A long time ago, if the elderly wanted to remarry in their later years, they would probably be ridiculed, because at that time, many people's thoughts would be somewhat influenced and changed by traditional concepts. But now, whether the elderly remarry or want to find a partner in their later years, they will be understood by everyone, and this is also a normal thing.
However, the reason why many elderly people now have the idea of remarrying in their later years is that except for a very small number of people, they pursue the so-called love in their hearts, and the purpose of remarrying is to be able to accompany each other and take care of each other in the future, so that their later years can live a more nourishing life.
Although that is the case, it is not so easy for the elderly to remarry now. It is because the purpose of remarrying is not the above at all. Instead, the real purpose of their remarrying is just to seek more economic benefits from the other party, or to satisfy their other selfish interests.
65-year-old Mr. Zhong is a single old man. Later, he decided to remarry Aunt Lu, 58-year-old. Originally, during the dating of the elderly, they had no opinions about each other, but just a week before the two got their marriage certificate, in order to make the two of them live happier and more comfortable in the future, Mr. Zhong proposed four conditions just like the other party. Originally, Mr. Zhong felt that his four conditions were very normal and reasonable, but after hearing this, Mr. Lu said, "Then you should live it yourself, I won't pass it for you!" Let's take a look at Mr. Zhong's story together.
Uncle Zhong’s self-report
My surname is Zhong, and I am 65 years old this year. Although I only have a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan, if I spend money carefully and have no other major diseases in my body, this money will be enough for my daily life and I am very content.
I have a son and a daughter. My two children are very filial to me. Even though they are both busy with work now and they still have their own family life to take care of, they usually have no conditions to go home to take care of me, but as long as they have free time, they will always take time to go home to visit me.
Overall, I am quite satisfied with my current life, but I also have something unsatisfactory, that is, as early as ten years ago, I divorced my ex-wife. Although people often say, "A couple has a hundred days of kindness, and a hundred days of husband and wife are like deep in the sea," but to this day, I have never regretted divorce from my ex-wife.
When I was young, I worked in a certain unit. Not only was I handsome, but I was relatively talented. Therefore, my marriage was quite easy at that time, but later, I finally chose to marry my current ex-wife.
Because my ex-wife is not only very beautiful, but also has a good family background. The most important thing is that she took the initiative to pursue me at that time. In this case, I had no reason to reject her. Therefore, after talking to her for a few years, we got married.
In the first years, we lived happily together, especially after she gave birth to two children, our lives were getting better and better day by day, but later, we quarreled almost every day, and the real reason for our quarrel was that she thought I was useless and incompetent.
It turns out that the reason why her ex-wife married me was that she often felt that I would be a person with a bright future in the future. In this way, there would be a glimmer on her face in front of relatives and friends. To put it bluntly, the ultimate goal of her marrying me was to hope that I could support her, that's all.
But in fact, for a long time, I have been just an ordinary office worker. She saw that her purpose was not finally achieved, so she always quarreled with me with various excuses, and I was really unbearable.
To be honest, I had wanted to divorce my ex-wife for a long time, but my parents disagreed because they were afraid that after I divorced, they would make fun of outsiders. Considering their parents' feelings, I always chose to endure no matter how my ex-wife quarreled with me. Until later, my parents passed away one after another, and I immediately divorced my ex-wife decisively as soon as possible.
After divorced my ex-wife, I did not look for others, but chose to live alone. My idea was very simple at the time. Instead of suffering from that marriage, I would rather live alone. Although living alone is relatively lonely, at least I don’t have to suffer so much cowardly, which is better than anything else.
But since I retired, I have a lot of free time and I don’t have any other hobbies in my daily life. In addition, I don’t want to go to too many times in the future to bother my two children. The most important thing is that the rest of my life is still long, and I don’t want to live alone, so I will have the idea of remarrying.
So in the following time, as long as there is nothing big about every day, I am on the road to blind dates almost every day. Whether it is introduced by others or asked by myself, as long as I feel that there is a slight chance, I will actively meet with the other party, and then, there is nothing else.
I have summarized the reasons why I failed blind dates repeatedly. There are only three points: either I like others, but others don’t like me; or others like me, but others like me; or I don’t like others, but others don’t like me, so my blind date journey is particularly tortuous.
During this period, I also met one of her conditions that made me more satisfied with all aspects, and she obviously had a good impression of me. Originally, I thought I had finally met the "right person," I was still very happy in my heart, but after I had a real relationship with the other party for a while, I immediately chose to give up.
