text/Mo Ran
On the topic of love, many people only focus on "love", but ignore the most important things. In fact, the most important thing in a relationship is not love, but yourself.
There are problems in any relationship, breakup, escape, cold violence, and suspicion. This is not just a problem with love, but a problem with oneself.
In love, not only love is important, but you are also important. Only when you have yourself and love your complete self can you love others better.
When a relationship breaks, love disappears, and self has no face. As a result, many people fell into pain, began to disbelieve in love, became restrained, cautious and even indifferent. In fact, this is not the fault of love, it is more of self.
Because of any good love, only when you express your true self and complete love, can love go on deeply and firmly.
Only when you have yourself can you have love, and only when you are independent can love be more harmonious. Many feelings cannot come to the end. In fact, the key issue is not "love" but "self".
01,
We all know that a long-term relationship is built on the basis of balance, and only evenly matched love will go on for a long time.
If one party loses balance, it will naturally not be able to maintain emotional independence, and it will lose control and cannot get along normally.
A person is incomplete and not real enough to truly love each other. If you cannot enjoy love independently, you will eagerly want to have love. Once you grasp it too tightly, you cannot bear it, you cannot really come together and understand each other's hearts.
So by studying the psychological changes of a person, a person becomes indifferent from falling in love to breaking up. Love is other people and feelings disappear. This is a process and psychological change.
And how this process occurs, in fact, more of it is caused by "self". For example, you will quarrel about something, whether you can understand each other and be independent at a critical time. The more sensitive things
is, the more you have to start with yourself, learn to think, and think in other places.
The more a person is in a downturn, the more he must recognize himself and reality. Only by reshaping understanding and self-building from an objective perspective can this relationship be more comforting and lasting.
So, love is not enough for feelings, it is more about starting from oneself.
02,
By studying the psychology of breaking up, you can analyze your state of being together, so that you can understand each other's thinking more clearly and understand why the other person has such thoughts.
A person's experience itself does not actually make people grow, only the understanding and cognition afterwards can make a person see the problem clearly. If you encounter problems in a relationship like
, you should recognize yourself correctly. Start with self-building. Breaking up is not a problem. The important thing is whether you realize why you have such problems in the process.
The breakup of a relationship is actually affected by many factors, but the most important thing is your self-cognition, which affects your entire life.
encounters problems first, not complaining, but recognizing the facts and learning to give emotional first aid to yourself.
can change one's cognition and thinking through some things in life and reduce excessive complaints about things.
To know that there is a problem, complaining is the most useless thing. A relationship will break up, never created in a day, it is the result of accumulation over time.
may initially break up and make you fall into a downturn, making you lose confidence in life, but keeping this state will not solve any problems. The important thing is to discover the problem from this incident and understand the reason, otherwise the next time will still have the same ending.
Appropriate abandonment and methods, reduce the attention to each other, examine yourself with a new perspective, and find each other's problems are the best way to solve your relationship.
03,
In fact, many times, when two people break up together, they will feel that the other person does not love themselves, but ignores whether it is themselves. Since
is separated, don’t question love or not, butYou have to re-understand your relationship from a psychological perspective, break away from the perspective of your lovers, and take your relationship seriously.
Since a person chooses to leave, it will not be all because of love, but more because there is no meaning of love in you.
can only recognize this, re-understand yourself, reinvent yourself, learn to accept yourself, rethink your life, make the right choices, and take your relationship seriously.
Therefore, the separation of any relationship is never the reason for one person, in fact, it is more to learn to recognize yourself.
Many feelings can’t come to the end, in fact, it’s not that you don’t love each other anymore, but because you don’t love yourself anymore. Without yourself, others won’t love you. You can’t see where he is worthy of love. Naturally let go.
through this psychological analysis, in fact, can make the men and women in the hands of the separation, more clearly understand the reasons for each other, instead of blindly complaining about each other's lack of love.
recognize yourself, then make corresponding changes, find yourself, and regain your confidence in love.
