who raise the issue of "marrying away" from time to time. If you meet a man who loves you very much, would you choose to marry away?
No matter how deep the feeling is, I don't want it. why? There is a saying: "I heard that if you marry away, you have nine regrets!"
Some people think that you do not love each other enough, and someone who loves enough will overcome all obstacles and be with each other forever. But real problems are not something you can work hard to solve. Just like you may not get 100 points in the exam after you study hard, everyone has the right to choose their own love and marriage partner, but not every choice can be done. In the end, there will always be a choice for you to change yourself for various reasons in life.
There are four very realistic reasons for marrying away . I believe that many girls who marry away have this sad feeling:
1. Diet and living habits are difficult to run together.
When you are in love, you see each other incompletely. In many lives The little details and living habits of the people cannot be understood because they are not living together. It takes time to adapt to the unfamiliar environment. After marriage, it is not necessarily just the world of two people. If you live with each other’s family, you also need to take into account the feelings of the whole family. Take the typical North-South difference as an example. Staple food, and northerners use pasta as their staple food. In order to take care of the tastes of the whole family, you may have to prepare 2-3 kinds of staple food for a meal;
Some people like spicy food, even if it is spicy, you should take care of the whole family You can be left to you once or twice, but getting married is always a lifetime event. Of course, if you meet your parents-in-law, you are really lucky; some people are used to leaving windows for ventilation when they sleep, and some People are not accustomed to sleeping with windows open, especially in two places with obvious climate differences. For example, the house in the north is icy and snowy, but the house is full of heating, while it is completely different in the south. Some places cannot see snow in winter, and some places There was only a thin layer of snow. There are also various ethnic groups with their own different traditional customs and cultures, which are required to follow the customs and accept them once they are married.
2. Far away from my parents and hometown
The most heard about "distant marriage" is that my parents raised me up, but now I can’t stay with them to fulfill my filial piety, and I can’t always be with them when I miss my parents. When you go back to visit, your parents are sick. The only thing you can do is to get more information on the phone. If you have certain financial conditions, you can leave with a ticket for a high-speed rail trip. No matter how convenient the transportation is, then if Are the economic conditions bad? Moreover, no matter what your financial conditions are, no father-in-law wants you to go back to your natal family frequently; and as a parent, no one wants their children to marry away from home.
. There is nowhere to go when quarreling.
The lives of two people after marriage inevitably bump into each other. As time goes by, the relationship is better for decades, but in case you find that there are more and more differences between the two people, Life is becoming more and more boring. Even the best relationships can have quarrels. It may be just a trivial matter. Maybe you think that matter is not important, but he thinks it is very important. They are unwilling to give in and quarrel. What should I do if I can't make a payment? It's you who are married far away, and there are no familiar relatives or friends there. I am afraid that the other party's parents and your own colleagues are the most common. What can you do? When you get married, your parents-in-law and your parents-in-law will say that you are our daughter and family when you marry. But when the two quarrel, they don’t help him to judge you. The sentence "relies on yourself for everything" is not for nothing. of.
Call your parents to talk to them. Your parents will worry about whether you are being bullied, they want to support you, want to protect you and accompany you, but can they rush to your side as soon as possible? If people are not around, calling and opening a video can’t solve the feeling of loss in my heart; I want to go to my best friend for a while, but they don’t take a taxi or take a bus or drive for 20 to 30 minutes. The grievance at that time was It's really hard to tell.
4. Constantly increasing the sense of loneliness
No one wants to have more and more sense of loneliness throughout his life, and the love that the other half can give is always limited. No matter how much he loves you and loves you, he will not be able to empathize with the suffering of being far away from your heart. After a long time, there will always be dissatisfaction and grievances in my heart. I want to meet three or five friends to go shopping for dinner, but I feel a little worse after changing to a strange city.My friends will gradually become more distant from their former relatives and friends, and the feeling of missing their hometown at this time is self-evident.
The grievances of marrying far away are only known to the girls who marry far away. When they decide to marry far away, they may have really met the person who can promise and act to be good to her for a lifetime, or they may firmly believe that marrying will help them. Love that is always happy, a lifetime so long, how can you guarantee how the future marriage will go on? Indeed, there are also girls who marry away who are married to someone who loves to marry you and makes her happy forever, but after all, they are only a minority.
Tu Lei said: "Women marry men far away, and most men are too selfish. The result is usually a tragedy. It is not worth it to let you marry a man who loves to go to another country." I think it is right. If you must choose far When you marry a foreign country, you really have to think carefully and understand the other party’s family, living habits, cultural customs and other issues in advance! Most of the girls who marry far away I met are not so happy. No matter what makes you choose to marry away, whether it is because the two people love each other or impulsively, the choice is made by yourself. The road is to go, so if the girls who encounter this problem can marry not far away, don't marry far away. I hope all girls will meet the other half who will join you in your life and make you happy!
