"No matter what reputation, status, happiness, or honor is in the world, it is not as good as staying with a mother, even if she does not know a word, even if she eats red all day long."- Ji Xianlin
mother, A sacred and great word. In ancient times, there was a story of Meng’s mother moving three times. The mother seemed to be a selflessly glowing candle, protecting the child to move safely in the dark, but also at the expense of herself.
In today's era, mothers are strong, children seem to be everything to women, children are everything a woman has firm conviction, and with conviction, she can fight all difficulties. In real life, there is such a mother who risked death and gave birth to a child, but also paid a high price because of her advanced age.
1. The old bereavement, the idea of having children
Sheng Hailin gave birth to a daughter when she was young. Her daughter was well-behaved, sensible, clever and clever, and was loved by the family as a pearl in the palm. Sheng Hailin was very happy when she watched her daughter grow up every day.
As time goes by, Sheng Hailin’s daughter has grown up. At the age of marriage, Sheng Hailin’s daughter soon found her love in life. The family is also busy with the marriage of Zhang Luo’s daughter. The baby daughter is married and has Live a happy and beautiful life.
Since then, Sheng Hailin has also started to live in the elderly. Her daily favorite thing is to dance the square dance, and go to see her at her married daughter's house every other day, hoping that her grandson will arrive sooner.
However, things did not develop in the direction she expected. After a year of marriage, the daughter of and her son-in-law had a car accident on their way home during the Chinese New Year. The two were sent to the hospital for emergency treatment, but they could not be rescued. Finally, the daughter left her .
Her world was dimmed, and her daughter's departure caused a deep blow to her. She no longer dances in the square, nor is she taking a walk with other old ladies, holding her daughter's photo to tears every day.
Who can afford to live with a white-haired person and send a black-haired person? Sheng Hailin closed her heart with her daughter's departure until she accidentally gave birth to the idea of having another child and accompanying herself.
With the careful company of her wife, Sheng Hailin suddenly thought of a test tube baby advertisement she had seen before, and she asked her wife if she wanted another one. After hearing her thoughts, her husband has always expressed disagreement. The risk of childbirth is too great.
But this idea has taken root in Sheng Hailin's mind , even if it has been medically proven that there is a great risk of giving birth to older women, even if her husband repeatedly refuses, she still wants to have another child.
2. The idea took root and decided to have a child
. At the beginning, Sheng Hailin wanted to adopt a child to accompany her and her wife. However, repeated consultations and attempts failed, Sheng Hailin planned to give birth to an IVF by herself.
For the medical technology at the time, the success rate of IVF was not very high, even if it is done, it may not be successful, but Sheng Hailin still decided to do it, regardless of her age or even physical condition.
Because of Sheng Hailin's age and physical condition is rather special , many hospitals refused to operate on her after consideration. After several toss, finally agreed to help her with IVF .
Sheng Hailin was looking forward to the IVF procedure. Fortunately, the operation was successful and Sheng Hailin was also pregnant. But pregnancy is a difficult task for women, let alone elderly women?
Sheng Hailin was already experiencing difficulties in the early stages of pregnancy. Because her body is not as good as when she was young, Sheng Hailin had to eat all the symptoms that appeared during pregnancy.Painstakingly.
finally got through to production. During the production process, Sheng Hailin's spirit could not support her to do such a difficult task. The mental exhaustion and sudden heavy bleeding made the doctors and nurses present tremble. Sheng Hailin persisted desperately for her children.
Fortunately, the mother and child were safe, and the wife outside the delivery room finally breathed a sigh of relief. After giving birth, Sheng Hailin was actively doing rehabilitation with her wife. Although recovered very slowly after giving birth, she felt it was worth seeing the twins.
After being discharged from the hospital, Sheng Hailin took care of the twin sisters carefully. watched the sisters grow up little by little. Sheng Hailin saw the long-lost hope in her heart. It was the comfort she found in the twin daughters after the eldest daughter left.
3. Powerless, regretful
Children grow up day by day, Sheng Hailin began to realize that raising children really requires a lot of money and energy . After recovering, Sheng Hailin returned to work soon. She knew in her heart that it was not enough to raise a child on her own pension of more than 10,000 .
In order to make a living, she returned to work in the hospital , but this is far from enough, so Sheng Hailin went to talk about profound and unpopular knowledge all over the country, and after a lecture, she can get nearly four to five thousand benefits.
rushes with her wife every day on the way to make money and raise children, day after day, it is very hard, she finally understands that it is difficult to have children, and it is even more difficult to raise children. Later, her incident was known to the media. Many reporters asked her: "As an advanced parturient, do you have any discomforts now?" Of course, the answer is yes. Older parturients are slow to recover from their body, and they are getting older. It was somewhat incapable of doing things, and his physical condition was getting tired day by day.
and some media statistics Sheng Hailin spends only 30% of her daily working hours with her children. She spends the remaining 70% at work. After giving birth, she does not spend more time with her children, instead Stop working.
knows that Sheng Hailin, who spends too little time with her children, also feels guilty. Indeed, she does not spend too much time with the children. So Sheng Hailin put aside part of her work and spends more time with the children to grow up together. Although a life like
is a bit tired, life is full of children’s laughter and the company of my wife, which is full and happy. But this happiness disappeared soon. The wife of
had a stroke. Sheng Hailin had no choice but to hire two nanny, one to take care of her wife and the other to take care of the children. Faced with the pressure of life, she had to arrange her work again. She told herself that she could not fall down, and she still had her family to take care of.
Today’s Sheng Hailin is in her 70s. She loses weight every day. She has to take care of three people and make money. All the pressure is placed on her. At this time, began to regret it, and she regretted it because of a temporary impulse. The status quo.
Faced with high-intensity pressure, she also thought about giving up, but she did not dare. The children are still young, she can't imagine what kind of life they will lead if she is gone one day, she wants to spend more time with her children.
Nowadays, her work is also decreasing, and many offline lectures have also become online. She finally does not have to travel around the world, she spends a lot of time with her children and husband. It seems that no matter how hard it is, it is worthwhile .
She regrets in her heart, but she does not regret giving birth to them, but is afraid that she will not be able to grow up with them. Her biggest wish is to watch the children get married and have children.
She loves her children very much, and the children are very sensible, which makes Sheng Hailin feel very happy in her heart. Maybe life is like this, you know how warm and cold you are. Maybe in our opinion she is very hard, but where she is, she is very happy.
Summary:
maybe when you are old, you will find out how happy it is when you have two people with you. Sheng Hailin's life has never stopped. Since the daughter left, his wife helped her out a little bit, and when she was most helpless, it was his wife who accompanied her. After
later became an elderly woman, although her life was harder than before, she had to take care of two children at the same time, and her old-age life became a struggling life, , but she was happy in her heart and her life was fulfilling. After his wife has a stroke, she will never leave and take care of her as best she can. This is the happiness of companionship.
Maternal love is the warmest sunshine in the world. They use selfless love to accompany us to grow up. Even if they make themselves sweat, they still do not regret it. For them, children are everything in their lives, and they will get old one day. At that time, what they hope most is just a phone call and a company. If you haven't been home for too long, , remember to go home, someone is waiting for you.
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