My friends and I are friends who talk about everything. We often get together when we have nothing to do. We get together every five days and get together every ten days. Even if we don’t get together, we hang out online every day and chat about everything. But since the outbreak, I have discovered that the relationship between us There is less contact and less interaction. As long as you don’t want to meet, just say, let’s meet less due to the recent epidemic, so that you can’t refuse. Little by little, as time goes by, I feel that the relationship between us is weakening little by little, and there is even a tendency to disconnect. I quietly observed the changes between us and summarized these three reasons.
First, the so-called beautiful relationship must be based on mutual benefit and reciprocity.
No matter what kind of relationship, it must be based on the willingness of both parties and the mutual influence. In the past, we were always together. In addition to spiritual communication, it was also an attraction in terms of interest.
Sometimes I think to myself, in fact, we are more like lovers, and we even meet the standards of lovers.
He likes me to be beautiful, sexy and interesting.
I like that he has intelligence, a sense of humor, and can read me.
We both have families and excellent children.
We got to know each other during the process of picking up and dropping off our children. We sat together at the parent-teacher meeting and added each other on WeChat. From now on, every time we pick up our children, we go a little earlier or a little later to talk about our experiences in educating children, as well as problems in work and life.
Over time, the connection between us has obviously increased. In addition to sharing their experiences with each other online,
also agrees to pick up and drop off children in a fixed parking space, chat together in the car, and then leave in a hurry.
He occasionally gives me small gifts, which makes me feel that he cares about me.
Mutual appreciation is the basis of mutual goodwill.
Although I sometimes try to grasp each other's boundaries, as long as the window of the soul is opened, it is difficult to stop.
I sometimes think that apart from the physical body, our relationship is very close in heart. In addition to material interests, spiritual attraction, mutual respect and liking are very important factors.
二 Any beautiful relationship requires a process of slowly adapting to .
The children later passed the exams successfully.
We each spend less time meeting each other every day, but we always maintain the frequency of online contact.
talks about children's feelings when they enter school. After the children's studies are on track, we will pay less attention to the children. The focus of the
topic has gradually moved from children to real life.
He has a friend group, and he often invites me to get together, climb mountains together, and have AA dinners together.
To be honest, I don’t like crowded places, let alone being with many strangers.
But he likes this popular aggregation model.
He often said, Only by putting yourself in the sunshine can our friendship last forever. Sometimes he even brought his wife to come with me.
Although this is nothing, I still feel awkward.
Because over time, I developed a certain fondness for him, which excludes other people.
I hope that if he has time, he can be alone with me for a while. Although he can't do anything, at least he can keep some private space.
During this process, there was a little gap between us.
From the mutual appreciation in the past, I gradually felt that he and I were not that good. If he really cared about me, how could he not take care of his own feelings?
Third, any good feeling, if it cannot be justified, will be nothing.
He also noticed that I began to neglect him little by little.
Although I responded to the WeChat messages he sent, I was not as active as before.
Sometimes he invites me to participate in activities, and I occasionally participate, but I don’t have the same enthusiasm as before.
We all notice this change in each other.
It’s not me who has changed, nor him.
It’s just that the feelings between us change over time, and we gradually see our true relationship and true face.
said that there can be pure friendship between men and women.
But in the face of facts, no matter how pure a friendship is, it will not be able to break through due to certain bottlenecks.
I admire him very much and hope that we can keep our relationship private. Even if
does nothing, I still want him to be mine.
Sometimes he makes excessive demands. Sometimes, although I have wavered, I still hesitate after thinking about the consequences and impossible conditions.
Several times we were alone together and had physical contact, but at the last moment, I still pushed him away resolutely.
Because I know that even if we become lovers, we will never be able to get together.
Can we divorce and get back together again?
I don’t think it is possible.
We both have good families and have excellent children.
's career seems to be smooth to outsiders.
If we get divorced and get back together because of this, I feel like we can’t figure out the relationship at all.
He said several times that I would be cautious and handle the details, but I could never overcome this psychological hurdle.
I will only comfort him, wait, wait, if I want to do it, I will agree to it.
He also respected me, which made me happy.
But with the arrival of the epidemic, we have less contact, especially fewer meetings.
The occasional dinner gatherings we had in the past have basically disappeared due to the epidemic.
We haven’t seen each other for a long time. We only talk occasionally online.
To be honest, there's nothing wrong with that.
I just feel that as time goes by, sometimes I talk less online.
After all, life is like that, you can't have too many topics.
If it is not true love, you will suddenly have something to do.
Since this is the case, no matter how hard we walk, we can’t find a common topic, let alone a better excuse.
For example, can I still work overtime all the time? Can I still go on business trips all the time?
Sometimes the reasons seem far-fetched.
If we can't continue our relationship, I feel there is no way out between us.
will gradually cool down.
Only now do I understand that it is not that the epidemic has made our relationship cold, but that the epidemic has made us see clearly the boundaries of friendship between men and women.
The so-called "not meeting each other due to the epidemic" is just the most genuine excuse.
