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Whether it is remarrying or living together, it is difficult for men who are in their 50s to accept women of the same age. Unless this woman is well maintained and has a very high temperament, men will basically not be moved, even men in their 60s will be the same. You can persuade others to accept people of your age, but you can't do it. This is something that many middle-aged single women cannot understand.
Most women will think, why men cannot accept women about the same age as themselves, but women can accept them, and they can also accept men about ten years older than themselves. This is where men and women have different ages when they reach a certain age. Some women can accept sister-brother relationships, but most women cannot accept sister-brother relationships. This has a certain relationship with ideas and social experience. Everyone knows that sister-brother relationships are not reliable.
In fact, women prefer men of the same age as them, that is, they are three or five years older than themselves, or one or two years younger than themselves. They also make some weird requests for men who are more than teenagers. Women will be very upset about such men, and it can also be said that it is not an exaggeration to describe them as a nose.
I am 45 years old this year, and I have been divorced for 7 years. I have been on blind dates three times since last year. I have disappointed me by comparing one by one. I don’t know if there is a problem with the introducer or if I think I am not worthy of being with my peers. I did say that I don’t care about my age, but I don’t mean to introduce me to an old man in my 60s, right? I felt that my self-esteem was seriously hurt and I was in a very unhappy mood.
The reason for my divorce is very simple, it is domestic violence. My forearm was once beaten to bone fracture , and there were many scars on my body. I lived with the devil for three years. I was terrified, panicked, and helpless. As soon as he drank, I would be worried, which made me anxious every day. Divorce was my only way out.
When I first divorced, I felt uneasy every day. No man looked like a good person. I returned to my parents' home to live for a few days. Because my mother and my younger brother lived together, they could not live forever. I rented a house with my daughter and didn't want him to know where I live. I was still worried that he would come to me after drinking, so I would often move. After more than three years, I finally got better and he calmed down. Fortunately, he had his daughter with him.
Later, I bought a 40-square-meter second-hand house to live in. Now I have no foreign debts and my daughter has gone to college. I feel that I am sometimes very lonely and lonely. Every day, I am just two points and one line. Sometimes I start to have insomnia and have random thoughts. I really want to have shoulders to rely on. My mother also said that when I am young, I should find a partner, otherwise I might really live alone.
Of course, there are also people who will introduce them to me. The conditions I require are very simple. I don’t need him to raise them. I have a stable job and income. As long as I can be regarded as, he has a stable income and independent housing, and he can also be regarded as me. Age is not very important. I don’t take care of children, nor do I want the other party to have children. I can’t be a stepmother and know that I don’t have that level.
The first blind date partner, seven years older than me, working in institution , I was full of confidence. After the introduction, we felt okay with each other after meeting. We chatted together for more than an hour, then left the contact information, and simply got to know each other on our mobile phones, which felt reasonable.
A few days later, we made an appointment to meet for the second time, and had a simple meal, and then he asked me to go to his house to see it. I felt that it was not yet time, and I had only known each other for a few days. I didn’t understand many things yet, mainly because I didn’t feel that way. At this time, I felt that he was a little unhappy and there was no topic in an instant, so we went home.
On the night, he sent me a message saying that I was a little arrogant and there was no need to pretend to be at this age. If you can, you will be together. If you can't, you will break up. How could you know if you can't be together? I said it was a bit too fast, right? I will not be with you without planning to get married.Just this sentence, he became popular and said that I was too good at pretending, and even if I could do it in the future, I wouldn’t get a marriage certificate. When I heard it, my god, what kind of behavior is this? It’s either love or finding a partner to live in. I really can’t accept it. They deleted each other in less than a week.
The second place is a taxi driver who was laid off in his early years and looked OK. He was 7 years older than me. His son is already married. I was thinking at the time that I could still rent it for rent at this age, which is also acceptable. But what happened later is unacceptable.
At first, he talked about how he divorced. His ex-wife had a bad personality and was unlucky in life. He often abused and scolded him. He did not give face in front of his friends, etc. When I heard that all the mistakes were from my ex-wife, I felt that this person was particularly able to say, and there were many things that were not true. I tugged at me the first time I met. I really couldn't accept it. I felt that there was something wrong with this person's behavior.
chatted on mobile phone in the next few days, and asked me to go to his house to spend a while to get to know each other. When I heard that the man in front was not very different. Is it because I was behind or I was rare? To be honest, I really can't accept such a man. I told him that we are not suitable, so don't waste your time.
I felt that the introducer was a bit outrageous when I went on a blind date. I didn’t tell me how old I was. I just said that this person worked in the Land and Resources Bureau, had a house, and looked good. He was a widowed man with excellent conditions. After we met, I felt a little surprised. He looked like a person in his 60s. Later I found out that he was 59 years old and had not retired. His family conditions were OK. He looked a little sorry to the audience and looked like someone who was almost 70 years old.
I still gritted my teeth and talked to him briefly for a while, and it felt a bit rude to leave immediately. What he said next gave me a new understanding of men. He told me that if I felt it was OK, I would move together, and I would have an average living expenses, and I would not get a certificate, but I would take care of each other.
When I hear it, I feel like I’m listening to a joke. Did I find such an old man to accompany him? I feel that the introducer is not reliable, and I shouldn't introduce people of this age to me. There are such strange requests. Although I am not a celestial immortal, it is reasonable. How could I accept such a person? I would rather live alone for the rest of my life than live with such a person. Besides, I don't have to support myself.
So, after these three blind dates, I feel that there is no hope for marriage, and I say that living together is remarried. No one is willing to get a marriage certificate and become a couple with just right. It feels like men are more realistic than women. Maybe I haven’t met a normal person, but I will not go on blind dates again in the future. If I can meet someone I like, I will be together. If I can’t meet, I will not go to anyone, nor can I accept such people who live together, and I can’t stand the old man. Is your health okay?
Men at this age basically have this idea and are unwilling to get a marriage certificate. They are afraid that they will be troublesome in the future. After getting a marriage certificate, they will involve many problems. Once they break up, they may have to sue. If they can't turn their former lover into enemies, it's convenient to get a marriage certificate, and they will come and go freely.
Men must like young and beautiful people. They will not feel the same as older people, and they will not even be willing to work with each other. They will basically find women about ten years younger than them. They have no interest in older women at all and can’t even talk. If you can accept it, you can find it. If you can’t accept it, just live it yourself. Don’t have any fantasies. Prince Charming is Tang Monk in Journey to the West.
Later on
For women, when they are around 50 years old, it is best not to have any fantasies about marriage, nor to focus on this matter. Just let it go. If you meet the person who truly loves you and loves you to the core, cherish it. If you don’t meet, take good care of yourself, help your children, and accompany your parents. Never have beautiful dreams.
