After Huang Ziming left, his son and daughter-in-law not only did not give the pension to Zhu Cuifang, but also blocked his stepmother directly. This made Zhu Cuifang very sad. You should know that when her husband was still there, the stepson and his wife were very nice to her. Why did her husband change his face immediately when he was not here?
It is probably because of her physical condition that Zhu Cuifang is sick and unable to walk normally. She usually has to take a wheelchair when going out. Her son and daughter-in-law don’t want her to be a burden, right?
Zhu Cuifang has no other requirements now. She just hopes that her stepson Huang Xiangyan and daughter-in-law Xu Nana can return the pension that belongs to her so that she can have a guarantee in her later years. For this reason, she specially asked a radio emotional mediator to mediate.
The mediator took Zhu Cuifang to Huang Xiangyan's residence. Xu Nana opened the door. She saw the mother-in-law in a wheelchair downstairs at a glance. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law started arguing from the air.
Xu Nana accused Zhu Cuifang of marrying the Huang family for impure purpose. When Zhu Cuifang passed by, she also brought three underage children. At that time, she didn't even have a job. Huang Ziming worked in a central enterprise and had very good conditions, so Xu Nana always doubted her mother-in-law's motives.
Zhu Cuifang came to Xu Nana
Xu Nana told the mediator that her father-in-law also had a daughter, and she was seriously ill, and her mother-in-law was unable to move, so she paid for her family to help her father-in-law with her funeral, and she handled the pension on her behalf.
According to Xu Nana's wishes, after deducting the money for the funeral, the remaining money from the grandmother and aunt were all divided by half. However, the mother-in-law did not agree to this plan and refused to sign it, resulting in the pension being unable to be collected until now.
Why does Zhu Cuifang want this money? Because she is really short of money, she needs more than 1,000 yuan in medicine every month. Although the pension is only a few tens of thousands of yuan, it can support her medicine expenses for several years.
Why did Xu Nana not willing to give all the money to Zhu Cuifang? Because her father-in-law's funeral was all the money paid by her and her husband, but her mother-in-law turned a blind eye to it and only knew that she wanted money. This attitude angered Xu Nana.
Xu Nana does not want to greed for this money. She has children as stipulated by the law. Now Huang Xiangyan and Xu Nana are willing to give up their share to their aunt, and their mother-in-law wants to take over even the aunt's share.
Huang Nana's anger was not the end. Her father-in-law had agreed to a burial with her mother-in-law in the future. However, as soon as her father-in-law left, Zhu Cuifang entrusted her son to find another cemetery. When Xu Nana paid for her funeral, Zhu Cuifang collected all the gifts from relatives and friends. All kinds of behaviors made Xu Nana feel that her mother-in-law's purpose was impure.
Zhu Cuifang knocks on the daughter-in-law's house
But then again, if Huang Ziming is still there, this family can be a model family.
The year when Hong Kong returned to , the divorced Zhu Cuifang met Huang Ziming, who was also divorced, through an introduction by someone. At that time, Zhu Cuifang was accompanied by three children, and Huang Ziming also had three children. After the couple got married, they got along very well, and Zhu Cuifang's children also regarded Huang Ziming as their father's filial piety.
The key is that after the two got married, Huang Ziming has been living in Zhu Cuifang's home. He usually has contact with Zhu Cuifang's children and does not have much contact with his own son Huang Xiangyan.
So in the view of Zhu Cuifang's son Chen Yingwei, the current performance of his mother's stepson is inseparable from the insatiable greed of his wife Xu Nana.
It turns out that Huang Ziming has a house, and the real estate certificate contains the names of him and Zhu Cuifang. Huang Ziming left a request during his lifetime to transfer the house to his granddaughter, Xu Nana's daughter, and leave the pension to his wife.
Zhu Cuifang puts the overall situation first, respects her husband's arrangements, and voluntarily gives up the share of hundreds of thousands of real estate. Now Xu Nana doesn't even give her a pension of 30,000 yuan. Isn't it a bit bullying?
Xu Nana was not grateful at all. The house was originally the property of her father-in-law before marriage. When she transferred the property to the child, her mother-in-law didn't want to sign at all. She signed the letter only when her father-in-law promised to take care of her. At that time, her father-in-law was in good health, but her mother-in-law needed to take care of her.
Zhu Cuifang
So how much is this pension? Where is it now? According to regulations, the spouse and children need to sign together to receive the pension. Because Zhu Cuifang and her stepchildren failed to reach an agreement, neither party signed the money. The money was still found in the local human resources and social security department and
Zhu Cuifang. The staff revealed that the pension was only about 30,000 yuan, and there was no need for both parties to ruin their 25-year relationship for this little money.
In fact, neither of them is for this little money. Xu Nana thinks her mother-in-law has ulterior motives, so she is competing, while Zhu Cuifang is for her stepchildren to recognize her identity.
In order to solve the problem, Zhu Cuifang came to her stepson's house again, tremblingly with crutches, and no matter how she knocked on the door, there was no movement, but the garbage bag at the door and the car parked by her daughter-in-law downstairs clearly confirmed that there was someone in the family.
