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Life is full of variables. You try your best to be happy, but someone doesn't know how to cherish it. When the dream is broken, you realize that if you lose something, you can't have it again...
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half a year later I told my parents.
In their opinion, I am just making a fool of myself. Those big sesame things are not worthy of divorce at all.
More importantly, my ex-husband is just a good man in their eyes.
steadiness and down-to-earth, without bad habits, is definitely a person who lives a life.
But where did they know that they see appearances.
shows the image of a good person outside, but when you go home, you look like another.
I have had enough of this kind of cold violence in this kind of marriage.
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Ex-husband always shook his face for no reason, and he turned his face without even figuring out what was going on.
The family of three went out for a meal, and he threw the menu to me without a word.
clearly said that he ordered casually, but the food was not in line with his wishes, so he started to look bad.
Don’t talk to me for a few days without a sound, and I’m inexplicably cold and violent.
not only does it to me, but also to my son.
didn't mess with him, it was just that weird.
He asks us to be generous in front of others.
As long as the son meets an acquaintance and doesn't say hello, he will gloom his face.
His son ignored him and he could continue for ten days and half a month.
This state seriously affects the family atmosphere.
I asked him to communicate, and lowered my posture to ease the relationship.
But his contemptuous look can make my heart feel cold.
His lifelessness can drive me crazy.
For my son, I always urge him endlessly.
But his mouth was worn out, and he replied to me at most: "You are sick, go do whatever you should do, please don't bother me."
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To be honest, I really want to slap him to death. Few people can understand the discomfort of hatred and unable to understand.
always feels like there is something blocked in your chest.
Once, a male colleague drove me home.
happened to meet him at the entrance of the community. Before I could introduce my colleague, he glared at me and turned around and left.
I am so embarrassed. Since then, I have been in contact with friends and colleagues of the opposite sex and have had heart problems.
Even the neighbors in the community stayed away from me, for fear of making a misunderstanding that I could not get out of Taiwan.
seems to care about me, but in fact it is not that.
I can never remember important festivals, and everything about wedding anniversary, birthday, and Valentine's Day is nothing to do with him.
Every time I was so mean that I hinted him a week in advance, but he just pretended not to understand.
If you really ask urgently, you will reply to me: "How old is it, you will still be romantic all day, but you will die."
For this, I have been quarreling with him a lot, but people like him become more and more quarrels because most of them are silent.
His coldness not only treats me, but also treats his biological son the same way.
Other people’s father is full of love and wants the stars not to give them to the moon, but he looks disgusted with his son.
He looked down on anything his son did, and he also complained that I didn’t teach my son well,
but he kept his phone in his own hands and was immersed in his own world all day long.
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I have been tired after so many times.
This kind of man is not honest on the surface, but selfish in his bones.
He tortured me with cold violence and tortured his son, unwilling to face all kinds of uneasiness in life,
also used us to calm the depression he suffered in his unit. A day like
makes me look like it at a glance.
can't shout, and I can't even exert internal injuries.
After another inexplicable cold violence, I firmly filed for divorce.
He did not agree or object, and he said coldly: "You are sick, you are looking for trouble for a day if you have nothing to do."
sneered twice, and handed over a complaint to the court...
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faced my first action and then report it, my father was so angry that his eyes were blushed and his face turned pale.
said I was just a fool, said I was willful and ignorant, and did not think about my children.
"Hurry up and remarry me. No matter what, he is also the child's father. He is also his biological father when glaring and slapping. You don't look at yourself. Do you think you can do it? Who dares to marry you with a boy? Even if you have one, it's not as good as your own father."
"Who hasn't had trivial matters yet? Why do men want to talk so much? He didn't beat you and scold you, isn't he just a little introverted, not good at speaking, and has a strong face, that's a thing. As for divorce? It's not embarrassing to sue the court!"
"I think you are too bad, with your temper, no matter how good a man is, he still has to leave! There are no bad things about others, and it's enough to pay the salary on time,"
"Okay, you don't care, dad talks to him, it's easy to communicate between men, I advise him, after all, the child is still young..."
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My dad's words are not unreasonable.
In addition to having some quirks in personality and likes cold violence, I really can't tell what he is wrong.
But a cold violence is enough to kill me, so I never thought of remarrying him.
My dad is not me, he can't feel the depression and pain of living with a cold and violent person for a long time.
The first second was clear, but the next second was filled with dark clouds.
Maybe it's a sentence, maybe it's a look, or maybe it's nothing,
just because he is in a bad mood...
This person is strange. If you don't explain anything clearly, you will only hold it in your stomach, and use your gloomy face and silence to make you guess riddles every day.
To put it bluntly, these are not trivial enough, and they are joked when they say them, and they are not enough to shake the foundation of marriage.
