saw a video on the Internet. As a mother, she felt unspeakable indignation and sadness.
A man in Changsha fought with others in public. The other party called the police. The police contacted the wife of the assailant. The wife found out that the husband and others were actually trying to give a lover to his lover. However, for the 9-month-old child, she was crying. Husband intercedes, hoping that the victim can forgive her husband.
The other party insisted on seeing the beating man, and the wife said helplessly: "I can't find him either." The
police couldn't help asking: "Your husband won't go home at night?" The wife of
said, "He has some." When I don’t go home, I can’t control it. Once I control it, two people quarrel.” The policeman asked: “Is your husband and wife relationship a bit different?” The wife of
said angrily: “The child is still young. I am 24 hours a day. All my energy is spent on bringing the children."
The wife kept apologizing to the victim while she was winking. Although the other party said that you are not to blame for this matter, and that you are also the victim, the wife said, "No matter what, he is also a child. My father, now I have to face this matter too."
worried that the other party’s injury would worsen, and his wife repeatedly begged them to check their bodies first and promised that the other party would wait until the husband took care of this matter. Finally, the victim had to agree to go to the hospital first. Unexpectedly, the diagnosis was: a broken nose and surgery.
Until this time, the husband still couldn't get in touch. The wife kept calling and finally got in touch. The wife also asked him with concern if he had any alcohol. Don't drive if you don't wake up.
, who had waited all night for her husband finally came, and walked straight past his wife without squinting. He saw him in a suit and leather shoes, hands in his trouser pockets, and a woman behind him. Seeing this video of
, I felt unworthy for this wife. Some netizens couldn't see it. They left a message saying: "Is this an ancestor?" But I didn't expect the truth to be even more heartbreaking.
The wife could not become pregnant before marriage and did not hide her husband. Later, she had an IVF to give birth to a child.
weighed about 130 kg before giving birth, and his body deformed in the first month after giving birth.
For this young mother, she can’t live without the child who was finally able to get and the husband who went out to be chic. Both of them need her to take care of. His wife endured the humiliation and became the real victim behind this “fight” .
can't bear it, no need to bear it anymore: the 50-year-old aunt fled the "siege"
saw a video of a 50-year-old aunt traveling by car on the Internet in the past two days, and many people commented and admired her courage.
faced the camera, she said that the reason she traveled by car was because she wanted to escape the repressed marriage for many years.
In this troublesome marriage, the aunt earned her own money and spent it on her own. Her husband’s monthly salary of 4,000 yuan would not give her a share, and she also asked for the AA system to drive the car and the fuel for running. , The road and bridge fees, the husband will ask her.
Husband is so picky, he spends his own money and spends too much money to buy too much food for the family to eat, so the aunt wants to ask him and say it is broken and throw it away.
has been married for so many years, the aunt feels like a free nanny, she has to wash and cook for her husband every day. When she was young, in order to give her children a complete family, she had to bear it. When the child graduated, I took into account that the divorced child would not be able to find a partner, so I endured it again. After the daughter gave birth to a child, she brought her grandson. The three generations were in the same house. There were many differences, but for the sake of family harmony, she continued to bear it.
couldn't bear it, no need to bear it anymore. My grandson went to kindergarten, and the aunt said that she didn't want to go home to face her husband again, and she wanted to go out and see the open sky, so that the depression accumulated over a long period of time could also be relieved.
The 50-year-old aunt told the sad daily life of many women with unfortunate marriages, and she burst into tears. Some people at
said: "Traditional women, who didn't survive this way?"
all said, "Being a mother is strong", but a woman is a mother and a wife, but she is not the only one.
Husband fights and fights, young mother comes forward to deal with the aftermath, husband picks and chooses, and old aunt "flees" by car.
In the besieged city of marriage, how should women deal with themselves?
Marriage is unfortunately related to these three points.
01 Personal fear and low self-esteem is disrespect in the family.The root cause of
The husband ignores his wife and is picky and accusing the other half of the family. It was difficult for family members to respect properly before. For whatever reason, it can be boiled down to two points:
personal fear and low self-esteem.
We tend to be picky about the shortcomings of our family members. The fundamental reason is that we think that we are equal to them. A confident person can look at the defects from a correct perspective. If a person feels that his defects are incurable, he will have resentment and Express it:
either passively and unhappily resist;
either uses open violence and combative methods.
Therefore, for a married woman, the deeper reason behind the way her husband treats you is that he is expressing dissatisfaction with him. If he can bravely accept himself, he will be more likely to accept people around him. Husbands are not good to themselves. Many women think that they are not good enough. From this point of view, this is a misunderstanding of women's self-knowledge and must be completely discarded.
02 The trend of husband and wife relationship represents the balance established by their first cooperation.
There are many contradictions in marriage. Women can't control men, and men don't listen to women. Whose problem is it?
As the saying goes: "It's hard for an upright official to break housework." It means that everyone is right, but everyone seems to be wrong.
psychologists believe that: "The relationship and development process between two people actually represents the kind of balance they have established after their first meeting, but they will continue to change periodically." In simple terms,
means both parties in a marriage. , One party looks passive, but in fact this is the result of mutual influence between the two parties.
For example, if the husband does not go home at night, the wife cannot find someone. On the surface, it is because taking care of the children can't separate energy, but in fact she acquiesced to her husband's behavior of "not going home at night".
Psychologist Rudolf Drex brilliantly summarized the root cause of this phenomenon: If
does not have the indulgence brought about by obedience, the brutal behavior in marriage will not continue, and courage and self-esteem can stop such behavior.
Unfortunately, few people can realize the "contribution" of their obedience to the torture and the stimulating results of the way and structure of the two sides getting along.
03 Children should not be an excuse to maintain unhappy marriages
Feng Lun and Yu Minhong once discussed the issue of "Marriage without having children?" It’s difficult to maintain a marriage. To our surprise, both of them held "opposing" opinions. Yu Minhong said: "For unhappy marriages, children may be an excuse to maintain the relationship between husband and wife."
There are many reasons for women's misfortune in marriage, one of which is women's own powerlessness in the current life. In addition to the lack of knowledge, there is also a lack of ability.
is like the "wife" mentioned at the beginning of the article who came out to clean up the husband's aftermath. Her husband is kind to her, and she repays her through bottomless dedication. She can only endure the misfortune of life in silence. The book "Marriage: Challenge" of
believes that the less courage a person has, the worse the choice. Since then, he has looked for excuses more than opportunities. "Z1z
So, as a mother, don't over exaggerate your "sense of sacrifice". If you have the ability, you can get the life you want by changing yourself. If you don't have the ability, create this ability. Z1z
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