In the TV series " Naked Marriage Era ", there is a line that expresses the voices of parents who misunderstand the words of raising their daughters in poverty: "I misunderstood the old saying of raising children in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising them in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and raising their daughters in poverty and fear that they will be deceived by a piece of cake.
But I forgot that such a girl is protected too well and not cheated by the cake, but she is a few tricks of tricks. "
simply creates the conditions for wealth for her daughter, does not educate her correctly view of choosing a spouse, does not let her understand the importance of money and the hard-earned money, does not let her realize the difficulty of making money and the hard work of life, the daughter she raised may be like the He Lin in " Mother-in-law Comes " and Hu Lijuan in " Double-sided Glue ". She believes that a thousand gold can hardly buy a lover, thinks that love is full of water, and thinks that love is more than anything else.
Moreover, because of your spoiling, she will respond to her requests, which makes her very clear that you are not willing to stop her, and you will not really ignore her. She will easily be fearless, willful, and stubborn, and think that even if something happens, parents will clean up the mess for themselves.
Just like Hu Lijuan in "Double-Side Sticky", she wanted to marry Li Yaping, but in the face of her parents' obstruction, she could actually tell the lies of being pregnant. After getting married, her family made unreasonable requests. Not only did she refuse to the end and insisted on the bottom line, she returned to her parents' home many times and used the money she had saved with her parents and brother to help her. In the end, Hu Lijuan's parents were both rich and wealthy, not only did they lose their savings, but also lost their beloved daughter. What a painful lesson.
Writer Sanmao said: "Sometimes we must be more cruel to ourselves and not tolerate our sadness and disappointment; sometimes we must be more cruel to the people we love deeply and put the love and memory of them on hold."
When your daughter is willful and arbitrary, you must not be soft-hearted and cannot be confused to the end. To cultivate her into a naive and silly white sweet, you have made a big mistake. At this time, if you let her act recklessly and keep cleaning up the mess for her, she will only be fearless, even more ignorant, and even more unable to realize where her mistake is.
"Mom, I was wrong, I was really wrong, sorry, I was unfilial, disobedient, and I don't understand your good intentions. Now, what should I do?"
received a call from my daughter, and Aunt Yin sighed. Three years have passed, and the girl who was protected too well by herself and who was willful and reckless finally regretted it.
01.
Auntie Yin's heart is as if she was cut by a knife. If time could go back and everything could be repeated, she swears that she would never dote on her daughter so much, and would definitely strictly demand her, scold her if she should be scolded, and not give her what she should be paid, and she would never keep her so ignorant.
29 years ago, Aunt Yin gave birth to a daughter, which is also her only child. Although my husband felt regret and unhappy that he was not a son, he was not too backward in his mind and soon accepted the fact that he had a small cotton jacket. The couple naturally loved this only child in every way.
Aunt Yin and her husband both work, and they go out early and come back late every day. Although their daughter is taken care of by her grandmother, Aunt Yin has always felt very guilty and feels that she is not a qualified mother and treats her daughter with all her requests.
"I want pets. Although my husband is allergic to hair, he still agreed. In order to let his daughter raise a dog, my husband suffered a lot. Every year, I buy new skirts, and when I go shopping, I like other good-looking skirts, so I bought them for her. On her birthday, I always do it very grandly, which makes her friends envious."
From childhood to adulthood, my daughter has been a very opinionated person and has a very stubborn temper, especially when she was in college. She obviously had a good college score in the college entrance examination, but her daughter wanted to go to college in other provinces and was unwilling to stay in her hometown. She had a long time to have sex with her parents. In the end, Aunt Yin compromised and agreed.
Aunt Yin and her husband have worked hard for decades, plus the property left over from their parents, have saved up a wealthy family business and owned three houses in a first- and second-tier city. Without exception, these properties belong to their daughter.
02.
"My wife and I worked hard for decades, and with my parents' property, her grandparents gave us a portion of the money when they split up. It's right for her to leave it to her, but it's just for her children. It's not cheap for her men, nor for a poor boy who is useless except for sweet-mouthed and handsome."
The poor boy mentioned by Aunt Yin is her current son-in-law and her daughter's college classmate. Although Aunt Yin repeatedly reminded her daughter not to fall in love during college, and thought campus love was unreliable, and she hoped that her daughter would find a local and not marry too far, so as not to be able to protect her in time, her daughter still took Aunt Yin's advice as a matter of wind and did not take it seriously. She fell in love when she was in her sophomore year and concealed it until she graduated from college.
