Marriage has always been a matter of willingness, forced buying and selling, or hastily married, it is difficult to be happy.
In the vast crowd, it is not easy to find a partner who can chat and eat together and play together. So for those girls who are very cautious in their relationships, I agree with them.
Marriage needs to be cautious, which is right, but if this kind of "cautiousness" is too much, it may also attract others' ridicule, and in the end not only lose love, but also lose face.
Some girls prefer to carry them. No matter how anxious they are to find someone, they will get up when they meet the suitor Faner, and they can't wait for people to treat themselves as their ancestors. gives gifts and accepts them again and again. Please eat occasionally. After dinner, you have to drag people to go shopping. When it comes to talking about marriage, you can wait and wait. Anyway, just doesn't let go, neither saying that it's appropriate nor inappropriate, just hanging people like this.
Zhao Jing is such a girl.
Zhao Jing is a former colleague of mine. She is 33 years old this year. As early as in her twenties, she clamored that she must find someone to marry herself. However, she has a high-sightedness, she feels that she looks good and works well, and she wants to find a rich man who treats herself well.
When we first met, there was a boy who chased her. He gave food and flowers every day. He persisted for half a year and suddenly stopped appearing. Later, I heard Zhao Jing said that although the boy was kind to her, he did not have money. Later, the boy felt that she despised herself, and gradually stopped being courteous.
It didn't take long for Zhao Jing to talk about a boyfriend again, and everyone met her standards, but the problem came again.
Zhao Jing said that a man like him who is a bit rich but not particularly rich spends the most money. He has to try and test it a bit to make sure that he really likes me. Then it is not too late for us to talk about marriage.
I have seen Zhao Jing’s boyfriend, named Qingbo, who came to work to take Zhao Jing to work. People look at him as a very gentleman, and they can see that they like Zhao Jing in every gesture.
Don't look at Zhao Jing at that time, but she was already 31, but she couldn't tell when she was standing with the 25-year-old girl. She was originally a heartless person, with no intentions and no worries. She would act like a baby in front of boys and eat Qingbo to death.
Qingbo buys things for Zhao Jing, and is used to sending them directly to the company, because Zhao Jing likes the feeling of being envied by others. She has a strong vanity, and Qingbo is used to her. Z6z
usually buys food, but Qingbo never pays for a single portion. When the colleagues see it, they all praise Zhao Jing for finding a good man.
often at this time, Zhao Jing will say: He is still in the stage of pursuing me, it is not certain whether he can succeed, don't talk nonsense.
Zhao Jing did not regard Qingbo as her boyfriend. Although she ate others and took flowers, she still went to the blind date.
said in her own words: Why can't I choose one more if the character hasn't been scratched, in case there is something more suitable than him.
is not good to say, between the two, Zhao Jing is a bit like a "fishing girl" and Qingbo is a bit like a "spare tire".
Zhao Jing loses her temper from time to time, Qingbo has to give gifts, coaxing and begging, the two can reconcile. The relationship between
is not a couple, and friends are not friends, and it lasted for more than a year.
During this period, Qingbo confessed several times that the ring was bought, but Zhao Jing refused to agree. Later, he took the ring amidst the roar of a friend, but refused to go back with Qingbo to see his parents.
Qingbo and Zhao Jing are the same age, both in their thirties. People from a traditional family background, their parents hope they can get married and have a baby soon.
In this kind of hopeless pursuit, Qingbo's enthusiasm is gradually consumed.
Zhao Jing and Qingbo quarreled half a year ago. The two had a cold war for several months. A colleague advised Zhao Jing to take a step back. Qingbo is a good person. Don't miss it in vain.
Zhao Jing rolled her eyes: "Grandma aunt is waiting for him to admit his mistake and beg me to reconcile. I am, if he comes to take the initiative to admit his mistake, I will marry him, and then I will invite you to have a wedding candy. "Z6z
After another two months, Zhao Jing couldn't hold back.
