Being single does not mean being childless
If some people are worried that single people will not be able to enjoy the joy of having children and grandchildren around their knees when they grow old, I think their ideas are too simple. Nowadays, technology is becoming more and more advanced, and they can find a sperm bank or artificial insemination to leave the so-called bloodline for themselves.
So when these singles become old, they will still have family members to accompany them and take care of them. And I think people who can coolly choose to be single all their lives don't take these issues very seriously either.
The biggest problem for a person who remains single until old age is that his ability to resist risks becomes weaker!
When I was young and strong, I had no problem living alone.
We are old, we need to live a decent and dignified life
Many people mention suicide, which is a helpless act because they cannot maintain a decent and dignified life.
Is committing suicide that easy? Just die? Are you sure you are ready to leave at that time? Are you sure you can successfully commit suicide? What if an accident happened before that and you couldn't commit suicide?
The elderly need care, or guardians, just like babies and children. Parents are naturally the guardians of their children and have the responsibility and obligation to support their children. Children also have the responsibility and obligation to support their parents. This is the case in China, except for those who are deprived of their children according to law.
When you grow old alone, your parents have passed away, and your friends are not sure who will go first, we need a trustworthy client!
When we have an accident and go to the hospital, who is the emergency contact? Who will help us run around the hospital?
In an emergency situation, I am unconscious and my family members need to sign the operation form for the operation. Who is that family member?
The body has limited mobility. We may have money, but it may be difficult to withdraw money. We may be blinded and deaf, or we may have forgotten the password, and we cannot spend the money.
We need a client, but the client may not be trustworthy. A nanny may be a toxic nanny, the nursing home may be abused, etc.
Children are natural clients, and of course children may not be affectionate. It is unknown who is more reliable between the two.
hopes that everyone who sees this topic will seriously think about their own situation and not think that they can do it themselves based on what others say.
Immigration to high-end nursing homes requires capital. Can ordinary people do it? Beijing has a better elderly care service . Is it also available where you are?
Having children does not mean that you can completely avoid these situations, and having children is not for the purpose of providing for old age. However, if you have children or a significant other, you can naturally avoid some risks.
What happens after death also needs to be considered, and there are many tragic stories about people not being discovered until long after their death.
This article only talks about some aspects of material life, and does not involve spiritual and emotional aspects. Not every single person can live well and happily if he has his own fun and pursues one.
The life of people on Zhihu is not the life of you and me. After all, ordinary people do not make millions a year, nor do they live in developed areas such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. Please get to know the real China.
The decision to remain single for a lifetime is a very important decision and can be changed. The decision not to have children is also a very important decision. For women, the cost of regret is huge. Girls regret it when they are forty or fifty, as it is no longer suitable for childbirth, while men with good economic conditions can still enter marriage and have children. (Don’t criticize here, this is the current situation in most of China)
Consider carefully and make rational decisions.
I want to say that marriage is really the best insurance for people who have no sense of security.
Because as long as you are married, you don’t have to panic when all your relatives pass away, and you don’t have to entrust yourself to a nursing home you have never met when you think you can’t take care of yourself...
The things you hate and fear most about marriage, if you think about it carefully, are they really brought about by marriage? ?
Or is it because of traditional shackles? What others think? Or is it an unspoken rule of society?
But these can all be changed (I think). You are afraid that when you get married, the other party will treat you indifferently. You can completely treat yourself as single, and this does not hinder anything.
If you are afraid that after you get married, your career will change due to family issues, then you can choose not to have children, or hire a cleaner.
In short, I think if you can think carefully about it, being single all your life may really be more suitable for you.
