" The Twenty-Eight Laws of Love " not only has to be the backbone of the family, but also the guardian of her husband from time to time. As she said herself, wearing those beautiful clothes has sent away so many goblins. It is her battle robe. The maintenance of the marriage relationship is not just about love, but also more responsibility. However, many men like Qin Wenyu still don't know how to behave appropriately with the opposite sex even after they get married.
In recent years, more and more women have panicked and even refused to get married. This is partly due to men's irresponsible behavior and lack of respect for women.
Because once you have a relationship, or get married, if you get divorced for such reasons, it seems to be a bit of a fuss, because after all, there is no actual cheating, but there is only the difference between once and countless times if you tolerate it, thus leading to a vicious circle. However, those restless men usually have several things in common. If you don’t want to endure such a marriage, you should make plans in advance.
The more restless a man is, the less he will mind playing the disadvantaged partner in a marriage.
The more he is willing to be the weakling in the relationship, the easier it will be to be unfaithful in the relationship.
is like Qin Wenyu in the plot. He is willing to play a supporting role. When faced with the situation where he messed up the company's work, he can kneel down as much as he wants. He can also tell his wife sincerely that raising a family is not necessarily a male gender's responsibility, and that the division of labor should be based on the ability.
He will not feel so inferior that he cannot hold his head up because of his wife's wisdom and ability, but will face it very calmly and admit that he should be the man behind her. Compared with male chauvinism, this type of man knows how to give up when things get better. He may seem open-minded and wise, but in fact he is most prone to restlessness.
Because human energy is limited, it also needs to be consumed and occupied. In other aspects, his intelligence is insufficient, but he has not been better utilized and consumed. In a word, when he is idle for too long, he will find ways to fill his boring life. This also leads to the fact that Vivian's appearance is not the only accident, but the norm.
A restless man cannot refuse the temptation of the opposite sex from outside.
People need to have their own social interactions with the opposite sex, but they need wisdom and self-discipline to know how to measure and interact with each other. However, a restless man will find it difficult to deal with the temptation of the opposite sex from outside, whether it is so-called favor or just superficial politeness.
Qin Wenyu completely lost his sense of propriety when faced with Vivian's little sheep-like admiration and overtures. He even felt that she really liked him and was full of superiority. He hid in the bathroom and the opposite sex outside boasted about how much his wife couldn't live without him, and said rhetorically that "this marriage must be divorced."
A restless man cannot resist the temptation of the opposite sex outside. Even if the other party's level and means are not clever, he can easily achieve his goal.
Lack of sense of responsibility and ability to take responsibility for the family
Marriage does not simply mean that two people are matched as husband and wife, but also the merger of responsibilities. What is more important is the merger of two people, rather than unilaterally supporting a family. The more restless a man is outside, the easier it is for him to lack a sense of responsibility for the family and the less ability to take responsibility.
Xi Murong said: "Marriage is not about two people facing each other face to face. Marriage should be about two people holding hands and facing the world together."
is like Qin Wenyu. It's not that he hasn't worked hard. On the one hand, he really doesn't want to take on this responsibility. On the other hand, he really doesn't have the wisdom to take care of the company and family. So when he was a child, he relied on his mother and when he grew up, he relied on his wife.
has a sense of fatigue and a lack of ability. However, don't think that they will be grateful to the women who have sacrificed everything for their families. On the contrary, they will be like a traitor, willfully enjoying the conveniences that women bring to themselves. Maybe they are not necessarily heinous and have bad intentions, but they are indeed more likely to act out of line and even be framed and exploited.
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(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), specializes in the restoration and repair of love relationships, marital conflicts and differences, and the healing of spiritual trauma caused by original families. In the lonely journey of life, we listen to your grievances and pressures, help visitors improve their skills in getting along with each other, win back their lovers, manage their relationships well, and strive to become a happier person.
