I really hate such a set of fixed thinking. In this kind of thinking, as a woman, the quality of work is not important, but you should do housework at home, take care of children, and serve the elderly; as a man, you should not take care of family affairs , But should focus on work and earn money outside, only with money to support the family.
I think this kind of fixed thinking is very absurd, it is a moral kidnapping. We must know that married life is not a trifling matter. It is inevitable that there will be differences in the personality conditions, family background, and ideology of two people. It is precisely because of the differences that the married life is more complete.
In my opinion, people should take the initiative to jump out of this kind of fixed thinking. They should not be too demanding about what the other party "should" do in their relationships, but try to understand and respect each other. Only in this way can we go longer. If you blindly adhere to this traditional mode of thinking, then marriage may be a red light sooner or later.
Xiaole is a simple rural girl. She met Chenming when she was working in the city. Every time Chenming took the initiative to chat with Xiaole, Xiaole would blush. After Chenming's three months of hard work, Xiaole was right. Chenming opened his heart. In fact, Chenming's parents have always opposed their feelings because they disliked Xiaole as being in the countryside, but Chenming insisted on marrying Xiaole.
When Xiaole married Chenming, her in-laws’ attitude towards her has been very cold, but Xiaole is kind by nature and inherited the hard work of the rural people. Xiaole is responsible for all housework in the family, even though her mother-in-law spoke coldly to her, Xiao Le is still filial.
Her mother-in-law's high blood pressure suddenly committed that day. Despite her lack of strength, Xiaole immediately went down the 7th floor with her mother-in-law on his back. It was not until her mother-in-law got into the ambulance that Xiaole took a sigh of relief and took a sip of water. It is precisely because of Xiaole's selfless dedication that her mother-in-law's hostility towards her gradually disappeared, and the relationship between the two people is getting warmer.
Later, her mother-in-law suffered from frequent high blood pressure, which caused a stroke. After the stroke, the mother-in-law could not eat by herself. Xiaole fed it bite by bite. Sometimes the food was spilled on the mother-in-law’s clothes. Xiaole changed her mother-in-law's clothes without saying a word. The clothes, watching her daughter-in-law's every move, her mother-in-law was very moved. Although she couldn't say it clearly, the moving tears in the old man's eyes explained everything.
Xiaole took care of her mother-in-law for 7 years until her decent death. As the saying goes: "There is no dutiful son before the bed for a long time", but Xiaole has moved the neighbors, because in the past 7 years, she has taken care of her mother-in-law in the eyes of the big guys. Many peers admire Xiaole's mother-in-law and say she I found a good daughter-in-law.
However, there are unforeseen circumstances, and there are good times for people. Xiaole's father accidentally injured his leg while doing farm work, so he was admitted to the hospital. Because the parents are older, the mother must not be allowed to take care of this kind of thing, but Xiaole caught up with the busy period of work and was unable to take care of her father for a while, so she wanted her husband to take a few days of annual leave. The hospital takes care of his father, because Xiaole knows that her husband’s work is not too busy, so taking a few days off is not a problem at all.
But her husband’s attitude was surprising, and he refused very directly. The husband kept pushing that he was busy. Seeing that he said so, Xiaole revealed his fate. Seeing that he couldn't escape, he said angrily: "I am a big man, how can I be an escort." Xiaole also A little angrily said: "Why can't I do it? I took care of your mother for 7 years, did I have a complaint, why can't I let you take care of my dad for a few days now?" The
husband said more and more outrageous, he even pointed Xiaole said: "You are my daughter-in-law, take care of my mother. It is your duty to be a daughter-in-law, and it is your duty. Why should I take care of your dad? How can a son-in-law serve the old man? Do others read the jokes?" Xiaole's words completely angered Xiaole. She didn't expect her husband to be so gloomy. At this moment, her heart was completely cold, and she left the sentence "Let's get a divorce" and went out.
Later, the husband may realize that he was too serious and wanted to seek peace with Xiaole, but Xiaole, who was already chilled, did not agree and insisted on ending the marriage that was not worthy of her nostalgia.
After reading this story, I can't let it go for a long time. How could there be a man like Chenming in the world who could say such a thing so arrogantly, it is no wonder that Xiaole is chilling, and it is estimated that no woman can stand it.
Married life is not a reasonable place, and it is not a place where responsibilities and obligations can be distinguished. It requires two people to interact with each other.Only by understanding, helping and tolerating each other can we go further. No matter from which point of view, Chenming's actions are unforgivable and really embarrassing the male compatriots. Z2z
writes at the end, if you want to ensure that your marriage is happy enough, then don't "should" appear in your marriage.
