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I had an extramarital affair with him for two and a half years. We deleted each other's WeChat. Last month he said he couldn't let it go and added me. I sent him a message the day before yesterday and found out that he actually deleted me.
I really can't figure out why, I am very troubled.
Actually, this matter is very simple. It is not that you cannot figure it out, you dare not face it, you dare not accept it. Why on earth? You have thought about it countless times in your heart, and you already have the answer. Let me talk to you.
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1, why add you?
He added you, but he has not found a substitute for you. He hasn't decided whether he should leave with you.
people are like this, duplicity. He said that he would never see each other again in this life, and then said that he was too emotional and reluctant. Are you reluctant to have it?
has, after all, two and a half years of feelings, but not much. After he broke up with you, he found himself suddenly uncomfortable. The days without you are empty and a little lonely.
He will think when he is free, and would you like to continue? He is measuring.
If at this time, he has absolute certainty that his wife will not find out, the man is still willing to continue with you.
A happy day is a day, and how long it can last is the "commonality" of all men in extramarital affairs.
, what if a new love for him appears? Don't worry, he will never come to provoke you again.
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2, why delete you again?
Once fate arrives and your friend deletes, you will be nothing. In fact, you already know this answer.
You also know that when he deletes you, he has made a decision. He doesn't want to continue. He has considered it clearly and no longer hesitates.
may find a new love again, your old love naturally has no value.
These two reasons, no matter which one. For you, you are the least willing to accept it from the bottom of your heart. If you don't accept it, there is no way. People just don't heal with you, you can't find it.
You can't go to other people's homes to make trouble, if that's the case, it is estimated that your family is not far from being scattered.
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3, why bother?
You just don't understand, you are always defending the other party's change of heart.
You feel that the other party added you because of loving you, because of reluctance, and because of inseparable from you. If you turn these all over, isn't it the reason why the other party deleted you?
But you can't accept it. You always think that people who delete and add you, add and delete you are impulsive and impatient. You will wonder if you are not good enough.
I tell you: You are the seven fairies in the sky, and you are the best. The extramarital affair has come to an end. It is useless for you to be Chang'e if you no longer catch a cold. Because his eyes can't see you.
So your troubles are your own business.
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Adults will always be emotionally hurt inadvertently. But you must remember to grow, and you must say to yourself: Don’t think about the past, fear the future, don’t mess with your heart, and don’t get stuck in emotions. You have to make yourself stronger.
mediocre people don't bother themselves, so what's the matter? Without the trouble of extramarital affairs, this kind of life is a fairy life.
You happily work, take your baby, go home and do housework with your husband every day. You can live a life of sauce, vinegar and tea every day. It's so practical.
True love is two people who can be touched and spend their lives staying together. The people outside, after all, belong to others, don't be greedy.
Extramarital love, you will find after passing: it is not happiness, but disaster!
