Many people are always habitual to please others in their marriage relationship, fearing that they are not doing well enough, and fearing that the other party does not like them, and always put the other party's feelings first, even if it makes them uncomfortable. The "pleasant personality" of
is always "sacrificing oneself and fulfilling others." Suppress one's true feelings at all times, don't refuse others' demands of oneself, and protect oneself from injury by catering to others. Z1z
They put a disguise on themselves and played a role that the other party would like, but their true selves were also covered up. But it was precisely this kind of flattering behavior that became the fuse for the disintegration of a relationship. Z1z
An American marriage mediator once said that in a large number of cases she had contacted, she found that in the intimate relationship of , all who sacrificed their lives and gave their lives were basically broken up or cheated. Z8z
is always habitual to please, because he wants to be recognized by others. If you don't get recognition, you will be very painful and very unconfident.
But the relationship is about equality. When your contribution is far greater than the other's needs, or the other party is unable to respond to your contribution, the energy between you will be out of balance. Z1z
So please remember anyway: if
is a relationship that is maintained by agreement, courtesy, and compromise, it will not last long. Z1z
But no matter how much you love someone, don't lose yourself.
