As the implementation date of the "divorce cooling-off period" is approaching, everyone's attention to it has also continued to increase.
Some people are skeptical: "Is it necessary to set a cooling-off period for divorce, but few people file for a divorce unless it reaches the unbearable step." Some people at
also expressed support: "Some people divorce like having a family. Just like home, remarrying after a long absence, and then divorcing, the cooling-off period can reduce the occurrence of this kind of things."
Some people also say: "I think there are more impulsive marriages than divorce. Most marriages are impulsive and divorced. Most of them are well thought out." Xiaopiao saw the most popular sentence:
Compared with the divorce cooling-off period, marriage requires a cooling-off period.
Xiaopiao agrees with this sentence.
Indeed, marriage is a combination of emotions, but marriage also includes many other important components, such as economy, family, children...
you who were or are preparing to enter marriage, have thought about Planning for the future, or how to manage the common life after marriage?
Are you really ready for marriage?
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What causes us to enter into marriage with the person in front of us?
Many people will say that it is love, which has become the most important issue before they get married.
However, after two people get married, they are more about all kinds of trivial things in life. If they are not handled properly, they may become the fuse of marriage discord.
Therefore, it is very necessary to have an in-depth understanding of each other before marriage.
When we deeply understand each other's hearts and have a clearer understanding of each other's thoughts, we can effectively avoid or resolve conflicts that may arise after marriage.
This is a better way to reduce the divorce rate.
So, what issues should we be clear about before marriage?
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"The New York Times" published an article about "15 Questions Before Marriage" , which covers many aspects such as marriage goals, married life, and major factors that may affect the quality of marriage.
Today, Xiaopiao will share these issues with you.
Both spouses before marriage or during marriage can communicate on these issues, which can effectively promote your understanding of each other!
Question 1: Do we want children? If so, who is mainly responsible?
An important part of marriage is the child, and many contradictions arise from this.
If you have different ideas about whether to have children, how many children you want, and how to raise them, it is easy to have big disputes.
Therefore, you can communicate on this topic before getting married and understand each other's thoughts clearly.
Question 2: What are our earning power and goals? Will there be conflicts between consumption and savings views?
When we are in love, perhaps we rarely talk about money, but value love.
After getting married, it has to be implemented in all aspects of life, and the concept of money has become a very important issue.
Many marriage problems have focused on the issue of "money".
Women complain that men have no money, men complain that women are greedy for money and only talk about money... It is very necessary for
to have an in-depth understanding of this before marriage.
Question 3: How to maintain our family? Who will control the possible risks? In short,
is: "Who is in charge." When
is in love, men will often say: "Everything is the wife and the adult has the final say." After marriage,
becomes: "It's up to you to decide. , How is love..."
A harmonious and stable marriage necessarily requires both husband and wife to take responsibility.
Question 4: Have we exchanged the disease history of both parties in detail? Including spiritual.
For some major, hereditary or fertility diseases, it is necessary to understand and be honest before marriage.
If you conceal it before marriage, it is likely that your partner will lose confidence in you.
Question 5: Have the attitudes of our parents met our expectations? Will you give enough blessings? If not, how do we face it?
Love is the foundation of marriage, and marriage also needs to face more problems, especially each other's family.
If both parents are dissatisfied before marriage, it will easily affect the living conditions of the new family afterwards.
Question 6: Do we speak naturally and honestly about our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
On sexual issues, Chinese people have always been more reserved, but because of this, many couples lack communication on sexual needs.
doesn't know what each other wants, and he is ashamed to say what he thinks, which also affects the emotional integration of the couple.
Question seven: Can a TV set in the bedroom of ?
For this problem, it is mainly for the difference in the living habits of both parties.
Many times, the main quarrel in marriage comes from trivial things:
dirty socks are thrown at random;
toothpaste cover is not covered;
I am used to going to bed early and you want to sleep late
......
A careful understanding of the life habits of the other half, and running in, communicating with each other's needs, is very beneficial to the establishment of our emotional relationship.
Question 8: Can we really listen to what the other person says and treat each other's thoughts and complaints fairly?
In a happy marriage, both spouses know how to empathize.
understands the differences in thinking between men and women, communicates effectively, and finds a good way of communication, which can effectively reduce conflicts and solve a large part of the problems in life.
Question 9: Do we clearly understand each other’s spiritual needs and beliefs? Have we discussed children’s future education models and beliefs?
If you have faith, you need to ask.
Question ten: Do we like and respect each other's friends?
Social issues after marriage are also one of the sources of contradictions. As for how friends of each other should establish boundaries to get along, reaching an agreement in advance will reduce a lot of conflicts.
Question 11: Can we value and respect each other's parents? Have we considered that our parents might interfere in our relationship?
We usually say: "To marry someone is to marry a family."
When parents come to interfere in our lives, the attitude held by the other half is very important.
If such a situation occurs, how to solve it.
presets and understands the other's ideas in advance, and can also avoid conflicts in advance.
Question 12: What is the most upsetting thing about my family?
In fact, many conflicts after marriage also come from this. Before marriage, two people can ask each other such problems, and communicate and solve them.
Question 13: What is the thing we will never give up because of marriage?
After we get married, we all expect each other to contribute and change for ourselves.
So on this issue, what is the bottom line between you and the other party?
can try to understand, so that you can judge whether you can accept or tolerate yourself.
Question fourteen: If one of us needs to leave his family to work for some time in order to develop a career, can we be loyal?
Whether you are clear about the future development direction and whether you can reach an agreement is very important for maintaining a family in the future.
Question 15: Are we confident that we will face any challenges to keep the marriage going?
Hold your heart and ask your heart!
Love is beautiful, marriage is prudent.
When you decide to go from love to marriage, you might as well exchange the answers to these 15 questions with your partner.
When you re-examine your love, and make long-term and beneficial plans for this, I believe that when you really enter marriage and face these problems, you will not be so panicked.
hope that everyone will not get married because they are about to die, or divorce because of impulse. Divorce requires calmness, and please be prepared for marriage.
hope you can continue to love in marriage!
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