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Text: Shili
Illustrations: From the Internet
"I have been married for 10 years and have a son and a daughter. I found out that my husband cheated on me some time ago, and he also admitted this fact. My first reaction was to divorce, but But he kneeled down in front of me and admitted his mistake, and also asked relatives and friends to pressure me, saying that he would change his mind in the future and treat his family and children well. My relatives all advised me not to divorce easily and to think more about my children. Now I am very confused and don’t know what I should do. Can I really believe a man after he cheats on me?" A reader friend sent me such a private message two days ago.
I felt a lot when I saw this private message.
Tencent previously conducted a survey about cheating.
There are about 70,000 valid questionnaires. The proportion of cheating on men and women is as follows:
38% of women have cheated and 60% of men have cheated.
In this era of great pressure in life, affairs within marriage seem to be becoming more and more frequent.
For women, when faced with a man’s cheating, should she get divorced? Should we be bound by family?
In fact, for women, marriage is a choice in life, and divorce is only a choice in life.
No matter what a woman chooses, there is nothing wrong with it. It is just a way of being responsible for herself.
Regarding marriage, women must weigh the pros and cons, make decisions, and be responsible for their own future.
In addition, after a man cheats, a woman will end up in this unhappy marriage, which will not make her children better at all.
After all, what really affects a child's future life is not the divorce of his parents, but an unfortunate family environment.
Infidelity is like an earthquake, and repairing it is a major project. It will not only affect the couple, but also cause great harm to the children.
As for whether a man can still be trusted after he cheats?
In order to better answer this question, the author contacted several women in the group, and these three women said they were suitable.
Ms. Zhou: It’s unbelievable. Men who cheat have no bottom line of their own.
Ms. Zhou said that a man’s mouth is a lie. After a man cheats, he can no longer be trusted.
After all, once the bottom line is breached once, it will no longer be the bottom line in the future, and it will only further lower the moral lower limit.
For men, when a man cheats, he will not take cheating seriously.
will only break through his own moral bottom line again and again.
Faced with women’s tolerance and forgiveness, men will not only not repent and correct themselves, but will intensify their harm.
In the eyes of these men, a woman's forgiveness is not because of love and sacrifice, but because the woman cannot live without him, so they become more unscrupulous.
Ms. Zhao: Even if a man begs again after cheating, women should not be soft-hearted, because they are just talking.
Ms. Zhao said that if a man cheats, no matter what he says or makes any excuse, he will not be forgiven.
Because something is wrong, it is wrong. A man's betrayal has already caused harm to a woman. Even if he apologizes and repentes afterwards, it has no meaning.
The only person who really hurts is the woman herself. These injuries will not be alleviated by a man's apology.
In reality, the author discovered such a strange phenomenon.
If a woman wants a divorce after a man cheats on her, few people will truly understand the woman's pain.
On the contrary, people around him will say that he is the culprit who hurts the children. If the woman does not divorce, then the family will be as happy as ever.
Is this really the case?
The answer must be no. Even if the woman does not choose divorce, the family will not be happy.
The world is always asking us to forgive, saying that a prodigal will never be replaced by gold.
Let us be grateful to those who have hurt us, because they make us stronger.
But those people who have brought harm to me, they only bring me harm, which can even be described as adding fuel to the fire. If I don't hold a grudge, it is already considered generous. Do I still need to be grateful to them?
Angela Chang once said in a program that she was never grateful to the people who hurt her. She even felt that it was poisonous to be grateful to the people who hurt her to make herself stronger, because she could become stronger without the person who hurt her.
For women, when a man cheats, you must think about yourself and not be affected by the people around you. After all, life is your own. No matter whether the future is bitter or sweet, only you have to face it.
Ms. Bai: Men who cheat are not trustworthy. After all, men are restless.
Ms. Bai said: Men will be young until they die. As long as they are not hung on the wall, they will not settle down.
As long as a man cheats on his wife, he will never control himself again.
There are men in this world who never cheat once, but no man will cheat only once.
deeply agrees with this.
A man’s cheating is actually only 0 or countless times.
Most men only have evil hearts but no courage, and they don’t dare to cheat.
After all, they simply cannot afford the consequences and price of cheating.
When they taste the sweetness of cheating, they will become out of control.
It’s easy to change a person’s situation, but it’s hard to change his temperament, let alone cheating.
For women, if you find that your man has cheated on you, don’t hesitate to change him quickly.
Some men's cheating is not a matter of whether they love you or not. They don't even love anyone but themselves. Some men even don't love themselves.
When a man cheats, it becomes a habit.
For women, all men need divorce. In fact, it only depends on yourself and what you really want.
For the future, women should still think more about themselves, instead of always abusing themselves to help others.
Men who cheat must not be trustworthy. There is not a word of truth in their mouths.
Just like those who gamble, even if gambling makes them lose more, they will still enjoy it.
They are more just pursuing the excitement, so they can't control themselves.
Men cheating has nothing to do with whether their marriage is happy or not.
In the eyes of some men, domestic flowers are not as fragrant as wild flowers. They enjoy the excitement of this kind of affair, so they will not be loyal to their marriage.
Even in the eyes of many cheating men, their cheating is nothing at all.
Tell me, can you still trust such a man?
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