Xiaopan丨Emotional Essay Series Xiaopan Talking about Love Signing the original author
In marriage, loyalty is the most valued. For love, almost everyone has different degrees of cleanliness, whether it is psychological or psychological , Feel that the one you love must not betray your words and deeds.
There are too many temptations in society nowadays. All kinds of information are sent to everyone through the Internet without being filtered. Even as an adult, because everyone has different self-control, the way they cope with temptation is also different. different.
Some people face temptation, fail to keep their bottom line, and fail to fulfill their promise of loyalty to their partners, and finally lose their family and the person they once wanted to protect.
There are betrayals in marriage. Some people say that there have been countless times once, because people who have chosen to give up their loyalty to love will not really repent. Does that mean that they must be divorced in the face of betrayal? When Ms.
sits in the coffee shop, she looks very lonely alone. This is a very gentle woman. She is well-dressed and looks very calm in her every move. She feels very comfortable.
But she is such a temperamental woman who has experienced her husband’s betrayal. However, in the face of her husband’s infidelity, she said to me: "I forgive him." Of course,
was about to say something. Ms. Jiang went on to say: "But I have been a little unhappy these years. Maybe he and I will never go back." Ms. Jiang is 38 years old this year, and her husband is 4 years older than her. This is a standard success. People, two people have been married for ten years, and today's life is not turbulent, only plain.
There is almost no communication between the two people every day except for the children and the elderly. But the husband will go home for dinner every night. As long as he is not busy, he will accompany the children and help with the housework. Ladies bring gifts.
It stands to reason that such a man can be regarded as the good man many women dream of, but it is also such a "good man" that severely hurt Ms. Jiang's heart four years ago. In that year, Ms. Jiang was busy in her studio. She was already busy at work, and her children needed to be taken care of. It was when she started primary school, so Ms. Jiang hired a young female nanny and said It is actually a little inappropriate to be a nanny, because she still needs to tutor the child’s homework and also take care of the child and Ms. Jiang’s husband’s life. Because
is very good, Ms. Jiang gave her a salary increase after a few months of observation, but in the end, what Ms. Jiang didn’t expect was that it was this person who was under the nose and got along with her husband. . After
came back early from a business trip, Ms. Jiang tiptoed open the door because she was afraid of waking up her son who should have been asleep, but found that her son was not in her room. At this time, she heard familiar and embarrassing messages from the master bedroom. sound. The moment
opened the door, Ms. Jiang couldn't believe her eyes. The two people in front of her were extremely embarrassed. Ms. Jiang turned and left the bedroom. Then, the nanny said sorry and ran out, while the husband knelt. In front of myself.
Faced with her husband’s apology and explanation, Ms. Jiang didn’t even hear what he was saying, but in the end the husband mentioned his son. Ms. Jiang’s hearing seemed to recover. She looked at her crying husband, nothing. Said, turned and walked out.
found a hotel. Ms. Jiang stayed at home. After thinking about it for a full week, she finally made a decision. For the old-fashioned reason, in order to give her children a complete home and forgive her husband who made mistakes. The family at
has returned to its usual appearance. Ms. Jiang repeats her previous work and life every day, taking care of her children, filial piety to the elderly, and when her husband has a wine bureau, he will still boil a bowl of sober soup for him, but the atmosphere is always unpleasant. same.
Facing her husband’s physical touch, Ms. Jiang would feel nauseous inexplicably; she never checked her husband’s cell phone before, but now every time she hears her husband’s cell phone ring, Ms. Jiang panics, even several times When her husband took a bath, she did the most disdainful thing ever, peeking at her husband's cell phone.
No matter how courteous her husband is, how she wants to make up for the mistakes she made, Ms. Jiang feels that she will not be able to go back, because as long as she thinks about the scene that day, she will still be unable to face her husband normally.
z0Ms. Z Jiang couldn't connect the husband in front of her with the man who promised herself at the wedding. She didn't know what was wrong with herself, which made her husband bored.
I believe that there are many women like Ms. Jiang. In marriage, facing the person who once loved each other very well, even if they know that they will never go back to the past, they still choose to maintain this marriage and keep this family intact.
may be for the underage children, or for the elderly in the family not to be anxious to get angry, but only wronged himself. Even if he tried to make up the cracks in the relationship, he found it difficult.
Faced with the betrayal in marriage, some women choose to be hysterical, to die with each other, and some women choose to close their eyes, as long as the financial power of the family is still in their own hands, as long as the heart of the husband is still at home, then There is no need to distinguish between right and wrong.
It’s just that, no matter which way, the woman’s heart is still severely pierced with a knife. Even if she still laughs like before, even if she still maintains the normal operation of the family, the lump in her heart is still unresolved. open.
is like Ms. Jiang. Maybe she will choose not to divorce for the sake of her children. But what cannot be denied is that she will have a torment in the following days, because her husband’s betrayal means depriving her of Belief in love, if one loses faith, then the passion and love for life will also disappear.
Therefore, in a betrayal marriage, the estrangement will always exist. Even if the rift in the heart is repaired, the scar will not disappear.
Even if the two people are polite on the surface and neither say anything, they know in their hearts that they will never return to the intimacy they once were, and that person is no longer the closest and most trusted person to him.
returns to the essence of love and marriage. Although it is said that husbands and wives should not be too candid, it will be more interesting to keep a little secret of their own, but they are all based on loyalty to each other.
There is no room for trifling in marriage, and even one mistake cannot be accepted, because once you choose to betray, the balance in your marriage will be broken.
Being loyal to marriage, loving the person in front of you well, is also cherishing the fate bestowed by God.
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