Recently, Zhizhi's father is going to have a short holiday. I thought he would reduce his burden when he went home and help him watch out for the children to take online classes.
even once imagined that this good comrade could become a competent "family cooker" so that I could have a hot meal when I got home from get off work.
As a result, everything was just a fantasy. After returning home, not only did I not see the hot rice, but I also saw the little beast at home destroying the onions I had planted for a long time on the balcony. The big family that was originally densely packed together was pulled away by this little guy and only a few lonely ones were swaying in the wind.
And the toys at home are everywhere. The dirty clothes put in the washing machine yesterday are lying in it.
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I was immediately furious and ran to the room to accuse my husband, "I usually say that I am busy with work and don't have time to do housework. Now you have a lot of time every day, why don't you see you move?"
As a result, he actually said with striking words: " It has been said in the research that men do more housework every day, and the divorce rate of couples is higher."
I listened to his sophistry, and blood pressure rises faster. Who knew that the other party immediately gave it to a research report, and there was such a research report that subverted cognition.
Men do more housework, is it easier for couples to divorce?
This article was published by Norwegian researchers. It uses 20,000 men and women as experimental samples, ages between 18 and 79 years old, and studies the proportion of housework for men and women after marriage, as well as the relationship between fairness and quality of life in family life.
The result found that the more men participate in housework, the higher the divorce rate of couples.
does it sound a bit outrageous? It feels like it is giving excuse to the men in the world and giving them a "gold medal for housework" so that women can willingly take care of all housework.
I admit that when I first saw this report, my mind was flashing countless times, and my blood pressure rose over and over again.
can calm down online, take a closer look at this report, and analyze it in combination with the actual situation, it seems to make sense.
The reason is quite realistic
Because there was a key data in the previous article: The proportion of housework.
We all know that "the male leads the outside, the female leads the inside" is a traditional way for Chinese couples to get along.
With the development of the times, more and more women have begun to leave their families and shine in the workplace. The standards for choosing a spouse will also change. They have begun to require their partner to share the housework and be responsible for the family.
But a person's energy is often limited. If a man allocates too much time on housework, then many people's first thought will become: Is his ability to make money not good?
Some women always fall into this contradiction after marriage:
Not only hopes that their husbands can make great efforts in their careers and earn more money to support their families;
I also hope that he can devote more time and energy to his family and accompany himself and his children.
When he is rich and his career is going well, you complain that he is too busy and cares about the family; when he has no money but only does housework at home all day, you will feel that he is cowardly and incompetent.
So, from this perspective, if a man does not have much money-making ability and stays at home all day and only knows how to do some housework, he is often easily disliked by his wife and can't stand it over time and wants to divorce.
Just like in the TV series " I am Yu Huanshui ", Yu Huanshui was hit after experiencing a car accident, became completely devoid of fighting spirit and no aspiration for career. But in his family life, he worked diligently and took care of housework.
Mu Qiang's wife looked down on her husband more and more, and finally chose to betray her marriage and cheated in the first episode.
So you see, people's feelings are so fragile. When the gap between two people in a marriage becomes bigger and bigger and there is no common topic, it is easy for the relationship to break down.
Of course, what is said here is only part of the situation, and it is not to encourage men not to work.
[Last Summary]
Happy marriage should be the joint efforts of two people, rather than focusing on the allocation of housework.
As a member of the family, both husband and wife must learn to assume their family responsibilities, and housework needs to be taken into account by each other in turn.
If one of them is really too busy with work and has contributed to the family's economy, then they should also be considerate of each other and one of them should undertake more housework so that life can last long.
And each couple gets along differently, so there is no need for everyone to compete with each other for the sake of face. They always feel that other people’s partners are excellent, and they also require their partners to do it, otherwise they will quarrel and ask for divorce.
As the saying goes, "Every family has a difficult sutra." Those couples who look bright and beautiful on the surface and have deep affection may quarrel over all kinds of trivial matters in their lives, so there is no need to compare them everywhere, as this will only increase their worries.
