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I have written a lot of articles about conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and I will persuade mother-in-law to learn to let go, but there are always some people who are stubborn, not only refuting me in the comment section, but also constantly trusting me, saying that they have worked so hard to raise their son. Big, why can't you manage?
In her heart, letting go is equivalent to handing over her son to her daughter-in-law, and she will lose, but is she really losing?
Marriage as a son is for happiness. The happiness that a daughter-in-law can make him feel is beyond the mother's love. Parents do not want their children to be happy in the end. Therefore, mother-in-laws should be more grateful to daughter-in-law.
However, in real life, many mother-in-laws cannot do it.
This is not only related to the traditional thinking of raising children to prevent old age, but also to excessive spoiling. So many mothers-in-laws don’t think it is inappropriate for them to interfere with their son’s marriage, but think that they are for the good of their son. Of course.
But not letting go does not protect his son for the rest of his life, nor can he make his son be grateful to him. Instead, he ends up hurting his son and ultimately hurting the relationship between mother and child. Sister
Yan said that she can have today, thanks to her ex-mother-in-law. When she said this, she was very happy, even a little fortunate. It is conceivable that her past experience had a great influence on her. Z1z
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Sister Yan and her ex-husband met at work. At that time, she didn't know that her husband would become like that after marriage, or that it was originally like that, but Sister Yan was fascinated by love and didn't see the true face of each other. .
took care of Sister Yan before marriage, and always gave Sister Yan a sense of security. After marriage, he became a complete "mabao man". In the eyes of the ex-husband, filial piety to parents is the most basic character of a person. Sister Yan did not object to this, but her ex-husband’s "filial piety" was pathological.
No matter what the mother-in-law said is right, if she saves trouble, she is a careless master. In her eyes, Sister Yan is not worthy of her son, even though Sister Yan is not bad. Z1z
Sister Yan thought that the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was only temporary. After all, the two had never lived together. As long as she treated her mother-in-law honestly, she would definitely be able to feel it. Therefore, in the face of her mother-in-law's difficulties, she could often Endure it.
But the more Xiaoyan is like this, the more her mother-in-law gets worse. The mother-in-law of
always wanted Xiaoyan to have a baby soon, but Xiaoyan thought about it for two years. She didn't expect that something happened to the company and Xiaoyan needed to go to the night shift. Her mother-in-law had a big opinion about this. Know when it will be.
The ex-husband couldn't resist her mother-in-law's nagging, so Xiaoyan resigned and asked for a new copy, saying that it was for Xiaoyan's health. Xiaoyan agreed under lobbying. Xiaoyan did not expect that the conflict between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law would get worse.
Xiaoyan who has no job caused her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction. Her mother-in-law thinks that her son has worked so hard, so Xiaoyan should serve her son well and should not spend money randomly, but Xiaoyan thinks it is her own money. , Others can't control. Seeing that she couldn't control Xiaoyan, her mother-in-law rushed to cook, either with a small amount or eating vegetables and leaves. The meat was reserved for her son. Xiaoyan said that she wanted to eat too, but her mother-in-law said she would not earn money to eat any meat!
Xiaoyan was angry, so she bought a spare rib. She didn't expect her mother-in-law to be furious, crying and crying that her son was pitiful, so she worked so hard and married a prodigal wife.
Xiaoyan didn't understand, she just bought a pork ribs, why did she lose her? She said that the money was hers and her mother-in-law couldn't control her. She didn't say anything at the time, but when Xiaoyan's ex-husband came in at night, her mother-in-law cried and said that she was leaving the house, saying that someone disliked her and she couldn't stay anymore. I can't help my son.
ex-husband heard it and asked Xiaoyan what was going on. Xiaoyan said that she didn't know, and her mother-in-law said that Xiaoyan didn't go to work to make money. She worked hard to cook for Xiaoyan and was rejected.
Xiaoyan felt that she had been wronged, so she said that she had never eaten meat, but just bought a spare rib. After listening to her ex-husband, not only didn’t understand Xiaoyan, she also said: "You don’t have to go to work. Not bad!" Xiaoyan
was shocked, but she didn't expect that the man who kept saying that for the sake of her health, that she would quit her job, and that he was able to support her for the rest of her life, would say such things.
She still holds a glimmer of hope. The reason why her ex-husband said that was just acting forThe mother-in-law looked at it, but she soon saw the real face of her ex-husband. The ex-husband handed her salary to her mother-in-law, and said that if Xiaoyan wanted to eat well, she had to have a baby.
Xiaoyan learned from the pain and filed for divorce. Her ex-husband said she was crazy. Is she going for a rib? The mother-in-law said she was divorced, so don't expect to remarry.
Xiaoyan said that thanks to the last words of her ex-husband and mother-in-law, the more they said that, the better she would live better than them.
After the divorce, Xiaoyan was looking for a job again, but it was not easy. New forces emerged in an endless stream. For those with qualifications like Xiaoyan, the other party either lowered their wages on the grounds of age, or asked Xiaoyan to go to some low wages and there was no opportunity for promotion. Post.
