Author: Mo Xiaobei
I wish to win the heart of one person and never be separated. From then on, they are each other in their hearts and eyes, and they will never leave each other no matter whether they are born, old, sick or dead.
This kind of feeling should be what most people want, right?
However, the reality is often the opposite. I obviously thought about it for a lifetime, but the final result is only for a while. I clearly promised that I would never betray, but I was quickly slapped in the face.
In a relationship, if one party betrays you, I believe most people will find it difficult to accept it and may simply choose to stay away.
However, there may be distance, but there may also be forgiveness and continue to be together.
Many people think that staying away is a kind of pain, and many people think that it is more painful to be able to forgive and reconcile. However, the real pain is that you cannot stay away and cannot reconcile.
We often say that if you encounter feelings of betrayal, just stay away, because there is only a difference between betrayal of feelings zero times and countless times.
But this is easy to say, but it is too difficult to do.
Because love is not a fairy tale, it cannot be explained clearly in one or two sentences, it must be put into reality.
01: has been betrayed and cannot be separated or forgiven. It is the most painful way to get along.
I wonder if there is anyone around you who has betrayed your feelings and is still together?
may or may not have it.
But there are many people around me. They obviously no longer love each other, but they are still living under the same roof.
thought about leaving, but in the end found it difficult to leave because marriage is no longer just a matter of two people.
Let’s tell a story about fan Jia Jia.
Before getting married, Jia Jia felt that as long as she got married, she would live forever and face the ups and downs of the future together. However, after getting married, she found that this was not the case at all.
There are not only quarrels in marriage, but life is also miserable. Especially after having children, this feeling is even stronger. It is too painful to be surrounded by husband and children every day, but not understood.
Jia Jia thought this was the worst, but she didn’t expect the worst to come. She actually found out that her husband had betrayed her marriage. After
learned the news, she was like a thunderbolt. She never imagined that the man who said he would love her forever would change so quickly.
When Jia Jia asked her husband, her husband didn't say anything, but nodded and admitted.
Jia Jia thought about asking why, but she swallowed the words again. Why?
seems to have no reason.
Asking too many questions is redundant, because the other party has betrayed you. Even if you ask why, the other party still betrayed you, and nothing can change this fact.
At that time, Jia Jia wanted to leave her husband immediately, but found it extremely difficult. Her husband had been working all these years, and she had not worked for many years for the sake of her children and family. Now she is directly out of touch with society.
If a divorce occurs suddenly, it will be a huge blow to the children and themselves. At this time, the husband said that he would never be like this again and hoped that Jia Jia could forgive himself.
Just like that, Jia Jia chose to forgive, but although she chose to forgive on the surface, she never forgave the other party in her heart.
Jiajia asked me what to do?
She said that she was in too much pain now. She had been betrayed by a man, could not end the relationship, and could not forgive. Her life was extremely painful. I advised Jia Jia to try to change her state of mind and make a choice as soon as possible, otherwise she would never be happy.
There is a saying on the Internet that says it very well:
"If you have had a betrayal in a marriage, and you still want to continue it, then as the betrayer, you must sincerely repent, take your own responsibilities, and use actions to make up for your mistakes. Your partner must let go of the past grudges and never bring up the past again. Only in this way can you be happy."
In fact, this is indeed the case. If the betrayer cannot truly repent, and you cannot truly forgive, such a marriage is meaningless. No matter how high the cost, there must be an end, which is good for both parties.
02: If you really can't separate, please do your best. Forgive enough
Almost everyone in this world will make mistakes. Some people will make mistakes in life, and some people will make mistakes in relationships. Betrayal outside marriage may be just a mistake.
Of course, I am not excusing feelings outside of marriage.
On the contrary, I think that feelings outside marriage should not be done. It doesn’t have to come to light, but what if it does happen?
has to be faced when it happens. If you can turn around gracefully, it will be good, but what if you can't? Is it possible for
to live in pain all the time?
Since it cannot be forgiven, the best way is to end it; since it cannot be ended, then there is no way to end it. You can only choose to forgive, right?
I have a friend. After learning that her husband had betrayed her marriage, she filed for divorce without saying anything. I asked her if she would not regret doing so.
A friend said: “I don’t know if I will regret it, but if I continue to live with him, I will feel sick and it will be particularly painful. "
My friend's meaning is very simple. Even if you regret it, you must end this marriage, because if you don't accept it, you will live in pain for the rest of your life.
If you are like a friend, then I also recommend that you do the same.
If you can't be as free and easy as a friend, then continue to live a good life, which is the most important thing.
Relationships in this world are really not easy. Meeting each other is fate. Since you are lucky enough to be married, let's cherish it.
Just like there is a saying:
"Emotional matters are often in a moment of thought. There is no delete button in life, and there is no regret medicine in the world. Whether you can live happily for the rest of your life only depends on your own choices. ”
In the days to come, I hope that all couples in the world can love well if they love each other, will not hurt each other, regard their pre-marriage vows as true, and never leave each other for the rest of their lives!
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