It was not until graduation that the man proposed to his parents that his daughter would bring her boyfriend back to see her parents.
"It's not that I broke up with each other, but that he really doesn't deserve it. He comes from a county town. His father seems to have an accident while working for others. His legs are no longer good and he needs to travel in a wheelchair. He has to worry about everything inside and outside the house and has no house. Although the school he graduated from is OK, it is undoubtedly a fantasy to want to buy a house in a big city. Not to mention the first-tier city where their school is located, even if I am here, I can't afford it! "
What's even more outrageous is that when Aunt Yin asked the man about her future arrangements, the man said that she planned to return to the provincial capital of his hometown to find a job. The house price there is cheaper, but it will take several years to save enough down payment. She said that her wife would be wronged in the past few years and rent a house with her, and the two of them worked together.
How is it possible for my daughter whom I have been raising with and I want to rent a house with me? When he saw the man's mother, the other party said, "Our family really can't afford a house. There is no way. If you feel sorry for your daughter, then my father and I will move here, and life here is good." Aunt Yin couldn't bear it anymore.
03.
"Your dad and I get up early and make money in the middle of tumultuous life, not to make money for the sake of a cheap son-in-law. Don't even think about it. Either, you break up with him and break up with him. Or, you should marry him naked, just like he said, two people have rented a house and saved money to get married by themselves."
"It's naked to get married. I didn't want to rely on my parents, nor did I want to ask you for a house. You and my dad can work hard, why can't we? Mom, you are too material, talking about money hurts feelings, do you understand?"
Aunt Yin felt speechless after hearing her daughter's answer, but no matter how hard she persuaded her, she couldn't stop her daughter who insisted on committing suicide. Seeing her daughter performing a good show of crying, making a fuss and hanging at home, Aunt Yin was completely angry.
"Okay, give it, take the household registration book, marry! But I tell you, there is no dowry, you will not have a family in the future. If you are bullied by others, you will find that you have been deceived, don't cry for me. I don't need your retirement either. I sold all these houses and lived in a high-end nursing home."
even if Aunt Yin said something very terrible, she could not stop her daughter from flying into the flames, Aunt Yin also made up her mind. On the first Spring Festival of her daughter's marriage, when her son-in-law brought her wife back to visit her father-in-law and mother-in-law to show goodwill, Aunt Yin took her wife out for a trip. Anyway, as long as they come back, she will definitely not see you.
Aunt Yin persisted for three years, and even with her grandson, Aunt Yin did not see them. My daughter has been married for three years and has suffered for three years. She has truly tasted the feeling of sadness between poor and humble couples, and her mentality has naturally changed.
"Some time ago, wasn't it a big fire for Wang Baochuan to dig wild vegetable stems? I said that's all fake. I believe that there are such women. My daughter is very similar, but I don't believe that a young lady who has no fingers on the spring water and is served by someone can endure the pain of guarding the cold kiln and relying on wild vegetables to make her belly. She can still endure it for eighteen years? Anyway, my daughter won't do it."
As expected, my daughter endured it for three years, but she couldn't stand it anymore. She called her mother and cried and said that her life was a bad one.
"We have not bought a house until now, just because his burden is too great. His father needs money to see a doctor. His mother has to serve his father. He has no income. The old couple rely on us to raise them. The child is born, but his mother is tired. No one takes care of me. I also have to take care of his mother and children. How can he go to work? His income has not increased."
Not only does his son-in-law not try his best to increase his income and improve the family's living benefits, but he has been brainwashing Aunt Yin's daughter since she got married, saying that her parents are just stubborn and will not want her. He asked her to speak to her parents, at least she has to get the dowry house that was originally prepared for her, so that their family can have a good life.
Fortunately, Aunt Yin’s daughter has basically shame. For the sake of marriage, she has already made her parents angry. How could she still be shameless and ask her parents for money? As she refused many times, the son-in-law became anxious and even slapped her in the face a few times, completely waking Aunt Yin's daughter.
"My wife and I discussed it and decided to hire a lawyer to go to my daughter's house to solve this problem. How else can I solve it? Divorce! As for the child, whether to bring it back is a question."
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