is like what it said in a talk show video once:
"If you want to find a person of the opposite sex to be your pure friend, then find a way to marry him. After a few years,
will find each other more and more pure. Even if you dress transparently and stand in front of the other person, the other person will treat you as transparent, without the slightest thought." There is nothing more terrifying than loneliness in marriage.
He is willing to touch your body routinely, he will control his body not to derail, he will not abuse your domestic violence, only he will not talk to you.
In his eyes, you are a stranger. Is this kind of marriage too painful?
There was a survey on husband and wife relationship in the UK, and the results were very interesting: 25% of couples in
spent less than 10 minutes communicating each day; 40% of respondents in
would ignore their partners completely because they were too busy at work;
had 25 % Of people don’t remember the last time two people chatted quietly together; two-thirds of
felt that they were more inclined to socialize online than to eat and chat with their partners.
Coincidentally, in a questionnaire named "What do you think is the number one killer of marriage?", one-third of the people chose the option "After marriage, they found that the two parties did not have a common language at all."
can be seen, there is nothing to say, it is the most painful thing in most people's marriage.
In the show "Art Life", Zhu Jun asked Wang Zhiwen what kind of person he wanted to marry. Wang Zhiwen said: "I just want to find someone who can chat anytime and anywhere."
Is it really that difficult to find a partner who can chat anytime?
Just like Wang Zhiwen said: "It's really not easy. For example, what do you think of in the middle of the night, you call her, she will say: What time is it? How sleepy, let's talk tomorrow. You immediately lose interest."
is Yes, it's really hard to find someone by the pillow who can chat anytime, anywhere, the key is that he doesn't bother you.
and my parents-in-law are the couple I have ever met who can talk and listen the most. The
mother-in-law is a chatter, celebrity gossip, trivial, and she can talk for a long time without stopping. The father-in-law of
is an introverted and quiet old man, but he never shows impatience with his mother-in-law, and never reveals that her mother-in-law has said something five or six times. He just listened quietly, asking questions from time to time, or repeating it to confirm whether he heard it right. Z1z
Mother-in-law has a meal, from buying vegetables and being cheated by a vegetable vendor, the recent price increase of pork, to a celebrity cheating, studying Cantonese opera singing, appreciating the taste of cheongsam...
After the meal, everyone had already left, and only the father-in-law was still sitting there and listening to her. It wasn't until a few hours later that the mother-in-law said that she was tired, and the father-in-law began to clean up the dishes. Forty years are like a day.
"I recorded a Cantonese opera song today, have you listened to it, old man?" the mother-in-law said.
"The tone is not bad," the father-in-law said.
"This class of Hong Kong waste youths simply don't know the heights of the sky..." The mother-in-law almost went out of style.
"It's just a bunch of thugs." The father-in-law agreed.
"Old man, why are the dishes you cooked today so salty?" the mother-in-law asked.
"Today, the supermarket delivered salt for free, no money, so I sprinkled a handful." The father-in-law smiled.
One is willing to talk, the other is willing to listen. Think about it, how nice it is to live a lifetime like this.
The person who really loves you should be someone who is willing to listen to you saying so many nonsense.
He will try to figure out your tone from what you say, imagine your smile, and even feel all the emotions you haven't expressed from it.
He never feels that this is a waste of time, even if it is tedious and repetitive, he feels full of warmth, and he does not feel annoying to listen to it thousands of times.
love is really super simple, that is, cuddling with each other and having endless days of talking, endless nonsense. The more
grows up, the more you realize that everyone is actually very busy, no one wants to know what you have gone through, and words that have nothing to do with them are regarded as useless nonsense.
Only those who take you to heart and are willing to spend time studying your nonsense, Who really cares about you.
So, girl, find someone who is willing to return to your nonsense and fall in love. You can always be yourself in front of him.
You don’t have to think about what kind of message you send him to look decent, and you don’t have to think about whether he will be impatient with your concern, and you need to outline the key points when you don’t have to chat with him.
Just say it anyway, you know someone is listening.
Some people say that only children can stare at the sunset for an afternoon, while adults can only look up at the moon in the sky on the way off work. But every adult has a child living in his heart, how hopeful he can be in a daze at the sunset.
It is important to hurry up, study hard, and work hard, but in this life, there is always a place to breathe. It should be very comfortable and happy to have a relationship where you can say "nonsense".
If you meet such a person, please remember to cherish it. Z1z
, isn’t it? When you’re in love, you just want to talk to the people you like. What happened today and the people you met sometimes really don’t make sense. I just want to tell you.
Marriage is not just two people living together, but also two souls who understand each other.
In fact, those trivial daily conversations, or even naive and boring chats to outsiders, are the magic weapon to maintain a stable marriage relationship.
The person who is willing to talk nonsense to you at any time really loves you. In those nonsense, the deepest love for you is hidden.
The most comfortable relationship must be the endless nonsense together, such as family, friendship, and love.
Time is easy to grow old. I hope we can all cherish the nonsense person around us and live affectionately in the noisy world.
accompany you
gorgeous night
