The divorce rate in big cities today is on the rise, especially in super first-tier cities like Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Among them, on the one hand, people are paying more and more attention to their own feelings, but on the other hand, it makes the topic of marriage face greater challenges.
The relationship between husband and wife can be said to be the key to the success of the marriage. A good relationship between husband and wife will make both people have a better attitude and make the family more stable.
Bad relationship between husband and wife will not only bring great psychological torture to the husband and wife, but also bring many negative effects to the child. These characteristics are reflected in the child.
1. Children will have some inferiority
Nowadays, there are more and more children in single-parent families, and society is becoming more and more tolerant. Many people can face the divorce of their parents rationally, and society no longer makes a fuss.
However, parental disharmony often hurts children deep in their hearts. If you have been accustomed to all-day quarrels and even hands-on between your parents since childhood, children who grow up in such an environment will first be very insecure, and even more pessimistic about feelings.
And children who grow up in such negative emotions will definitely have an inferiority complex. According to psychologists, because children face discordant parental feelings from an early age, children will form a brand of personality in the process of growing up. In addition to emotional depression, the feeling that oneself is inferior to others is also very obvious.
Even after growing up, this feeling of inferiority often accompanies the child's life. The most obvious manifestation is the lack of self-confidence, and this characteristic often affects the child's own development in society.
2. Children will be somewhat rebellious
In addition to low self-esteem, but when the family is very unharmonious, there is often another characteristic in the child’s character, which is rebellion.
is really used to seeing parents' quarrels, it will make children feel hostility in their young minds, and will feel hostile to the whole society. Under such circumstances, children will naturally develop a kind of unwillingness to listen to others. Rebellious psychology. Zhang Mo, the son of
film star Zhang Guoli, is a typical example. It stands to reason that he was born in such a family and his career should be smooth. But because of his parents' divorce since childhood, Zhang Mo's character has a great sense of rebellion.
The negative incident of beating his girlfriend nursery rhymes at school once became a major event reported by the media, which caused Zhang Mo to fall to the bottom. After Zhang Guoli's various efforts, Zhang Mo's career slowly started. But two years ago, he was exposed to a drug scandal by the media again, and his career was completely cool.
It can be said that the growth process of a child is inseparable from the parents, and the impact on the child will accompany the whole life.
3. The child does not want to stay at home, or even run away from home.
The emotional discord between husband and wife often brings about quarrels, fights, cold wars, etc. These discordant scenes can be said to be a serious negative for the growth of a child factor.
In the popular "Youth School" some time ago, Xueba Qian Sany is impeccable in learning. However, in the face of the long-term divorce between his parents, he will also choose when his mother has a disagreement about one thing. runaway.
This is actually the result of a long-term accumulation of negative emotions. Children will feel disgusted with this unwarm home, unwilling to go home, or even run away from home.
We can all imagine that if we have been in such a noisy and hostile family since we were young, how can we still have the warmth of the family, and how can we not give up on the family? Think about it in another way, and you can fully understand the child's psychology.
Marriage should actually be a sacred topic, and countless small families have formed this big world. The harmony and warmth of a small family can provide people with their own harbor. Whenever they are tired, suffering, or injured, they can rest and recover when they return to the harbor of family.
Therefore, for your children and parents, please review yourself more, try your best to maintain and manage your marriage, and give your children a warm home!
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