In contemporary times, the difference between China and the United States in their views on mate selection is almost as big as a horizontal confrontation!
First of all, marriage in the United States does not require a betrothal gift, let alone a dowry, and a wedding room is not necessary. A RV and can accommodate a family. Ordinary people's marriages don't even pay attention to being well-matched.
When we meet the man or woman we like in domestic life or work, under normal circumstances, we usually implicitly invite the other person to go to the movies, or to activities such as mountain climbing, shopping in the park, and eating. Of course, there are blind dates arranged by parents, relatives and friends, and free dating on WeChat .
But when we are about to enter the marriage hall, we generally still need to refer to the opinions of our parents. Because for us who are immersed in the atmosphere of Confucianism , marriage is not only our own, but also the mutual help and integration of two big families of men and women.
At this time, the wedding room has become an important priority that we must consider! Of course, there are also the betrothal gifts for men and dowries for women, which are essential in many areas.
In the United States, the conditions for marriage have become much simpler.
First of all, Americans express love very straightforwardly. There is no need to beat around the bush when expressing love to the man or woman you like. And regardless of the occasion, as long as they see you right and think you are his right person, they will go directly to express your love.
The author has been confessed to me countless times over the years! Whether on the street, at work, while shopping, or playing, someone will suddenly appear in front of me. Asking for a phone call is a very implicit and common trick. They usually tell me directly, with an extremely serious attitude, without joking or hypocrisy: I like you, please marry me! ! WHAT? !Did I hear it correctly?! Apart from being surprised, the author didn’t know how to reply at that time. Especially when the other party was not only a man, but also a woman who came to express his love directly. There were also people with children and adult children. They put down their work and came directly to tell me how the wedding was arranged, how much property he had, etc. I was completely stunned. Until I encountered this kind of situation again and again, I gradually became accustomed to it and could refuse directly in a calm, polite and orderly manner.
Promise me--Marry me
If you really agree to the other person, or you also have a crush on them, when it comes time to talk about marriage, American proposals become very ceremonial and pay attention to the romantic atmosphere.
At this time, a diamond engagement ring for lasting love is indispensable, and the diamonds in the engagement rings are generally very large and really valuable!
The American proposal ceremony must also be attended by the blessings of family and friends, and the choice of the venue must also be very romantic. This is a real proposal! It is an important thing that the bride and groom-to-be can brag about for a lifetime.
Expensive and beautiful wedding dress---the dream of the bride-to-be
In addition, a wedding dress is also necessary to prepare for the wedding. When the groom-to-be does not have enough financial resources, you can rent it, but it is best to rent it for your beloved. The bride goes to a bridal store to buy a dreamy and beautiful custom-made wedding dress. At this time, she needs to bring her family and friends to choose the best one for the bride-to-be!
As for the wedding room of Americans, it is within their means. They can rent a small apartment or even live in an RV.
Weddings are usually held in churches
In short, ordinary Americans do not need to be well-matched to get married, as long as they look at each other. Confession is direct, the proposal and engagement ceremony is elaborate, going to the city hall to get married is simple and quick, the honeymoon is done according to one's ability, and the wedding room is optional. The couple can buy it together when they have the financial ability in the future.
