How many relationships go from being sweet, talking about everything, to finally being speechless, not willing to communicate more, and even saying another word makes you feel tired.
If it weren't for the fact that they still have children, and if they didn't have to communicate about the children, the two of them would no longer have the need to communicate.
You can't live without her, you can't get along with her, and you can't live a good married life. Why not give it a try first and do this first thing.
1. Reflect on and change yourself, and rely on yourself
Yang Jiang once said: "It is never anyone's ruthlessness that tortures you, but your fantasy expectations."
Only when you no longer have high expectations for marriage and the other person, let go of your own entanglements and helplessness, and give up trying to change the other person's ideas, let all those problems that you can't figure out or let go of go with the wind.
Be kind to yourself, don’t think about what you can’t figure out, don’t take what you can’t let go of, live your life however you feel comfortable, and don’t ask for emotional value from the other person just to get preference, care and concern.
Sometimes, the more you want something, once you develop hope, it will hurt you. The more you care about something, the thing will hurt you indirectly.
Only when you are cruel and unfeeling to yourself, and focus all your attention on yourself, many things will have miraculous counterattacks and changes.
2. Learn to give up tolerating the other person and please yourself more.
If you can't live without someone and you can't live well, it means that the other person has not let you down to the point of separation. Since
can still live together, it means that they can tolerate each other. Whether it is now or in the future, as long as they do not violate the principles, they can maintain the status quo peacefully.
In this case, it is better not to worry about whether this relationship is still there, let alone study the other person's behavior every day whether they love you or not, and don't restrain the other person.
Learn to relax the other person, give the other person a sense of relaxation, and also give yourself time to grow, let go of the pressure of always being afraid of losing the other person, and learn to ignore it.
Let time speak, time will always have its own way of dealing with it.
For some people and some things, the more urgent you are for answers, the less likely the answers are to your expectations. It is better to give each other some space, and some questions may become self-evident.
3. Transfer emotional sustenance and improve yourself
Time may give you the answer, but time will also change many things, such as the tacit understanding and harmony between each other.
When there is a problem in a relationship, there is always a reason. No matter what the reason is, you must be good at discovering the problem, be good at self-reflection, change yourself, and become a better self.
You can try to change the relationship between the two of you, try to change your own personality, such as no longer complaining, no longer always like to talk, and return to the mysterious and attractive you you once were.
You can only make yourself better, adjust the focus of your life, and focus more on yourself. When you live a wonderful life, you will have more say and choice in marriage.
Happy marriages are all the same, and every unhappy marriage is unhappy in its own way. What’s important is you, your attitude towards life and your attitude towards marriage. If your attitude is different, you can live a different life.
Regarding marriage, everyone has their own thoughts and concerns. No matter how you choose in the end, I hope you can give each other more tolerance, more patience, and give yourself some reasons to stick to it. In the dilemma, manage your marriage and yourself.