The woman's other aspects are fine, and there is no big problem, but the only thing she is about spending money, she makes me feel very troubled. She is far from officially getting married, but even so, she asked me to treat Western food, or buy jewelry, clothes and cosmetics, and even later, she asked me to take her on a trip.
Don’t say that my financial conditions are not good. Even if my financial conditions are good, I can’t stand her so much. After only two months of knowing her, my 10,000 yuan was gone. Everyone can bear it. Besides, I was looking for a wife, not someone who spent money on my behalf, so I decisively chose to break up with her.
Originally, after being hit, I was not going to look for it anymore because I think it is too difficult to find a sincere wife who is willing to live a down-to-earth life. I should give up. But later, by chance, I met a 58-year-old woman named Lu Xiaojuan because she is much younger than me, and I usually call her Xiao Lu.
Xiao Lu's basic conditions are similar to mine. She looks pretty good. She used to be a music teacher in a middle school. Therefore, she looked very elegant, spoke and spoke in all aspects, and had no other bad habits. At that time, I fell in love with her at first sight, and she was not repulsive to me, so we decided to contact us for a while before talking.
During this period, Xiao Lu's various performances made me very satisfied. When I went out for dinner with her, she always looked for cheap hotels. I took her to my house as a guest without me opening my mouth. When she saw that there were any housework at home, she helped me do it. The most important thing is that sometimes I wanted to buy clothes or cosmetics for her, she chose to refuse all of them. This situation was something I had never encountered before.
Because of this, after dating Xiao Lu for four months, I took the initiative to ask her for marriage. After a few days of thinking, Xiao Lu agreed to my request, so we decided to officially get the marriage certificate next week.
However, considering the actual problems, I think it is better to explain some things in advance so as not to have conflicts between the two people in the future. So one noon, I said to her: "Xiao Lu, although we are husband and wife next week, and we have gotten along very well during this period, but in the ugly words, I have four conditions, I hope you can agree." "Okay, it's absolutely fine, then tell me," Xiao Lu replied.
The first condition is that no matter what we do in the future, we must adopt the AA system. You and I will pay 2,000 yuan a month in the future. No matter how much money we spend every month, we will share it equally, but it is limited to the shared living expenses. If all the expenses are spent on ourselves, we can only bear the expenses ourselves. In addition, we should adopt the aa system for future housework, which is fair and just.
The second condition is, since you have married me, you will definitely come to my house to live in the future, but you must abide by the corresponding rules when you come to my house to live. First of all: in the future, your grandchildren and children cannot come to my house for free for free. Secondly: they cannot come too frequently because I like quietness. Finally: You cannot leave my house and help your children see the children, and you cannot let me go with you.
The third condition is that I usually snore when I sleep, because someone told me before that I don’t want to do this, but I don’t have any other better way now. Therefore, I hope you will never despise me because of this in the future, and you will not use this to make a fuss with me to sleep in separate rooms or something. However, I will try my best to overcome it in the future and try not to affect your normal sleep as much as possible.
The fourth condition is, no matter which one of us is paralyzed in bed first or cannot take care of ourselves, the other party will not only not have the obligation to serve the sick party, but the other party also has the right to file a divorce from the other party, so the sick party must agree unconditionally. After all, the purpose of our remarriage is to improve our future quality of life, and we are definitely not to find someone to serve ourselves.
As soon as I finished speaking, Xiao Lu said angrily: "If everything is aa, what's the point of getting a certificate? And there are too many rules in your family, and you have to listen to everything. Have you ever considered my feelings? Besides, you can't let me dislike you, let alone let me sleep in a separate room with you. You are too selfish; the most important thing is, who will be paralyzed in the future, or you will lose the ability to take care of yourself in your life. If you are too hard, just forget it if the other party doesn't take care of you, and you still ask for a divorce. This is too cruel and ruthless. I don't know what you think. Since that's the case, you should live it yourself. Anyway, I won't live it with you."
Although Xiao Lu's words still make sense, I think the four conditions I put forward are not too much and out of line at all, because I just want to find a remarried partner who truly meets my own conditions, but Xiao Lu and I have different ideas.
Later, neither of us was willing to make concessions on this matter, so Xiao Lu refused to get a marriage certificate with me next week, and then left alone. She said that I am selfish, ruthless, and too utilitarian. If I marry someone like me, she will never have a future, but I don’t think I have done anything wrong. So what do you all think about this matter?