In fact, she feels that the best choice is QingboShi, wanted to take advantage of this quarrel to settle down and settle the relationship, but Qingbo didn't play the cards according to common sense.
Zhao Jing didn't panic until she saw the wedding invitation sent by Qingbo in Moments of Friends that day, but no matter how she messaged or called Qingbo, Qingbo just didn't reply.
Zhao Jing is angry, but she scolds Qingbo for being a scumbag. He chased me like a dog half a year ago. I'm getting married so soon. Maybe he would have stepped on two boats long ago. He must go on his wedding day. Making a fuss, let the bride see his true face.
Qingbo's wedding day, Zhao Jing really went, and brought two friends to curse the scumbag.
When she arrived, the bride and groom were welcoming guests at the door. Qingbo saw Zhao Jing and asked her to go in and sit down.
Zhao Jing feels particularly shameless, and confronts Qingbo in front of the bride: "I didn't expect you to be such a person. You like to step on two boats and chase me like a dog for two years. Why do you marry someone else? Give me an explanation. "Z6z
Zhao Jing made such a disturbance, and the guests gathered around.
Qingbo unceremoniously went back: "I have indeed chased you for almost two years. I invited you to dinner and gave gifts. I spent a lot of money for you. But you, , you want to find a long-term meal ticket. It’s not looking for a lover, I’m not stupid, you don’t respect me, why should I continue to give? My wife and I have known each other a long time ago. I used to be blind only to see you but not her, when I decided to give up on you In a moment, I know who is the one I want to cherish. is my wedding today, you can go in for a drink if you have nothing to do, and don’t give it away if you have something to do. If you want something, I’m not afraid of you. Just do it yourself! After
Qingbo said these words, the onlookers whispered, and those words reached Zhao Jing's ears, her face turned red and white, and she was extremely embarrassed. An aunt persuaded Zhao Jing: "Girlfriends go quickly, don't be treated as a joke."
In this way, Zhao Jing, who was about to tear the "scumbag" by hand, left after making a fuss about the suitor's wedding.
Zhao Jing, 33, does not know where her marriage is now.
Sometimes she regrets that if she caught Qingbo earlier, she would not end up where she is now. People are married and still single.
But in this world, the hardest thing to buy is regret medicine.
I don’t know if Zhao Jing wants to understand what marriage is all about. In her heart, getting married is like finding a new parent for herself. Not only must she be rich and able to support her, but she must also take care of her fragility at all times. soul.
However, she may never meet someone like Qingbo again in the future, and she has paid for her without any regrets.
The 33-year-old Zhao Jing, why has become an older leftover woman, there are two points to alert everyone.
That is: in the interaction between people, respect is the most important, whether it is dealing with feelings or dealing with other things.
Zhao Jing thinks she is very smart, and because of her good looks, she has always sneered at boys who like her, either thinking that others have no money, or that they are not sincere to her.
However, if you first be malicious to others, how much sincerity can you get.
People are not stupid. You are perfunctory about your enthusiasm for others, eating other people's and spending other people's food, but you are not willing to show your true feelings. People with self-esteem will give up.
This is one of them.
Second, to test others, is it not consuming yourself.
People like Zhao Jing have a paranoid fantasy about love, thinking that men have to treat her like Prince Charming in a TV series.
So, once you meet someone who pursues her, the first thing you think about is not whether I like the other person or whether we are suitable, but I want to test him.
Testing a relationship or a person is a time-consuming and laborious thing. The other party has passed your test, and everyone is happy. The other party has not passed your test, or has chosen a son in the middle, so there is nothing to lose yourself?
For older women, time waits for no one, how can there be so many people waiting for you to test, how many people can you test.
There is nothing wrong with being cautious about feelings, but don't overdo it and miss someone you want to cherish.
For good love, the relationship between the two parties should be equal. There is no one who is superior, and only this kind of relationship can be achieved.long.
hope that a girl like Zhao Jing can understand that when the right person appears, it is enough to stand with him calmly, bravely and firmly.
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