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Fangfang told me on WeChat that she was divorced, and I was not particularly surprised. Since her business got bigger and bigger, she told me about the divorce many times. I always felt that she was just talking about it. I didn't expect it to be true this time.
Fangfang’s husband and I are also friends. He told me more than once, "They say that when men have money, they will go bad. I think women who have money will also learn badly. Going home is getting late, or getting drunk. Or don’t go home for three days and five days. I know what she’s doing outside?"
As far as Fangfang I know, she divorced not because of her bad schooling and not falling in love with others, but because she didn’t want to endure it in marriage. Up.
Fangfang’s younger uncle has a son in her family, and her family is a daughter, and her mother-in-law prefers sons over daughters. The husband of
was not good to her. Fangfang resigned and started a company. I don't know how many times she was scolded by her husband. After the normal operation of
, Fangfang became busier and made more money.
But every time she comes home, she remembers her role as a mother, as a wife, coaching her daughter to do homework, and washing and cooking for her husband.
Her husband was not satisfied with her contribution, either she felt that her clothes were not ironed smoothly, or that the dishes she cooked were too weak.
When the two went back to their in-laws' house together during the New Year, no one was kind to Fangfang at all. In the company, she is the boss who has the final say, but in her in-laws, her status is similar to that of a nanny.
Fangfang originally thought that after having a young son, her husband and mother-in-law would change. Unexpectedly, during the confinement period, she invited Yuesao, and her husband would still find Hupengou friends for a drink, but she had to pay for it. The mother-in-law still only pays attention to the grandson, the newly born grandson seems to have nothing to do with her.
Fangfang's divorce will happen sooner or later. If I were her, I couldn't bear it for so long. The indifference of the mother-in-law, the picky of the husband, the hard work, and the money earned by the whole family are spent together, and they still have to be suspected, complained, and ignored. What is the point?
Money is Fangfang's confidence, economic independence makes her have no reason to continue to bear it.
Li Shuang is also divorced. She said that after her career success, her husband's cynicism towards her "reported" almost every day.
When Li Shuang signed a large order, he said, "You are really out of luck."
When her position was promoted, he said, "Who knows how you climbed up?"
When she got a large commission, he said, "You didn't give me a cuckold, did you?"
couldn't bear it anymore. Li Shuang could not tolerate her husband's suspicion, this was an insult to her.
Is it true that in this world, men's success is justified, and women's success depends on crooked ways? There is such a data online:
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The divorce rate of Chinese senior women and women entrepreneurs may have reached 80%.
Is the marriage of strong women and weak men really not going to last? This was never a curse, but a man's anger.
When the buddies around you said, "Do you see how blessed you are to marry such a capable wife?" The
man would say, "What's the use of what you can do? I have to cook for me as I go home." The
family echoed. "The house and car at home are all the credit of your wife, you have to look at her face, right?" The
man would say, "How is it possible. If you can make money, you have to look at my face when you get home. Who makes her a woman?" The
society puts great pressure on women, so it seems that the malice against women is not small.
Is it true that a woman can only be considered as a woman if she turns around the stove every day, and her inability is virtue?
all say that there is a woman behind every successful man, so can a man think in another way and make himself the man behind a successful woman? Marriage with strong women and weak men can cause problems, and the root cause lies in the minds of men.
Most men believe that success is a man’s patent. If they did not succeed, their own woman succeeded, which is detrimental to a man’s self-esteem. To put it more cruelly, some men think that women are not worthy of success, and that success should be themselves.
In fact, men can view the success of their wives from another perspective, just like in some developed countries in Europe, full-time fathers are also a "job". Put a man's self-esteem aside, your marriage can be happier.
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1,Recognizing the Wife's Ability
When his wife is stronger than himself, a man feels uncomfortable at all. For men, they would rather find a woman who is inferior to them.
That's because, the more powerful and capable a woman, the more unable to control him. Men don't like to fight such unprepared battles. They prefer the feeling of keeping their prey in their pockets.
Why can't a man recognize the ability of his wife? No matter how much money your wife makes, she is also your wife. The
husband and wife are in a community of interests. She earned a million and will have your ownership of 500,000. A rich day is better than a stretched day.
tries to affirm his wife's ability and sincerely appreciate his wife's talents, but it is not difficult.
2, believe in the innocence of his wife
men will doubt the innocence of his wife, it is almost impossible to watch too many novels and TV shows.
If she really regards money as the most important thing, she doesn't need to work hard to make money, just find a rich man to marry.
A man's suspicion, speculation, and distrust not only belittle his wife, but also his own personality.
The fact is, it's hard to see his wife is better than himself. There is also a solution, the man should work hard to surpass his wife.
Couples need more trust and tolerance.
Women make more money and spend less time in the family, and men have to bear more; when men don’t make so much money, can’t women’s success just fill this gap? It’s just right for such a couple to have one inside and one outside, so why bother about who the successful person is.
The marriage of strong women and weak men can also produce happy flowers. As long as a woman is strong, what is strong is not a character, and what is strong is not a domineering temper; as long as a man is weak, what is weak is not unwilling in tone, and what is weak is not in life. ridicule. The couple will only enjoy a better life and will not fall apart at all.
