But I believe that women who have had similar emotional experiences will feel disgusted. After all, if they really care about how they would end up with the breakup. The affection after the end is the cheapest, and the interweaving love and hate are even more disgusting.
The lovers are still affectionate and don’t be busy and happy, and don’t be overwhelmed with vanity, because many so-called “can’t let go” may not necessarily be because of love, and there is a purposeful interpretation of his own interests. So the first thing you need to understand is the reasons and purpose of their establishment of a deep love personality.
may be because he thought he had paid too much sunk costs and was unable to be free and straightforward. It may also be because he was very inferior. He was not willing to look directly at his true self. It may also be because his unfinished complex was at work. It may be because the partner was profitable, so he continued to pretend to be infatuated.
However, when faced with a man who pretends to be affectionate after breaking up, women do these things more "relieve hatred" than revenge.
Learn to adjust your emotions and no longer be disturbed by him
At the charity dinner, Qin Shi and Tao Junhui met unexpectedly. In the face of men's entanglements and wall-to-bumping actions countless times, whether they are angry or excited, they may make men feel superior while interacting, because it proves that this woman has not let go of herself yet. On the contrary, looking at Qin Shi's attitude, in addition to using his understanding of his ex to analyze the case, he basically turned a blind eye to his current girlfriend's conditions and would not take it seriously.
In real life, this kind of persistence seems to be very infatuated, except for you, everyone else is just making do with it. It seems that either continue to reflect your affection and generousness, or you want to relieve your guilt.
This previous relationship has passed no matter who owes whom, and the biggest revenge at this moment is not the anger on the face, but the calmness in the mood.
Make yourself better
There is a state of revenge that is the most successful state of: After leaving you, I will live a better and happier life than you.
is like Qin Shi. Although he did not achieve his partner's wish, he finally achieved both love and career. Especially when his prospective husband succeeded, he achieved higher achievements than his ex, which is a stronger revenge.
However, if you can really do this, first of all, women need to work hard enough and be excellent enough to achieve the capital that they must be appreciated, admired, and envied, so that they will not mind that their successor is a white, rich and beautiful woman. Secondly, you can be pragmatic when looking for a man, but you must not be overly realistic. After all, if you are too short-sighted, you will definitely not choose Yanghua, an unemployed vagrant, and you may even say that you don’t mind being a family husband at home.
As Qin Shi said, the relationship between the two begins with appearance, loyalty to character, and conforms to their values. Character and ability are the basis for maintaining a high-quality relationship, rather than the current income and position. But in the end, even if you are really lucky enough to meet, you must have this attraction and value to successfully attract the other party to love.
There is a kind of "revenge", called "becoming a better self"; there is a kind of "liberation", called "release let go of the past", and there is a kind of happiness, called the day of starting over and making the ex look forward to it.
What you should learn most about being single after a broken heart is to grow up value after healing, rather than indulging in the pain of the past, mourning your love, and misfortune. How can we have obvious and strong revenge on our ex? It’s just that you’ve become better, but he can’t get the ticket again.
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(author: Xiaoyu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at restoring and restoring romantic relationships, marriage conflicts and differences, and spiritual trauma healing caused by original ecological families.In a lonely life journey, listen to your grievances and pressures, help visitors improve their gender skills, win back their lovers, manage their relationships well, and strive to become a happier person.
