There is a "love blind bias" in psychology.
means that a person takes love too seriously and even gives up her studies and family in order to fall in love. Even if everyone thinks that person is not good, she will firmly believe that the other person is true love.
It seems that she is crazy about love, but in fact love is just a fig leaf, covering up her immature nature.
This is the case for Wang Yue, who lives in Zhumadian . She originally had a happy family, but a love affair made her lose her way. She actually wanted to abandon her husband and daughter to go with a man 20 years older than herself, which made her parents so angry that they wanted to commit suicide.
Wang Yue originally had a happy family. Her husband worked in a factory and her daughter was cute and looked after by her mother-in-law.
She is a kindergarten teacher, and her workplace is not far from home. Every day after get off work, her father-in-law and mother-in-law have prepared meals. Many people envy Wang Yue's good fortune, but she thinks it's nothing.
Wang Yue is the only daughter in the family. She was pampered by her parents and grew up. Her life was very smooth. She had a stable job after graduating from school. An overly smooth life made her feel boring. She yearned for an exciting life.
So, after get off work, she would gather with classmates and friends, and sometimes go singing. She felt that such a life was interesting.
Once, I had a dinner with my classmates in a restaurant. The classmate met his friend Ding Jianjun. Ding Jianjun had his own breeding farm and a big business. He sent sheep and chickens to various restaurants. He was quite generous. When he saw his friends eating, he sat down and had a few drinks together. During the chat at
, Ding Jianjun and Wang Yue met, and the two became friends with each other. It stands to reason that two people with an age difference of 20 years have nothing in common, but they actually came together.
Ding Jianjun will take the initiative to send messages to Wang Yue, talk about what he has seen and heard , and will also care about the other person, making Wang Yue think that he is an interesting person.
Once Ding Jianjun went to work out of town and asked Wang Yue if he wanted to go with him. He could invite him to visit tourist attractions. This request made Wang Yue excited. She especially liked traveling, so she made an excuse and went with Ding Jianjun.
The relationship between the two heated up quickly, and they were soon discovered by friends around them. Wang Yue's husband found out, and it would be intolerable. He asked Wang Yue what he wanted? Wang Yue didn't say anything. Her husband knew her thoughts and went through the divorce procedures with Wang Yue, and her daughter followed the husband.
Wang Yue returned to her parents' home. After her parents found out about her divorce, they were so angry that their chest hurt. They never expected that their daughter would be so cruel that she could even give up on her own child. In the eyes of her parents, Wang Yue was obsessed and possessed.
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In order to persuade her daughter, her mother made a special trip to Ding Jianjun’s house.
She found Ding Jianjun's wife and asked her if she wanted to divorce.
Ding Jianjun’s wife knew the whole story and made it clear that divorce was impossible.
She has been married to Ding Jianjun for more than 20 years. They started their own business from scratch and have two daughters, both of whom are married.
It can be seen that Ding Jianjun's wife is a very kind-hearted woman. She is hardworking, takes care of the housework and takes care of the children. She never thought that her husband would betray her. In her heart, her husband is still more family-oriented. If she has money, she will buy appliances for the family, making her life better and better.
Wang Yue's mother knew it well, her daughter was on a path of no return, which was not only morally untenable, but emotionally fruitless, because Ding Jianjun could not give her a home.
No matter how her parents persuaded her, Wang Yue was determined to be with Ding Jianjun. For this reason, she smashed the door and overturned the items in the house, making her parents miserable.
In the village, Wang Yue's life became a joke. She did not hesitate to abandon her husband and daughter for a man who was 20 years older than herself. The man did not promise to marry her. Anyone with a discerning eye could see that Wang Yue was insisting on wishful thinking, but she just refused to recognize the reality.
For this reason, Wang Yue's parents no longer wanted to save face, and invited a mediator to expose Ding Jianjun's true face, hoping that he would stop harassing their daughter in the future.
Wang Yue's father said: "If our daughter refuses to look back, we will not live anymore. What's the point."
The boy did not shed tears easily, but he was not sad enough. Watching Wang Yue's father wipe away his tears, the surrounding neighbors also talked about it.
- Some people said: "This child is confused and does not listen to her parents' advice. Sometimes she regrets it."
- Some people also said: "My parents have very upright views. Why is my daughter so ignorant? There is no true love. The man just lied to her."
- Someone else said: "This daughter was raised in vain. If she were my daughter, I would cut off the relationship and save myself from embarrassment."
said everything. Wang Yue's parents were full of sadness, but Wang Yue was like a normal person, with a calm expression and a smile when she spoke. She was very beautiful, but her IQ was really not that high.
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Does Ding Jianjun really love her?
After being contacted by the staff, Ding Jianjun came to Wang Yue's house. He looked like any other uncle. He dressed very ordinary, but spoke more arrogantly.
"If Wang Yue is willing to follow me, I can take her anywhere."
This empty confession can be seen by anyone with a discerning eye to be of no use. Where can you go? reveals the illusion of love. Can you really tolerate each other? Ding Jianjun only agreed to take Wang Yue away, indicating that he did not want a divorce at all. After a while, he and Wang Yue had conflicts and he could go home. What should Wang Yue do?
Wang Yue's mother couldn't control herself, so she stepped forward and beat Ding Jianjun. Ding Jianjun was about the same age as Wang Yue's parents, so he couldn't get the upper hand in a fight. The staff of
held both parties together, hoping that Wang Yue could have a clear understanding of his relationship. Since the relationship between the two of them would not be blessed and there would be no result, it was best for both parties to end it so that they could get together and part ways.
Wang Yue remained silent for a long time. She expressed that she wanted to hear Ding Jianjun's thoughts.
It seems that she has illusions about relationships, thinking that as long as the other party persists, she will have hope. It is really sad. A woman who cannot see herself clearly is destined to be a tragedy. In order to make Ding Jianjun tell the truth, the staff of
specially asked his daughter to make a video call. Seeing his daughter and grandson, Ding Jianjun couldn't stop smiling. He loves his daughter and family deeply. From this point of view, his promises to Wang Yue are all false.
What Wang Yue has always imagined is Ding Jianjun's promise to hand over the farm to her so that she can have a stable income for the rest of her life. In fact, such a promise is simply unrealistic.
First of all, the breeding farm needs to keep paying. Wang Yue doesn’t understand the breeding industry at all, so even if it is given to her, it will not be able to run well.
Secondly, she has no legal status. As long as Ding Jianjun's wife does not agree, she can only stand aside and get nothing .
From this point of view, Ding Jianjun is not sincere. He is using lies to deceive Wang Yue, but Wang Yue is addicted to it and cannot extricate himself.
In life, girls like this are not the only ones. When someone talks to her sweetly, she forgets her identity and does unethical things. In the end, she gets nothing and gets a bad reputation.
is here, also advises girls to love more sensibly. No matter who you fall in love with, at least both parties should be free and equal. If the other party has a family, no matter what promises are given, don't believe it easily.
In this life, it is better to rely on oneself than to rely on the heaven and the earth. No matter how much others give, it is not as solid as making money by yourself..
