On the first day after I was 36 years old, I finally saw clearly who my husband is. They are so ruthless. I want to divorce!
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I am Li Shanshan, 36 years old this year. I am currently an unemployed flexible employed person at home, with a monthly income ranging from a few hundred yuan to a few thousand yuan. If I divide my life into two, my life has two stages, one is before marriage and the other is after marriage.
I was born in an ordinary family in a third-tier city. My parents are both ordinary workers, and I also have a younger brother who is two years younger than me.
Like most families, parents hope that we can read books well and have a bright future. However, they have neither higher knowledge nor more background or resources, which can help us take a good path in life.
My academic performance was average. I only took one vocational college in the college entrance examination and studied e-commerce major. My younger brother signed up for the army after graduating from high school. After two years, he retired and returned to his hometown to open a restaurant. It was very hard and his income was only enough to support his family.
After graduation, I still made some work achievements in the years I started working, but A Tao's appearance changed my destiny.
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After graduation, I went to Shenzhen and entered the e-commerce industry. In those years, social e-commerce and live e-commerce were in its infancy, and I became an operation staff.
, taking advantage of this wave of bonus , I made my first pot of gold in my life. Over the years, I have saved more than 600,000 yuan in savings, but it is not easy to settle down in Shenzhen for this little money.
Just as I was continuing to work hard for my career, a man named A Tao came into my life. He is one of our suppliers, 4 years older than me, and a foreigner working hard in Shenzhen.
Similar experiences in a foreign land, let us know each other and love each other. A Tao is particularly able to say, and sweet words often make me dizzy. I am addicted to the happiness brought to me by feelings, but I gradually don’t work so hard in my career, because I think career is not the most important thing for women, family is.
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Half a year later, I was moved and cried. I agreed to his proposal and looked forward to a happy and fulfilling marriage and family life from now on.
I got pregnant shortly after marriage. When I was 7 months pregnant, I quit my busy operation job and focused on waiting for delivery at home. A Tao is quite good to me, taking care of meticulously and giving it to my home regularly every month.
The child was born and was a girl. A Tao was very happy, but the mother-in-law from the countryside seemed a little unhappy. A Tao's father passed away a few years ago. His brothers and sisters all went to work in different cities, and only his mother-in-law was left in his hometown. So in order to take care of me and the child, she was taken to us.
After my mother-in-law came, she always looked a little reluctant and complained to me. She sometimes complained that I had given birth to a daughter, and sometimes she thought that I could only spend my husband’s money if I didn’t work.
There were a few times when I was so angry that I had a few quarrels with her, which made everyone very unhappy. In fact, although A Tao has worked outside for my family over the years, I am also using my savings to support this family.
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When A Tao faced the mother-in-law’s problem between me and my mother-in-law, he either kept silent or asked me to take care of the elderly’s feelings. I had just given birth to a baby and had a little bit of postpartum depression , so I often felt so wronged that I cried when I heard such words.
If these are small problems in life and can be tolerated, after the mask incident, a big problem occurred in our family, that is, the economic problem.
is affected by masks, and A Tao's small factory is in trouble. At the beginning, it was a loss due to production cuts, but in the end it could not support it, it could only close the door and close down, but the expenses of the family of four still had to be spent.
However, A Tao was unable to go out to work in the mask incident, so I could only use my savings to support the family's expenses. At the beginning, I had no complaints, and I just hope that after the mask incident stabilized, A Tao would go out to find a job, and at least he had some income. Otherwise, the feeling of sucking in the empty house would be too terrifying.
But three years have passed, and A Tao has no other income except for odd jobs for several months and earning thousands of yuan. Every time I talk about him, he will say wait and wait. But he had time to play games at home and watch mobile phones every day without doing housework, while his mother-in-law watched TV at home every day.
But I take care of their daily life like a nanny and have to spend my own money. Seeing the fewer and fewer numbers on the bank card, I feel less and less secure. But none of this was enough to destroy me. It was not until something happened that I was completely desperate.
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8 After the new ten items came out, the mask incident began to be unblocked, but I unfortunately suffered from positive effects. My symptoms were relatively strong.
There seems to be a blade hidden in your throat. Every time you cough, it is very painful and you can't speak out. When the high fever repeated and did not go away, it even reached 40℃, and the whole body was sore and had no strength.
It didn't get better after taking some medicine, but just when I was eager to get the care of my husband and family, they made a move that disappointed me: Atao and his mother-in-law actually said that they would take their children back to their hometown to avoid being infected by me, and asked me to give him 10,000 yuan of living expenses, and I will talk about it in a month.
When I heard this, I felt very sad and tears immediately flowed down my face, but I no longer had the strength to send out any words. I watched them pack their luggage and leave home quickly, leaving me alone in the cold room lying on the bed and suffering from illness. My heart was bleeding. They were so heartless!
After seven or eight years of marriage, why am I less and less valued and respected in this family? Before getting married, I was a full of energy. Why do I feel that my life is being consumed little by little now?
I thought a lot while lying on the bed. When A Tao returned to his hometown, he was still sending messages, asking me to send him 10,000 yuan as soon as possible. I reluctantly transferred 10,000 yuan to him, and my heart felt dead. I wanted to get a divorce. How could I still stay in such a family?
Please give me some advice, what should I do?
Such things are really uncomfortable. An irresponsible husband, a mother-in-law who doesn't like him, and a disharmonious family relationship. When Li Shanshan was ill, everything was presented.
is really desperate. It’s better to take good care of your illness first, and then talk about it! As for what choices you should make, I think you will make a decision for yourself.
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