Zhu Cuifang had no choice but to find the local Legal Aid Center for consultation. The lawyer told Zhu Cuifang that the money, first of all, needs to be deducted from the money for the funeral, and will be given to whoever pays it. Secondly, it is divided equally in the order of spouse and children. No matter what, Zhu Cuifang can get a part of it.
walked out of the legal aid center, Zhu Cuifang was in a dilemma. She wanted the money, but emotionally she didn't want to go to court with her daughter-in-law who had been with her for 25 years, so she had to go home and discuss with her son before making a decision.
Zhu Cuifang and mediator
Who is more unreasonable in this family dispute? I think it is my daughter-in-law Xu Nana. With Zhu Cuifang's situation, what is the point of competing with her for a mere 30,000 yuan? So what if you take a step back and get together and part?
Why do I mention Xu Nana instead of Huang Xiangyan? Because Xu Nana is the decision of the stepson's family, Huang Ziming gave his bank card and certificate to his daughter-in-law for safekeeping during his lifetime. Any decision by Huang Xiangyan was basically Xu Nana's decision, and even Xu Nana's father-in-law's funeral was handled by Xu Nana himself.
Zhu Cuifang's conditions are very bad. She takes medicine all year round when she is in a wheelchair for many years. After deducting the 30,000 yuan pension, it would be good if she could have 20,000 left in her hands. This money is not worth mentioning for Xu Nana, who has a house, a car and a salary, but it is different for Zhu Cuifang, at least two years of medicine.
In theory, Xu Nana shouldn’t have been calculating with her mother-in-law for the 30,000 yuan. Think about it, after all, her mother-in-law has been with her father-in-law for 25 years and her stepson and daughter-in-law for 25 years. Her relationship has been harmonious before. Is it worth it just because she hurts her love just because of 30,000 yuan?
No matter how Xu Nana figured out her mother-in-law’s motive for marrying the Huang family, her father-in-law’s house was finally given to her granddaughter. If her mother-in-law didn’t sign, could she do it? Seeing her mother-in-law’s concessions on the house, Xu Nana really doesn’t need to be petty about the pension.
Zhu Cuifang is sad
As for what is the motivation for Zhu Cuifang to marry Huang Ziming? It doesn't matter. Even if she has personal purposes, she has not done anything to hurt the Huang family.
Xu Nana has always insisted that the mother-in-law marrys her father-in-law because she is good at the conditions of her father-in-law and her purpose is impure. Indeed, when the two of them got together again, Huang Ziming's conditions were much better than Zhu Cuifang, but think about it on the other hand, the first thing to consider when they get married when they are middle-aged is the other party's financial conditions. How many people get married for love? Zhu Cuifang's choice is just a normal choice for most remarried women.
After Zhu Cuifang married Huang Ziming, there are at least three things that were done well.
The first is that the couple respect each other and can be together for 25 years. This is no longer easy for a reorganized family. How many reorganized families are having trouble every day?
The second is that Huang Ziming lives in Zhu Cuifang's home for a long time. The one who is filial to him is Zhu Cuifang's son. Huang Ziming is not at all loss. In turn, it reduces the burden on Huang Ziming's children. To be honest, Huang Xiangyan and Xu Nana are not as filial as Zhu Cuifang's son Chen Yingwei.
The third is that even if Zhu Cuifang is unhappy, she still gave up on inheriting Huang Ziming's real estate. Compared with a mere 30,000 yuan, it would be hundreds of thousands of yuan.
So, Zhu Cuifang is far from being selfish as her daughter-in-law criticized her.
Zhu Cuifang sees her husband
The reason why both parties have reached this point is that they lack kinship , and they distrust each other, which leads to amplification of the problems on each other.
Since both parties care about money, there can only be an explanation. Both parties think that the other party has problems, so they keep holding on to the other party in the details.
Take Xu Nana as an example. She insisted that her mother-in-law's motives were impure. First, after her father-in-law left, she violated her promise to join the funeral with her father-in-law and asked her son to find another cemetery. This is wrong with Zhu Cuifang. But on the other hand, when Zhu Cuifang suddenly found that she was treated like this by her daughter-in-law, would she still dare to sleep in the Huang family in a hundred years?
Let’s talk about Zhu Cuifang’s failure to help Huang Ziming with the funeral. First of all, she had no money. She didn’t receive the pension and funeral expenses together. Xu Nana first took her own money to advance, and later she had to deduct the money. Besides, it should be the responsibility of the biological son to handle the funeral for his father.
Of course, it was wrong for Zhu Cuifang to take away the gifts and money. She should give the Huang family back to her stepson.
Let’s talk about Zhu Cuifang. She stubbornly asked for this money but couldn’t bear the mercy. She gave up the house. Why did her daughter-in-law still make things difficult for herself on the pension?
No matter what, 25 years of love should not end like this. Who can do without sages? So what if we give in?
Lawyer Interpretation
Conclusion:
In a reorganized family, the relationship between family members is more subtle than that of normal families. A little carelessness will trigger various speculations. If it is not handled well, conflicts and disputes will arise.
This family is no exception. The 25 years of imitation family ended in this way, which is nothing more than once again proving the fragility of the reorganized family and the human nature that cannot resist the test.
But I still hope that Xu Nana will not be able to make an old man in a wheelchair because of the past 25 years of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Even if she is wrong, are you all right?
You should not be too selfish or too harsh. One step is not to fulfill others, but to fulfill your own pattern.
is not a family. If you don’t enter the family, both parties should put family affection first. Only by learning to let go can you feel at ease in your life.
