Later I found out that this is indeed the case in our lives.
is just that most of us have not realized this yet.
In real life, many people always get used to nagging people around them, thinking that nagging can change the other person's shortcomings and reminding the other person to accomplish what they want the other person to do.
But have you noticed that the more you nag about the person around you, the more indifferent he will be, and even more disgusted with you?
Actually, there are many ways to make men better and better for you, and nagging and complaining are the most useless ones.
If you really want the other person to understand you and spoil you, then you must learn to control your mouth, quit "nagging and complaining", and then do the following two things.
Some time ago, Xiaoguo in the company told me about the experience that happened to her.
She said that for a long time, she and her boyfriend almost broke up.
During that time, she always felt that her boyfriend did not meet her expectations, so she always blamed the other party, and even rose to the question of whether he loved it or not.
All kinds of trivialities can make them quarrel. At the end, one heard enough and the other was tired of talking, and then started Cold War .
When she wanted to break up, her sudden busyness at work gave them time to relieve each other.
Because of work needs, Xiaoguo transferred all the energy spent on her boyfriend to herself and her work.
During that time, she said that she would read books whenever she had time; she would take care of her skin whenever she had time; in addition to completing tasks at work every day, she would work hard to become beautiful and fill her inner world, and often pay attention to her mental state and dress.
Perhaps it was probably because she saw Xiaoguo's efforts and changes, her boyfriend began to feel a sense of crisis and became more and more hardworking.
Surprisingly, after they got better, their emotional crisis was also resolved.
Xiaoguo said that she thought about it for a long time before she suddenly realized that she wanted to change someone, not to stare at him every day and nag and complain. It not only wastes her energy, but also makes the other party more disgusted.
Yes, while blaming others, we are also consuming ourselves. Over time, we will become full of hostility.
It’s better to spend all this time and energy on loving yourself and filling yourself.
After all, it is still the same old saying: If you are in full bloom, the butterflies will come; if you are wonderful, the heaven will arrange them.
So I hope you will always regard "love yourself and make yourself better" as your life creed.
This is also the first thing I hope you can do. Of course, when you become excellent enough, everything around you will naturally get better.
In my daily life with Lao Xu and I, we have a time period every day, and we are free to each other.
During that time period, I would not interfere with his doing anything, nor would he object to where I go. It was our alone time.
Sometimes, he is playing games and relaxing, so I go to the study to read the quiet and quiet book. Occasionally, I will go out shopping, drinking tea and chatting with my friends.
I enjoyed such a time alone, after all, this is also the best time for me to explore unknown life, feel life and fill myself.
I have always understood that love without free space cannot last long. It will only make each other complain and consume each other because they cannot breathe.
Being alone is the space for us to breathe on each other; it is also the starting point for ourselves to become better.
Some girls may think that falling in love means two people are tired of being together all day long and doing a lot of things together.
But in fact, the best state of love is that the part of your life together has many intersections, but outside of the intersection, you still have their own wonderful lives.
You must remember that falling in love does require certain constraints, but it is definitely not a restriction on each other's freedom.
To maintain spiritual independence and learn to be alone is the second thing I hope you can do.
We live in the sunshine, and we all hope that we can get more freedom and happiness, and we all hate the uncertain weather.
In fact, the same is true for feelings. Everyone likes people with sunshine and warmth, and they are also disgusted with nagging, complaining and negative energy.
Chasing beauty is an innate nature of human beings, so we should work harder to become better, and for nothing else, just think that we can have more choices, right?
Girls, you must understand that you must first love yourself and be calm, and then love others, so that you can meet all the beauty unexpectedly.
Because of this, even if you encounter rainy weather in your life, you can become your own little sun, warm yourself, and you don’t need to borrow anyone’s light.
