.
If one day you become the Xu Xiaoping or Wang Qiang you are today, the only thing you need to do is to make sure that you have no loss, and after your partner has given you generous terms, you can calmly accept this A reality.
If you choose to reject or even confront,Then the result waiting for you may be very miserable, and at the same time, your choice may also cause serious harm to your relatives, friends or classmates.
In fact, there are similar cases abroad. For example, Apple’s founder Steve Jobs was even expelled from the company he founded because of his different development concepts in the early days, but Jobs did not resent the company for this, nor did he think that The capital power behind it is to unload the donkey after using himself. On the contrary, he still chose to cooperate with Apple when he decided to launch the iPhone. It is precisely because of this that the later Apple and Steve Jobs have been achieved.
Active "utilization" must be mutual achievement, not mutual confrontation and mutual harm.
3. Only when you are used frequently, your life will go smoother and smoother
To some extent, no matter what kind of person you are, no matter how powerful you are, if you Refusing to be used by others, always understanding the importance of others to you from a very narrow perspective, then there is no doubt that one day you will regret it for a lifetime. The reason is simple, because no matter what era, Cooperation is always the most important thing. No matter how strong his ability is, it is difficult for anyone to realize his dream by going alone!
In fact, you can easily find such a phenomenon, that is, those careers are developing very smoothly, and their lives are becoming happier and happier. People of this type basically have this characteristic. That is, they are very good at cooperating with others, and at the same time, when cooperating with others, they don't particularly care about the gains and losses of interests. Sometimes even if they find that they are at a disadvantage, they don't care too much.
So what are they doing? Obviously, because only by doing this, others will be more willing to use them.
So, if you want great success and want to change your own destiny, don’t be afraid of being taken advantage of. Sometimes we decide whether to do something,In other words, whether to decide to cooperate with your friends, relatives or classmates, you only need to have a standard of judgment, that is, as long as we do not violate the law and do not violate ethics, then such a thing can be done. If someone is willing to "use" us, we should also be grateful for it.
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