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is in this topic, yes In marriage, I use two very opposite words, cruel and kind. Maybe many people will ask? Isn't this a contradiction? No, there is no contradiction at all. Cruelty is the feeling of the essence of marriage, and kindness is the mentality that a kind person always maintains.
Human nature is evil, and people who choose kindness only because they have good intentions and choose kindness.
When a marriage becomes a bargaining factor, when a marriage will eventually come to an end, its cruel nature will appear, and it can hurt people who choose to be kind.
"Go ahead and cherish" this famous sentence to save the marriage derailment is the big woman Ma Yili's rescue of the marriage, and it is also a good sentence for many women to look back when they face the derailment of the other half.
But the reality is that this sentence can't really redeem anything. It can only paralyze the kind people, paralyze the people who are waiting in the marriage obsessively, thinking that they can break the mirror to perfection.
Manager Feng is the boss I used to work for. He is a well-known "good man" in the company. He has no more than 50 yuan in cash in his pocket every day, and he needs to refuel the car or ask his wife for his income. Turn all over to the wife. The
company went on a trip. He took his wife and loved him all the way. He envied the single female colleagues in the company.
, however, was such a person who was labeled a "good man" and eventually got divorced because of cheating.
For his divorce period, it can be described as the cruel nature of marriage.
He pretended to look back from the derailment, stabilized his wife, and began to transfer the family property. At the time of the divorce, he only gave his wife 100,000 yuan, and his son also gave it to his ex-wife. As soon as the divorce procedures were completed, he packed the luggage of his wife and children outside the door, changed the lock at home, and went on a business trip.
How much affection is left only hurt.
The two people who once depended on each other, and the two people who had been smashed together, when separated, were more cruel and cruel than strangers, without a trace of warmth.
The following story is something I have heard when I was a child, and its truth is more cruel.
Uncle Liu was born in a rural area and had three children with his wife in the countryside. Later, he had the opportunity to work in a unit in the city. At that time, the unit provided single dormitories. Therefore, Uncle Liu's wife and children did not come with him. live together.
As Uncle Liu's job became more and more stable, and when he made more and more money, Uncle Liu drifted away and began to look for women outside like other men.
Later, Uncle Liu got better with a divorced woman. In order to be with that woman, Uncle Liu went back to the countryside to trick his wife into divorcing. He promised his wife that they were just a "fake divorce". He took three children to the city. Going to school, I will come back to pick up my wife when I'm settled.
Uncle Liu's wife is a true rural woman, who has not read many books and has no knowledge. I really believed Uncle Liu's words and signed a divorce.
Uncle Liu took his three children to the city, married the divorced woman, and raised her daughter, while his three sons, under the control of their stepmother, lived a life without the care of their mothers.
Fortunately, the ending was very warm. After Liu Shu's eldest son worked, he took his mother from the country to support. The second son also left home after work. The younger son rarely had contact with his father after he got married.
Uncle Liu spent his later years in regret, but this is what he deserves.
The way of heaven is reincarnation, who is forgiven by heaven!
"Go and cherish" can be paralyzed by people who choose kind people, such as Manager Feng's wife. After her husband cheated and pretended to return, she accepted him kindly and treated him sincerely, without knowing that her cherishment was calculated. In exchange for a fatal blow.
Uncle Liu’s country wife doesn’t understand what “do and cherish”, but she interprets this sentence with action. She has full trust in Uncle Liu, loves her children, and makes selfless dedication to the family.
However, marriage is often cruel, especially when faced with choices, many people will choose to end up hurting the other half.
Therefore, whether you are married, divorced, or ready to enter a marriage, please look at the marriage correctly and understand its truth.
The truth of marriage is far more cruel than you know, "do it and cherish" can only paralyze kind people.