Xiaoyan was not reconciled, but she had no choice but to find a job to solve the food and clothing problem. At the same time, she continued to study and improve herself. On the other hand, she had to bear the pressure from her parents. Her parents always believed that Xiaoyan It's better to find someone to marry as soon as possible.
Xiaoyan said that she has experienced that she knows that marriage requires a material basis. Only when she has the ability, she is worthy of a happy marriage. Otherwise, even eating ribs will depend on the face of the person.
In the 10 years since her divorce, Xiaoyan had suffered a lot and suffered a lot of blindfolding, but she never gave up her persistence and bought a house and a car on her own.
Regarding marriage, she said that she was too rushed in the past, and the other party was kind to herself and married, she didn't really understand what kind of person the other party was. Such behavior is said to be crazy about love, and to put it plainly, it is right I am not responsible.
She never thought that one day she would meet her ex-mother-in-law again. It turned out that it was her ex-mother-in-law who found Xiaoyan’s parents and confessed that she had been bad to Xiaoyan in the past, and she knew that she was wrong. Xiaoyan’s parents felt that Xiaoyan was old and again Divorce is not easy to find. It is rare for the ex-grandmother to admit her mistake. Remarriage is a good choice, so she gave Xiaoyan's contact information and address to the other party.
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When the ex-mother-in-law saw Xiaoyan, she spoke all kinds of flattery. Xiaoyan felt very strange. The other person seemed to be a different person. The ex-mother-in-law said that she had too much control in the past, which caused her son to divorce Xiaoyan and said she His son never forgot Xiaoyan.
Xiaoyan felt that it had nothing to do with her, so she asked the other party to say something quickly.
The other party took out a large bag of ribs from the bag and said that he had a bad past. The ribs apologized to Xiaoyan and said: "Daughter-in-law, you did not remarry, you can remarry with my son!"
Xiaoyan said it was all over. , I don’t want to look back anymore, let the other party leave, the former mother-in-law suddenly knelt down, crying and said: My son is having a bad life now, after divorcing Xiaoyan, he found another one, the other party has money and has a job. , But he said that he could not scold him, and the son was not used to seeing her, so he said her. Unexpectedly, the other party said that his son was useless, and the relationship between the husband and wife was not good, and the son did not go home. Later, the relationship between the husband and wife faded and he left.
The ex-mother-in-law also said that her ex-husband is not doing well now, and she has lost confidence in life. She also brought a child, and her relationship with her mother-in-law is getting worse and worse. She always complains that her mother-in-law ruined his marriage with Xiaoyan and harmed him. Make him become like this. Although Xiaoyan felt that the other party was pitiful, she also thought about remarrying her. After all, the other party asked for it. She refused and said with a smile: "I don't want to eat spare ribs!"
Later, Xiaoyan asked My parents learned: I asked my parents about my current situation, including my job and income. Xiaoyan said with emotion that if she hadn't been doing well now, her former mother-in-law would still look down upon herself.
Conclusion:
Many mothers-in-laws think that even if their son is married, they are still their own sons. They conceived in October and raised them with hard work. Therefore, even if they are married, they still have to listen to themselves. They still care about their sons most. No one can. Take your place.
So in the face of my daughter-in-law, he is always picky and asks his daughter-in-law according to their own standards. The consequences of doing so are often not worth the gain.
The relationship between husband and wife does not affect the mother-child relationship. The two are not opposites, but very often, the mother-in-law is always afraid that the son will go to the daughter-in-law and forget the mother, so she emphasizes her position everywhere and always interferes with the son’s marriage. This is not caring. It is unclear.
Son and his parents are a family, and his wife is another family. Parents should understand that a son must always learn to manage his own marriage in order to reap his own happiness. If he doesn't let it go, he will not only be able to protect his son, but also in the end. Will hurt the relationship between mother and child.
Before a woman marries, she can’t just because a man treats you wellMarried, a person cannot be separated from the original family. The influence of the original family will permeate life. Marriage is not only love, but also life. If you don't live well, love is also unsustainable.
Carnegie said: "It's not that you are bad, but I have to treat myself by leaving you."
When a marriage is unfortunate, you must have the courage to stop the loss in time and start over. To maintain a long-term marriage, you need love. More confidence is needed. Only when a person becomes better and stronger, the confidence will always be there and be able to master the initiative of happiness.
Many people say how to stand up. If a person is struck by life, once he loses his confidence, he will easily fall into the abyss and can only exhaust himself. I always think that a person’s right to choose is always In your own hands, it's just whether you want it or not.
Carnegie said: "Don’t live in the shadows of the past, don’t cry over spilt milk, learn to withstand the blow, don’t let it knock yourself down, there is no permanent pain in life, no matter how deep the pain is, the wound will always heal. , There is no hurdle that cannot be overcome, as long as you think of a way, you can always cross it.
So, when you encounter misfortune, don’t forget to make yourself better, you can complain, but you can’t just complain, you must Gotta change.
