The feelings between husband and wife are never static. In most cases, the first three months of marriage is the best time for couples, and the two are like glue and can't wait to stick together for 24 hours.
But after a long time of marriage, this state will change unconsciously.
Especially after having children, couples need to consider more and more issues, and the time to manage the marriage has become less and less. Men at this stage will also spend more time on their careers. In order to ensure their sleep quality and work efficiency the next day, many men will actively propose to sleep in separate beds.
But these men did not realize that once a middle-aged couple chooses to separate the bed, it is difficult to return to the same bed.
In this article, let’s talk about this topic: When a man is middle-aged, and a man who proposes to sleep in separate beds, does he still have true feelings for his wife?
Mr. Chen: "It's not that I don't love her. It's just that I am under pressure at work and need space to be alone."
Recalling that when we first got married, the relationship between my wife and I was very good. At that time, no matter how tired I was at work, I would share with my wife the funny things I encountered at work every night before going to bed. Only when I speak my heart with my wife can I realize what happiness is like.
At that time, I thought, if only I could be so comfortable all my life.
It's a pity that the good times didn't last long. The child was born in the second year after marriage, and the burden on my shoulders suddenly became heavy. My wife quit her job to take care of the children at home, and the financial expenditure of the whole family was on me. I was helpless. I had no choice but to give up my original easy job and start a business with a few friends.
To be honest, although my own business is making money, it is very stressful. I return home at one or two in the morning after the meeting every day. I don’t want to disturb my sleeping wife. I just make up for one night on the sofa and have to do it in the morning. Then go out for business.
I don’t want to sleep with my wife even if I take vacations occasionally and spend two days off. It's not because I don't love her, it's just that I'm under too much pressure now and I want to have space for myself. After so many years of marriage, I only love my wife. This will never change.
Mr. Lin: “The separation of husband and wife is to get a good night's sleep, and it has little to do with the relationship.”
I separated from my wife, not because of emotional discord, but different sleeping habits, and I have not been able to adapt.
My wife is timid and afraid of the dark. She must turn on the lights at night to sleep peacefully. On the contrary, I don't want to see the slightest light source when I fall asleep. As long as the light is a little dazzling, I can't sleep well.
However, when I was young, I was in good health. It didn't matter if I went to bed late. Every night after she fell asleep, I quietly got up and turned off the light. But it doesn't work anymore. In the past few years, I have been busy with work, and my spirits are getting worse and worse. I really don't have the energy to accommodate her anymore. I can only move to the second bedroom to sleep by myself, and I have to separate with my wife.
My wife and I sleep in separate beds. In the final analysis, it's just because of different living habits. Instead of accommodating each other to torture, it is better to separate. As long as the hearts of the couple are still tied together, it makes no difference whether they are separated.
Mr. Qin: "I was separated from her because I was afraid to disturb her sleep."
The reason why I and my wife sleep separately is mainly because I worry about disturbing her to rest. Since she got a serious illness last year, her bones have been extremely weak, her sleep is extremely light, and she will wake up with a little noise.
And I have the habit of snoring, and often noisy she can't sleep all night. This situation is fine once or twice occasionally, but I can't bear it too often, so I took the initiative to split the bed, hoping that she would have a good rest in the evening, and she would have a good spirit the next day.
Now, my wife and I have separated beds for three months. Most of the time, we both sleep in separate beds. We only share the same bed once in a long time. I don’t feel anything about the interesting things we have encountered in our work and life recently. lonely.
So in my opinion, separation of beds is not a big problem that leads to a broken relationship between husband and wife. As long as both husband and wife can understand more and be more tolerant, even if they cannot share the same bed, their hearts will be tied together. Mrs.
said: When
is middle-aged, a man who voluntarily proposes to sleep in separate beds still has true feelings for his wife?
answered through these men, we don’tIt is difficult to find the answer. The effects of bed separation on marriage have both advantages and disadvantages. The advantage is that it can improve the sleeping environment and allow both spouses to have their own private space. The disadvantage of
is that long-term separation of beds will lead to reduced communication between husband and wife, creating a gap in the center of unconsciousness, and finally becoming a stranger, evolving into a "widowed" marriage.
That is to say, the separation of beds is not the culprit that leads to the broken relationship between the couples. The couples refuse to communicate because of the long-term separation of beds, which leads to the indifference and carelessness in their hearts, which is the biggest enemy of marriage.
Author: Lady in silence
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