If the longevity of the elderly is based on health, then this kind of longevity, the elderly will live comfortably, and the children will have no burden to serve. To be afraid is to be afraid that the long-lived elderly are not in good health, and they need children to wait on them for a long time. One day or two is fine. If it takes a long time, how do the children feel? Let's take a look at the three elderly people interviewed and hear their truest feelings.
Aunt Zhang, 68 years old, takes care of her 90-year-old mother every day, washes and feeds food, and also endures abuse and framing from the elderly.
Aunt Zhang has been taking care of her mother since she retired. Because her elder brother passed away a few years ago, and the relationship between mother and sister-in-law has always been disagreeable, the burden of caring for the elderly can only be borne by herself.
My mother is relatively strong, and she always speaks the same at home when she is young. Later, she is still the same when she gets older, but she can't figure out many things now, but she still wants everyone to do what she thinks. If everyone doesn't follow her, then she will be like a child, crying, making trouble, and hanging herself. Shame to lose your temper.
Now that she is paralyzed in bed, Aunt Zhang has to wash and cook for her every day, and she also regularly rolls over and massages her. After the operation, Aunt Zhang is already tired and sweating. Don’t look at Aunt Zhang’s meticulous service, but the mother doesn’t appreciate it at all. She always feels that Aunt Zhang treats herself badly, sometimes inexplicably scolding others, or when she has relatives and friends visiting, she deliberately speaks ill of Aunt Zhang and speaks of herself. Can not eat enough to wear warm, often abused.
Aunt Zhang is very angry, but what can be done? They say that old people are like children, let alone their own mother. What can be done?
Aunt Li,At the age of 68, he has 90-year-old parents and three or four-year-old grandchildren. Gu Lao can not take care of the young, and family conflicts arise.
Aunt Li is in a more difficult situation now, because she not only has 90-year-old parents and parents, but also three or four-year-old grandchildren, all of which require her to take care of her. Aunt Li is already overdrawn.
Aunt Li's parents actually have a son, but the family is far away, so they come back once a year. The parents did not want to go to other places to provide for the elderly when they were old, so they always lived in Aunt Li's house. Although Aunt Li's parents are healthy and able to go in and out freely, after all, she is old and can't be alone for a moment.
After others retired, they danced square dances, learned baking and tea art, etc. But Aunt Li has made herself a top, taking care of the two elderly people and the young grandchildren at the same time, and no one can let go. In this way, the daughter-in-law was still not satisfied. She always said that Aunt Li was not careful in taking care of the children, and also said that Aunt Li had contracted the responsibility for the elderly.
For this reason, the two sometimes quarreled a few words, the peaceful life became more and more restless, and the family conflicts accumulated more and more.
Aunt Huang, 68 years old, 95-year-old father suffers from dementia, and the family is demolished in a mess if he does not leave the body for care every day.
Although Aunt Huang can only take care of his 95-year-old father, this old man is like a mischievous child. It is simply too difficult to serve and control.
Aunt Huang's father is 95 years old. Aunt Huang and his sister took turns taking care of him a few years ago. But then the brother-in-law became seriously ill, and the sister no longer had the energy to take care of his father. So Aunt Huang took on the responsibility of caring for the elderly alone. Although the old man can walk and his body is still healthy, but he suffers from Alzheimer's disease, and sometimes he can't find him inadvertently.
This is not last month, when Aunt Huang was cooking, the range hood was noisy and she didn't hear the sound of her father opening the door. When she returned to the living room, the door was wide open and her father was nowhere to be seen. Aunt Huang hurriedly mobilized her relatives and friends to find her, but after searching for a long time, she didn't see a trace. In the end, she asked the public security department for help to find the old man.
Since then, Aunt Huang, in order to prevent her father from going out again,The door is often locked. My father couldn't go out and was uneasy at home. He either dismantled the sofa or broke the bowls and chopsticks. Sometimes he would cut the quilt and tear it into strips. Aunt Huang followed behind to clean up but couldn't clean it up, it was really miserable!
Written at the end: As the saying goes, "An old family is like a treasure", but the lives of the three aunts let us not look at the treasure, but only saw the life of a feather. My body is not very good, but I have to bite the bullet to take care of the elderly.
Although it is very hard and even increases family conflicts because of this, no matter what, we can't give up supporting the elderly. After all, they are their biological parents. When we were young, our parents gave us endless love, accompany us to learn to talk and accompany us to learn to walk. Now they are just like us when we were young, thinking in empathy, do we have any complaints and fears?
Besides, filial piety to your parents is our fine tradition. Even lambs know how to kneel their breasts. We should not talk about conditions when caring for our parents. We must know that our parents are a kind of happiness, and taking good care of our parents is to accumulate blessings for ourselves.
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