Modern people are becoming more and more savvy in marriage, very good at calculating, and less and less willing to commit.
At weddings, husbands and wives usually have a firm commitment to each other: no matter whether we are rich or poor, whether in good times or bad, we are willing to love each other unchanged until death separates each other.
If at the wedding, your lover said: The love for you depends on how you feel, I may not stay with you, if you feel bad, I will leave you.
Then I can assure you that you dare not marry each other or marry each other.
But modern people have become more and more savvy in marriage, very good at calculating, and less and less willing to commit.
People want to maximize their own interests before they get married, lest they will suffer. After getting married,
also calculates how much he pays and how much his spouse pays. If the spouse pays far less than his own, he does not want to pay any more and wants to stop the loss immediately.
These practices seem very clever on the surface, but they are not conducive to building a stable and happy marriage.
If there is no firm commitment in love and marriage, on the surface you are very free. You can see the wind and slip away if you want. But in fact, a relationship without commitment will also make your spouse and yourself feel insecure.
Because you can't stand a fight for your relationship, you can't do your best to save and repair your relationship. Think about a person who wants to slip away every day. How can you dedicate yourself to your spouse?
's firm commitment to your spouse ostensibly reduces your freedom. You have lost certain rights for this. You have to go on firmly with your spouse who you don't think is cute.
But because of this, when you no longer think about yourself, no longer calculate your own gains and losses, but think about the benefits of your spouse, think about how to dedicate yourself to your spouse, look less at yourself, look more at your spouse, your relationship Tends to become more profound and tough.
From this perspective, your commitment protects you and your spouse, and also protects your marital relationship. You lose your freedom and get more freedom. You lose your rights, but you get more marital happiness.
If you do not have a firm commitment to your spouse, you will end the relationship quickly and then move on to the next relationship.
In the next relationship, you are still calculating your gains and losses. When the passion decreases, you will get tired of the next spouse. In this cycle, you will keep breaking up and getting married.
In the end, you will find that the marriage model without commitment actually plays with you, but actually controls you.
You have lost more freedom in pursuit of freedom, and you have lost the right to happiness in pursuit of rights. Z2z
has a firm commitment to your spouse. It does not guarantee that you will be smooth sailing, nor that you will always want to be together.
But because of the existence of commitments, if we concentrate each other's energy and mind within the marriage, we will come up with more ways to repair the relationship and resolve the conflict.
From this aspect, a firm commitment to your spouse is actually the umbrella of marriage.
wishes everyone.
