In the eyes of the public, only those who are knowledgeable, gentle and well-behaved are considered good girls in the traditional sense.
In addition, those unruly or maverick girls are very different from the definition of "good girls", so in our perception. They will all be classified as "bad girls".
From ancient times to the present, gentle, virtuous and good housekeeping have been the standard for a woman.
However, with the development of the times, people have become more tolerant of women's labels. Being lively is a good quality for a person, and not going with the flow is also a woman's personality.
People no longer stick to the traditional aesthetics, but accept women's various gestures more openly and inclusively.
However, the thoughts that remain in people's bones also influence men's choice of spouse to a certain extent.
Therefore, everyone does not understand the fact that men are more inclined to like "bad" women.
But in fact, this phenomenon is not just a rhetoric, but has a certain psychological basis.
"Bad" women are more likely to arouse men's desire to conquer.
Guan Juer in "Ode to Joy" has received strict etiquette management since childhood, and his words and deeds follow the demeanor of everyone.
So her character and character are undoubtedly the best candidate for wife, but in terms of love, she seems a little bit powerless. The opposite of
is her neighbor, Qu Xiaorong. This girl is unconstrained and unrestrained, daring to love and hate, cry when she is unhappy, laugh when she is happy, and go after someone she likes bravely. . These bold acts of
are something that Guan Juer can't even think of, but the other side has an advantage in the relationship between the sexes.
Because Qu Xiaogang never obeys anyone's orders step by step, even if love is something that many people will experience.
But she will not let herself fall into love easily, but will not put the other party in the center, let herself take the initiative from beginning to end. The
man has a primitive desire to conquer in his bones. Those that are easy to get will not be cherished by him, but those that seem tricky can stimulate his desire to conquer.
"Bad" women can more easily magnify their own advantages.
A very delicate vase is placed in a glass protector, no matter the color or workmanship, no matter the pattern or the overall design of the bottle.
looks perfect, but when people observe it up close, there is an inconspicuous crack at the mouth of the bottle, which will not be noticed if you don't observe it carefully.
However, people can’t tolerate it. People think it’s so elegant in workmanship and other things should be flawless. Such imperfections shouldn’t appear on it. Therefore, people no longer think it’s good, but start to grasp it. Hold on to that defect. The other vase of
is incomparable with the former. The color is dim, the pattern is random, and the bottle design has no bright spots. Fortunately, there is no crack in the whole, so people began to admire the people who made this bottle must advocate simplicity and simplicity. Simplicity is also a kind of beauty.
People are always like this. They are extra harsh on those who are already good, but they are particularly tolerant to those who don’t seem perfect.
When people think about problems, they will always concretize and magnify certain characteristics, and those well-behaved and gentle girls will be like enemies when they make a little mistake.
And those "bad" girls can get the tolerance of many people, as long as they show a little bit of good, they will be infinitely magnified by people.
Therefore, based on this cognitive bias, women who are "bad" are more likely to attract men's attention.
Everything has two sides. The good is not necessarily good, and the bad is not necessarily bad.
I have seen a girl with long hair and a waist and a white dress. She yelled because the sanitation worker accidentally touched her shoes; The hostile, seemingly rebellious girl carefully helped her grandmother across the road;
I have seen a gentle girl full of duties to her mother, and a girl who smokes and drinks alcohol patiently teach I told my mother to use WeChat.
so what is good, What is bad, these seem to have no absolute dividing line, maybe good girls do bad things, but bad girls do good things.
The good or bad in our eyes cannot be used as a completely absolute criterion for choosing a spouse. Although seeing is believing, sometimes what the eyes see is not always the right thing. We should explore the other person's inner world. Character, and then make further plans. Z2z
Teacher Huang Lei said in the variety show "Longing for Life": "People believe that everything is true from the beginning, and slowly start to feel that they are all false, and then later discover that there is true or false, and finally it doesn't matter whether it is true or false."
The difference between good and evil is the world in the eyes of children, and the world of adults is more of a sense of ambiguity. Instead of judging a person’s quality by what we see with our eyes, we need to feel the other person’s character with our heart, so that we can Get the feeling that really suits us.
