In life, there are always too many things to miss.
missed a bus, missed the last piece of freshly baked bread, missed a farewell.
And sometimes, I miss the person I really want to get married to.
In relationships, when we are still young, we will feel that if we like it, we can have it. If we have it, we will definitely get married one day, and there will be a good result for each other.
As we grow up, we will increasingly realize that liking and having are two different things. Falling in love and getting married are not the same thing. Marriage and happiness are also not equal.
Feelings in this world are not so easy to explain. No matter how much you like or want to marry someone, it may not be possible.
And when one day, you miss the person you most want to marry and live with, you will change.
becomes casual, then anyone can. A male colleague of
broke up with his girlfriend of several years. In just three months, he and the girl he met on a blind date met with their parents, obtained a marriage certificate, and set a wedding date.
People around him felt that he was a little too hasty, but he said that it was not what he wanted anyway, and it was the same for everyone.
Separating from the person you want to get married to, and then grabbing someone at random is really bad. It is irresponsible to yourself and makes you look very sorry to the other person. However, many people actually do this.
In my heart, I unconsciously divide all the people of the opposite sex into two parts, that person and other people.
If the person who stays with me in the future is not that one, then no matter who it is, whether you like it or not, it doesn't seem to matter. As long as everything seems to be okay, you can accept it, and you don't feel there is much difference.
It seems that there are indeed others around me, and I may be able to live a good life, but everything is just a habit, I feel that I should be like this. The real self is already despairing and can no longer express any more feelings.
From then on, for the rest of my life, I just kept awake and indulged in fulfilling my obligations. There would always be something missing, and it was difficult to feel happy from the bottom of my heart.
is very picky and seems to be almost boring.
When I deeply like someone, I still want to have a future, and I have fantasized about the future with the other person countless times. Later, even if I lose everything about the other person, I have already left a deep mark on myself.
The other party’s appearance, the other party’s hobbies, some of the other party’s small actions, and the other party’s tone of voice.
I will always think of all this unconsciously, and when getting along with other people of the opposite sex, I will always instinctively make various comparisons.
also has that person's preconceptions, and he has already regarded the other person as a benchmark. Therefore, no matter what others do later, no matter what the situation is, he will always feel that everything is not that way.
is always able to pick out some problems of the other party, and always feels that the other party is not that suitable for him. Without the feeling of heartbeat, it is simply impossible for oneself to get along with the other person forever.
Anyway, no matter who he is, no matter how good he is, he still feels that something is not quite right and he just wants to escape.
himself knows very well that it's not the other person's fault or the other person's problem, but he just can't change it. He still has no way to get rid of that past and really start over with a person.
After all these years, I will just stay in the same place, trapping myself there, constantly recalling the past and every bit of it.
has no intention of marriage, just wants to be alone.
After missing out, some people can still try to have a try with others, but some people will just start to seal their hearts.
Even if it turns out that that person is not the right person, and they can only get separated in the sea of people, they will still feel that except for the other person, everyone else is just making do, and they are not willing to choose to make do with it.
That person is gone, and what he takes with him is his deep love and his ability to love someone.
I can no longer get close to anyone, and I am no longer willing to touch love. From now on, I no longer have the desire to get married, I just want to live well by myself.
is not waiting for the other person or doing it for the other person. Even if he sees love all at once, he is not willing to spend that effort anymore.
no longer has such desire for marriage. When I think of choosing someone, living with them under the same roof, having children and raising children together, and spending the next few decades, I feel that it is incredible, and I can't do it.
really doesn’t want to get married anymore. I don’t have the confidence that I can manage those years well with someone else, and I don’t think there will be anyone else who can stand the fact that I can no longer give love to myself.
Therefore, I don’t want to delay anyone, and I don’t want to be delayed by anyone. I just want to walk quietly on the current road.
There will always be one person who is different from others.
will be even more special in my heart and cannot be replaced by anyone.
In this life, it is a blessing to be able to meet such a person and marry him. Although you may not live well in the future, at least at that moment, you will feel very satisfied.
If you meet but miss it, it is indeed a pity, that person will become the cinnabar in your heart.
It is easy for someone to stop taking good care of their relationship because of the other person, which will affect their own future.
It is very easy for us to become like that, but it is best not to.
That person is gone, but we still have a lot of future. What we lose may not be so good. If it is really so suitable, we will not miss it at all. After that, it is best to face it calmly, let go as much as possible, still believe in love, and love bravely.
text/Tan Meng
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