Text: Zheng Shaoyuan May my words warm you~
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Emotion expert Tu Lei once said this sentence:
Love cannot be forced, and marriage does not need to be forced. Regardless of men or women, you should be cautious in your treatment of love and marriage. , Emotional marriage cannot be random behavior.
I personally agree with this sentence very much. Love and marriage are the most important things in everyone's life, and it is for this reason that we have to treat them with caution. The beginning of a relationship cannot be arbitrary, nor can it be arbitrary; the beginning of a marriage must be chosen carefully, because it will determine whether we will be happy for the rest of our lives.
There are some people you love him very much, and always feel that you must marry him in this life, but the fact is that you two are not suitable. When two inappropriate people start a relationship, tragedy will also come, especially when two people have to decide to get married. This marriage is doomed to end in failure.
It is not difficult to find in life that men and women have different attitudes towards marriage. Men’s thinking is more rational, so they have clear requirements for their marriage, especially material. Women’s thinking is more perceptual, and their attitude towards marriage is usually based on love. Once they fall into love, they will easily become Blindly.
This is also the difference between a man and a woman. Women are prone to be reckless because of love, while men will remain rational when facing marriage. In fact, in my opinion, women should also learn from men to ensure that their marriage is happy.
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reader Yuling recently encountered an upset, she divorced her husband. But just after a month of divorce, her husband would harass her every day, begging her to remarry him. Originally, Yuling thought he wanted to remarry because he still loved him, but after knowing the true purpose, Yuling became even more chilled.
Yuling told me about her marriage experience, just hope that I can write it out, and warn female friends all over the world: marriage is not love, don't blindly choose a man who is not suitable for you because of love . That way, only one suffers after marriage!
Yuling is 32 years old and has been married to her husband Yu Bin for almost 5 years. The two have a daughter, who is exactly 3 years old this year.
Yuling would not divorce Yu Bin if it weren't because she couldn't bear it. After all, the child was still young, and she didn't want her daughter to lose her father at such a young age. But Yuling couldn't stand what Yu Bin did in her marriage, so she resolutely divorced him.
There is only one reason for the divorce of the two people, and that is that Yu Bin is a Phoenix man through and through. I believe everyone has heard of how terrible the Phoenix man
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is. It is this type of man who makes all women feel terrified, but at the beginning, Yuling was deeply attracted.
Yu Bin and Yuling worked in the same state-owned enterprise at the beginning. Yu Bin is considered to be relatively outstanding among his peers. He is serious and responsible for his work. He is also very motivated. He has won many awards and is highly valued by leaders.
Yuling, a state-owned enterprise that relied on her parents to enter, was naturally inferior to Yu Bin in terms of work ability. So for Bin, she both admires and likes.
But everyone around her told her that Yu Bin's family is not good and he is a Phoenix male, and told her not to like Yu Bin. But Yuling refused to listen, and actively pursued Yu Bin.
Yu Bin didn't have any feelings for Yuling at first. Later, I heard that Yuling's parents were leaders in state-owned enterprises. His attitude changed a lot. It didn't take long for the two to be together.
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After the two were together, Yuling learned that Yu Bin was originally from a poor family, his hometown was in a remote village, his parents were farmers, and there were many brothers and sisters in the family. As the only college student in the family, Yu Bin is the pride and hope of the whole family.
After graduating from work, he would pay the family money on time every month, leaving very little living expenses for himself, so Yu Bin has always been frugal and almost stingy. Yuling is responsible for the expenses when the two are in love.
But even so, Yuling didn't care, and she married him resolutely. Not only that, she also didn't want a house or a bride price, and even used her pre-marriage house as a wedding room for Yu Bin to live in.
In the eyes of outsiders, Yuling is really too stupid, looking for a poor boy to marry, or a Phoenix man. But YulingDon't care what outsiders think of yourself.
But after getting married, the married life is not as good as she thought, but full of contradictions. The main contradiction of
is that Yu Bin forces Yuling to "help the poor" for her family.
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In the past few years of marriage, Yu Bin’s salary, Yuling, didn’t see a penny, so he gave it to his parents. Every time Yuling asked him, he said that it was not easy for her parents to raise themselves so much, and they still owe a lot of money.
Yu Bin's behavior of feeding her parents back makes Yuling very uncomfortable. The couple quarreled over this matter. But Yu Bin has never changed.
Because of Yu Bin’s backfeeding behavior, the lives of the two people are very difficult. Yuling has to go back to her natal family to take care of her parents and ask for money to subsidize herself. Her parents are also very opposed to the marriage of the two people. Paid so much.
Some relatives and friends of Yu Bin’s family have often come to the house to beat the autumn wind since they know that Yu Bin has climbed to the top of the tree. Yu Bin has a good face and swollen face to fill up fat. Every time people come, he will treat each other with big fish and meat. . And these people come either to borrow money or to ask for things. How could Yu Bin have that strength, and finally Yu Ling went home to beg her parents. The
couple have no idea how many times they quarreled because of this kind of thing.
In the end, Yuling couldn't bear it any more. Yu Bin regarded her as a cash cow, only thinking about her family's property, so that she kept helping the poor. Yuling was fed up with this kind of life, so she filed for divorce.
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After the divorce, Yu Bin was beaten back to the prototype. The house was bought by Yuling before marriage, and the couple had no savings.
And Yu Bin’s parents were shocked when they learned that their son was divorced, but they didn’t care about their son’s marriage. Instead, they said, “You’re divorced. How can we live without this cash cow? Your brother will be married in a few years. , But it’s up to you to get the money!"
Yu Bin had no choice but to beg Yuling to remarry, but Yuling had had enough of him, plus knowing his true intentions, Yuling became even more chilled, and she directly decided with him. Contacts. The reason why this absurd marriage of
Yuling failed, of course lies with Bin. But let's think about it the other way around. If Yuling could not blindly, think carefully, and listen to the people around her, could this tragedy be avoided?
Women must pay attention to that marriage is not a hasty thing. You must not be impulsive and blind. You must carefully choose your marriage partner, because it is no exaggeration to say that how a man determines whether your married life is happy or not. Be cautious!
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