Text: Zheng Shaoyuan May my words warm you ~
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The famous writer Yi Shu once said this sentence:
marriage has nothing to do with love. People always think that after love matures, they get married naturally, but they don’t know that marriage is just A way of life in which everyone can get married. It is very simple. And love is another matter entirely. The meaning of
marriage is that you should find someone who can accompany you throughout your life, rather than find someone who can make do with each other. These two methods determine the different directions of marriage.
Some people say that marriage is plain and boring, and it is the grave of love. How many couples get married because of love, but after entering the marriage, love is gradually obliterated by the trivialities of life, and replaced by a stagnant marriage life.
This is also a place where many couples feel helpless. After entering the marriage, they realize that the marriage is not as good as they thought. Because they don't know how to manage the marriage, they can only let the problems occur frequently in the marriage and the relationship between the couples gradually fades.
In fact, many of these problems exist in marriages. The important thing is how couples should avoid them or how to solve them.
I have been thinking, if it can be eliminated from the source, will marriage be better? Facts have also proved that marrying a different person has a different marriage life.
If you marry a person who is suitable for you, your marriage life will often go smoothly; but if you marry a person who is not suitable, frequent problems in your marriage are also expected.
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Yuling announced in Moments not long ago that she and her husband Yu Bin had divorced and ended their five-year marriage. Hearing this news, friends around him were all talking about it, and they didn't understand what happened, so that Yuling could take the initiative to ask for a divorce from Yu Bin. The marriage of two people
was not favored by those around me from the beginning. Because the difference between the two people's family circumstances is too great, they belong to the wrong type of household.
Yuling's family background is not bad, her parents are state-owned enterprise employees, and she is the only child in the family, so she has been favored by her parents since she was a child, and her parents will try their best to satisfy her almost anything she wants.
Yu Bin's family is very poor. His hometown is in a remote mountain village. Both his parents are farmers and they rely on farming for a living. He has an older brother and an older sister, and there are many children in his family, so he has always been poor.
Yu Bin, as the only college student in the family, was given to the university by the whole family. After graduation, he relied on his own efforts to enter a state-owned enterprise, and it was here that he met Yuling.
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Yu Bin is a relatively good person among the same group of people who entered the company. He has strong working ability and self-motivated. Compared with his peers, he can endure hardships, so he is highly used by leaders.
Yu Bin has a relatively mature personality. Yuling feels that she feels safe to be with him. Coupled with being attracted by his external advantages, Yuling falls in love with him hopelessly.
As the saying goes: women chase men's compartment yarn. Soon the two got together. Through a period of time together, Yuling also learned that Yu Bin’s family situation was not good, but she didn’t care about it. She felt that it was enough for two people to have love together, and nothing else matters. .
In this way, two people fell in love for a year, and they were about to get married.
However, this marriage was opposed by Yuling's parents. The parents felt that Yu Bin's family situation was not good, he was a Phoenix man, and his daughter would endure hardships when she married him.
But Yuling couldn't listen to the persuasion of her parents. She insisted on marrying Yu Bin and did not hesitate to fall out with her parents. In desperation, the parents had no choice but to agree to this marriage.
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After getting married, the two together made up a down payment and bought a house. She started her life of repaying the loan every month. Although life was relatively hard, Yuling was confident at the beginning. One year after
got married, Yuling became pregnant. Yu Bin said that she wanted to take her parents over to take care of her, but in fact, Yu Bin just wanted to take her parents over to live with her. After all, he has been secretly subsidizing his parents and siblings over the years, and because of this, Yuling and his life have always been very difficult. After
's parents-in-law moved in, Yuling felt more pressure. After all, she had two more mouths to eat, and it made the originally not spacious house more crowded. After the child is born, the familyThe expenses are getting bigger and bigger, and the couple is almost moonlight. Yu Bin's parents cannot count on them to subsidize them, and Yuling has to feed them every month. In desperation, Yuling had to go back to her family's home to ask for money.
's parents were really angry and distressed for this daughter, but they couldn't bear to watch her suffer, so they had to subsidize her some money.
Yuling also felt sorry for her parents, and she began to wonder if she was right to marry Yu Bin. Because of her marriage these years, she has also discovered that Yu Bin only values his native family, and has become a shopkeeper for his own small family, relying on Yuling alone to support it.
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Faced with such a Phoenix man who is not in harmony with him, Yuling is angry and anxious. The couple quarreled because of this incident, and their feelings became weaker and weaker. Had it not been for the child, Yuling would have divorced Yu Bin long ago.
is not only that, but Yu Bin is also very vain. Some relatives and friends in his hometown felt that he married a city rich daughter and thought he was very promising, so they would often go to the city to borrow money from him, or just ask him to do things.
, but Yu Bin, a foreigner who is not so capable, finally asked Yuling's parents.
Yuling's parents would help out at first, but later found out that Yu Bin's relatives and friends were a bit greedy, and Yuling's parents didn't want to care about them. Unexpectedly, Yu Bin became angry with Yuling because of this incident, saying that she was useless and saying bad things about her parents. Yuling was angry but quarreled with him many times.
And this year’s New Year, Yu Bin went too far. He brought his eldest brother and eldest sister’s family to the house. The whole family huddled in Yuling’s house and stayed for more than half a month, and Yuling was responsible for the expenses. What's even more exaggerated is that Yu Bin actually boasted that he wanted to raise his nephew in Haikou, saying that he had covered the living expenses of his nephew since childhood!
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Yuling was angry but quarreled with him, because Yu Bin was not bragging, but really gave his elder brother money every month.
Yuling doesn't understand, her family is already so tight, and the quality of life has not been high, but you still have to supplement others. She angered Yu Bin: I can raise your parents, and how can I raise your nephew? Does he have no parents?
didn't expect Yu Bin to be plausible: that is my family, you marry me, it is my family member, it is natural for the family to help each other. Don't be so stingy!
Yuling looked at this unrepentant Phoenix man and completely lost confidence in this marriage. She felt that she was not married to Yu Bin alone, but to his entire family. Being responsible to everyone in his family, this kind of life imagination shuddered.
In the end, Yuling resolutely chose to divorce Yu Bin and ended this tragic marriage.
In fact, the biggest problem with a woman marrying a Phoenix man is the original family of the Phoenix man. He cannot give up the original family. After a woman marries them, she will fall into the abyss of poverty-relief marriage.
Therefore, I would like to advise women all over the world to never marry a Phoenix man for the happiness of their marriage.
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