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pity the parents of the world, from the birth of a small life, parents began to worry about him and plan for him. Every couple hopes that their children will go well, so pave the way for them as much as possible.
When a child is a baby, his parents worry about raising him; after school, his parents worry about his academic performance; after school, his parents start to help him find a job, fall in love, get married, etc.
After a couple gave birth to a child, they have a heart to fuck. When I can no longer worry about my children, I will be old, and my life will be almost finished. This is the life of most ordinary people.
used to be of age alone, it was natural to get married and start a family. Unless the family's financial conditions are particularly poor, or there are other problems, you will not be able to marry a wife. Girls generally don't get married, even if they lack arms or legs, someone will ask for them.
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But now there are many single men and women. According to statistics from relevant departments, there are currently more than 200 million single adults in our country, and more than 77 million adults live alone. It is expected to rise to 92 million by 2021. These data are very surprising. of.
It is clear that living conditions are now better, and they have the time, energy and material basis to talk about love, but why do some young people prefer to be leftover men and women, and are not willing to enter marriage? There are many reasons for
, and each person has their own reasons. Because the children are reluctant to get married, the parents continue to urge the marriage, and there are many family conflicts caused by the urge.
Parents always hope that their children will go well in marriage and love issues, otherwise, what should I do if they are always single? Missing the age to find a partner makes it more difficult to get married and start a family. If the child is always single, the parents really can't safely close their eyes and bring the child into this world, hoping that he will be well.
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Today's young people admire individuality, want independence and freedom, and don't want to be restrained. One of the reasons why they have been reluctant to enter marriage is that. So when parents urge marriage, they will instinctively resent, reject and disgust.
My parents’ neighbor, Xiaoqiang, has been divorced for ten years and has been living alone. At the beginning, Xiaoqiang was going to be a door-to-door son-in-law. He had a bad time at his mother-in-law's house, and finally divorced his wife, and the daughter returned to his wife.
Xiaoqiang returned to his home. His parents used to live with his elder brother-in-law, and he planned to enjoy his old age. But because of the return of the youngest son, the old couple had to look for jobs again, and then scrape together money to build a house for the youngest son. After the house was built,
hoped to help the youngest son get a new family, but the youngest son is still reluctant to remarry. The old couple urged the marriage twice in three days and arranged various blind dates. As a result, the son went to work outside the city with disgust, and has not returned home.
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Xiaoqiang is married, and there is a girl named Jinting in Murakami who has never been married at all and has been single. After graduating from Jinting University, he worked in a foreign-funded enterprise with a salary of more than 10,000 yuan a month. She is very beautiful and has good family conditions. It stands to reason that it is easy for her to find someone.
But she is 34 years old now and she is still single. Because her mother urges her to marry every day, she is like an enemy to her mother. She said that the more her mother urged her, the less she would get married. Anyway, she had planned to be single for a lifetime. The mother of
doesn't understand very much. Why does a good daughter be like this? Is there a psychological problem? But her daughter is pretty good in all aspects. She feels that getting married is too hard, so it's better to live by herself! She wants to live a free life, not wanting to be tied down by marriage and family.
Others ask Jinting what to do when he gets old in the future? She said she went to live in a nursing home, and now she is saving pension money. If the children are not filial, why not have it? A person will live a lifetime, why can't it be easier?
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Different people have different views on marriage and love issues. Everyone has the right to choose their own way of life, as long as this approach does not violate the law and morality, and does not harm the interests of others. parents always want to be good for their children, and hope that their children will soon become a family and have a goal in life.
But what parents think is not necessarily what children want, so between parents and childrenThere will be conflicts, and some will become enemies. In fact, it is a very happy thing for someone to urge you to get married. It shows that someone in this world cares about you, someone is thinking of you, and someone wants to help you get out of your order.
It is a pity that people often do not know the blessings in the blessing. Children regard the parents' urging of marriage as a pressure and a burden, and they will dislike their parents. Therefore, parents must learn to look and want to be open, and they can only remind their children, not force them.
Children and grandchildren have their own blessings. Some things depend on good luck. Since a child has to insist on his own choice, then parents should choose to respect him! Since ancient times, the twisted melon is not sweet. Parents force their children to marry, but they cannot prove that the children will be happy.
Love and marriage are about fate, and it might be better to let the flow go. I believe God has its own arrangements.
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