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On the surface, marriage is only a matter between two people. As long as two people love each other enough, they can join hands in marriage and start a new life.
But in fact, marriage is a matter between two families. What a woman really marries is not the man in front of her, but the family behind him.
Maybe you and the man truly love each other, but can you guarantee that his family will accept you?
Maybe the man you love is a good person, but can you guarantee that his family is as good as him?
Marriage is not as simple as imagined. Once you get married, everything a man carries will be transferred to you, including the trivial things in his family.
If you marry hastily without a comprehensive understanding before marriage, what awaits you after marriage will be endless torture and pain.
When it comes to marriage, women must be cautious. Even if you love to the extreme, you cannot lose your mind.
You have to know that in some families, you cannot marry under any circumstances. If you insist on acting recklessly, you will face endless troubles.
Say this in vain, many women may not listen, so please take a moment and listen to what others have said.
People who have experienced this will tell you that it is best not to marry into these three types of families.
Reader Sister Xiao said: "It is best not to marry into a family with bad family relations. My ex-husband's family is like this. Marrying into one is simply suffering."
According to Sister Xiao, the relationship between her ex-mother-in-law and her ex-father-in-law was very bad. It can be said that the two of them had a small quarrel every three days and a big quarrel every five days.
Sister Xiao actually knew about this situation before she got married, but at the time she didn't think that such a relationship would affect her marriage, so she didn't care.
It wasn’t until not long after she got married that she discovered that people who grew up in such a noisy family would sooner or later manage their marriages in the same way.
In the second year after their marriage, she and her ex-husband became like people of the older generation. They quarreled almost every day and the whole family was not at peace.
After being unable to bear such a family atmosphere, Sister Xiao decisively chose to divorce. Although she still lives alone now, she feels very comfortable.
She would like to advise those women who are not yet married not to marry into a family with a bad relationship.
Families with bad family relationships have too many conflicts that cannot be resolved. Once a woman gets married, conflicts will soon arise.
If a woman wants to live a pure life, she should be cautious and don't easily marry a man with a bad family relationship.
Reader Ms. Yan said: "You can't marry into a family that owes a lot of foreign debt. In the five years after I got married, I almost spent all the time paying off the money for my husband's family, not to mention how uncomfortable it was."
Before getting married, Ms. Yan didn't get to know her husband's family carefully. He only knew that her husband's family owned a small factory and it was doing well.
It was not until after she got married that she discovered that her husband's family did have a small factory, but it was not profitable at all and instead owed a lot of money.
Ms. Yan was young at that time and only wanted to help her husband share the burden, but she did not expect that it would bring a hard life for herself for five years.
In order to help her husband's family pay off their debts, she worked from dawn to dusk without a good rest or even buying a decent piece of clothing.
Although the money was paid off in the end, she did not get the gratitude of her husband's family. Instead, she was often scolded by her powerful mother-in-law.
Ms. Yan told me that she regrets it very much now and feels that everything she has done for her husband’s family is not worth it. If she could choose again, she would never marry.
It is indeed a very sad thing to marry into a family that owes a lot of foreign debt. Not only does a woman need help paying off the debt, but she also has a very hard life.
If a woman doesn’t want to end up like this, she should be careful and don’t marry into a family that owes foreign debts.
Reader Ms. Zhou said: "You cannot marry into a family full of negative energy. The reason why I was depressed had a lot to do with the family atmosphere of my husband's family."
Ms. Zhou told me that she had a dark period for two years. During that period, instead of getting help from her husband's family, she was affected by their negative emotions.
Ms. Zhou’s husband’s family is a family full of negative energy, with almost no laughter. Living in this environment, Ms. Zhou feels that she is very depressed.
After living in this family for six years, Ms. Zhou felt that she was worse off than dead. After finally having a child, she was troubled by postpartum depression.
That was Ms. Zhou’s darkest period. No one in her husband’s family helped her, and they thought she was being hypocritical.
If it were not for the support of her mother-in-law, Ms. Zhou might not be alive today. Now that she has finally recovered, she wants a divorce at any cost and takes away her children.
She said that she did not want her children to grow up in such a family, and even if she did everything she could, she would protect her children.
Living in an environment full of negative energy is indeed an inhuman torture. If a woman marries into such a family, her married life will be miserable.
Conclusion:
Experienced experiences tell us that no matter whether it is a family with bad family relations, a family with foreign debt, or a family with a lot of negative energy, you cannot marry.
Some women may think that these problems can be solved as long as two people form a small family after marriage and do not have close contact with their husband's family.
But can you really guarantee that you can completely avoid contact with your husband’s family? Even if you can, your husband can't do it. After all, there is a blood relationship involved.
If you don't want to get hurt, the best way is to stay away from such families and the men who grew up in these families.
Women should be careful when treating marriage. Marriage is no better than love. Only by being cautious can you avoid suffering serious consequences.
