Many of our sisters are not happy in this marriage and will choose to get married impulsively. However, not long after the separation, you find that the other person is really good in many aspects. What should you do at this time?
Today we will talk about, Can impulsive L remarry after marriage?
Teacher Hu advises you to be more cautious, Because whether L marriage is a decision made after careful consideration or an impulsive decision, what does it actually mean? There is already a problem in your relationship.
Some people are unable to feel the care and respect of the other party because their relationship is getting duller. Some people have communication problems. As soon as they open their mouths, they always end up arguing and can't get over it.
There are also some issues of principle. For example, if the other person becomes more G or D, you find that you really can’t live with him anymore, so there must be a reason for the L marriage in the first place.
And L marriage is an act of changing the legal relationship , and increasing the physical distance between you, so that each other has time and space to heal.
And what is the reason why many people find good things about each other after getting married? Dependence of Habits
For example, your marriage, or your past relationship, is already a leaky house. At first, you thought that this house could no longer protect you from wind and rain, so you escaped, but after you walked out alone, you found that the wind and rain were still quite strong and you could not bear it.
You start to miss that house again, then think about it, if you return to this house now, can it protect you from wind and rain? In fact, it is not possible. If you suddenly find out how good the other person is after your marriage, and you imagine that this person will completely change after I remarry him, this logic is wrong.
So what should be the correct logic? The house should be repaired first, and you should restore a better relationship first, and then consider remarriage. So remarriage is possible, but there must be a prerequisite, that is, the relationship can be repaired.
How to fix it specifically? Teacher Hu gives you two tips.
First, you must learn to use your children as a bond to promote the relationship between two people.
In other words, you should focus on doing your parents well now. When you get along, don't talk about feelings or the attraction between men and women. Because of psychological research, if men and women can work together to do one thing, they will resonate more.
Many sisters have discovered that after getting married, the man became more concerned about his children. He used to not take care of his children very much. Now that they no longer live together, he misses his children very much and is very patient every time he takes them out to play.
So how about these moments that you can have more of? Observe a man. Sometimes, you can even use the excuse of being too busy on a business trip to leave your child with him for a few days. In addition to promoting their parent-child relationship, can also increase the emotional link between you.
The second very important thing is that you have to learn to restrain your habitual compulsion.
You must understand that you are married now, and you have no responsibility or obligation to care about him. If you still can't control it and want to nag him every time you see him, look at your hair and haven't changed it for several days. Look at your clothes.
What does that mean? You have fallen into the same way of getting along with him before. These parts must be restrained. After you distance yourself, you can look at this person from other angles, and you must maintain your single, relatively happy state.
This will actually be stimulating. What happens when you get along? Freshness. In this case, the relationship between both parties is voluntary, so you can examine the man's true investment in you, do these two things well, and then talk about remarriage after the relationship is repaired.