However, this kind of marriage without happiness is really not the day I want.
so, I confronted my dad very "calmly".
"I know my own affairs. You don't have to worry about it. I'm not a child anymore. I have a stable job and can earn money to support my family. I don't want to spend such depressing days."
My dad was so angry that he pointed my head: "The day you cried, just wait!"
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What surprised me was that my mother stood aside with me for the first time, and
did not echo my father's words for the first time.
"If it weren't for being overwhelmed, which woman would have divorced at all costs? Xue'er, it's okay, mom supports you."
Not only was I stunned, but my dad was stunned.
I thought that when I came back this time, my dad would protect me like I did when I was a child, and my mom would scold me for the sake of face.
But they just the opposite, the roles have changed a lot.
My dad called my mom stupid and asked her to avoid getting involved.
My mother's words were aggressive and she didn't let my dad say anything. She also felt like she wanted to take advantage of the situation and quarrel.
My dad was so angry that he slammed the door and left.
My mother went straight to the bedroom and after a while she carried a suitcase out: "Mom goes back with you and help you take An An."
"Mom, don't worry, An An and I are living a good life, so you can stay at home with my dad."
My mother looked up at An An who was playing in the yard.
Hearing the giggling giggle, my mother seemed not so worried.
She hugged me: "Xue'er, don't make things too difficult for yourself, don't keep it in your own hands, you must tell your mother if you have any questions."
At that moment, I pretended to be strong and couldn't help it.
Tears flowed down instantly...
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From childhood to adulthood, my mother has never acted so kind to me.
In my eyes, she is always so serious.
She rarely praises me, let alone pamper me like other people's mothers.
In addition to being tireless in preaching to me, she just circled around my dad and the family.
In short, I have been scolded by her a lot.
so, it was a bit surprising that my mother suddenly supported me like this.
Although my mother was on my side, my dad still insisted on letting me remarry.
Before leaving, he was still persuading me, saying that children from divorced families are withdrawn and told us not to be too selfish and think more about their children.
told me not to be willful, and asked me to consider him and my mother, saying that if relatives and friends knew about this, they would have no place to put their faces.
My mother glanced at my dad hard and just let me know it.
I suddenly felt that my mother had changed, and it made me a little uncomfortable.
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The days of living alone with peace are very hard, but they live very real and freely and happily.
No need to look at other people's faces, no need to suspect, no need to be wronged.
The state of freedom is really good.
An An did not become timid because of her lack of a father, but instead became more sunny and confident than before.
days passed like this, and occasionally I also talked to my mother to report my safety.
everything seems to be the same as before, and I can't realize any abnormality.
But it was not until a call from my dad that I realized something was wrong.
"Xue'er, come back quickly. Your mother doesn't know what kind of tines you are trying to get. She wants to divorce me. Please persuade her quickly."
I was completely confused when I heard the news that my mother was going to get a divorce.
I took An An and rushed home.
My mother's phone has been set up to call the housekeeper, and I feel even more anxious.
rush into the door, and the scene in front of me shocked me.
Home was smashed and even my mother's favorite orchid was on the ground,
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My father vented his emotions in anger: "Is your mother crazy? I don't feel embarrassed to want to divorce at such an old age?"
I called my mother a few times, but no one responded.
"Dad, where is my mom?"
My dad looked dark and took a few puffs of cigarettes vigorously: "Let's go, I don't agree to the divorce, so she moved away. I think she has lived too many good days and is frizzy all over."
I looked at my dad a few times, and my heart suddenly felt ache.
thirty years of storms, I just said it, and there was no sign at all.
also has a lot of grief and disdain.
I left An An to my dad and rushed out of the house at a speed.
I didn’t care about my face and searched all the people I could find.
Finally, I found my mother in a residential building in the new district.
That community looks very quiet and has a huge green area.
Walking in the winding path, I silently counted the building numbers in my heart, but my heart kept sinking.
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I don’t know why my mother chose to live here?
I even thought about whether my mother would have something else to love.
is the age when I filed for divorce from my dad.
was thinking about it, and then he came to the building number he was looking for.
I knocked on the door gently.
"Who?"
My mother's familiar voice made me a little nervous all of a sudden. The moment the door opened, my mother was shocked: "Xue'er, why are you here?"
"Mom, you don't turn on your phone, I'm scared to death."
while speaking, I looked around. The house was not big, but it was clean and tidy.
My mother's dodging eyes made me feel a little distressed.
I can find it, because I was destined to know about her and my father, and my mother is still a little embarrassed.
That day, my mother and I sat down for the first time and talked about our lives like friends.
It was the first time that my mother told me the unknown story between her and my dad...
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In my eyes, although my parents are not such a loving couple.
But compared to other people's parents, they are already considered "models".
After all, I'm so old, they have never blushed, let alone do it.
My mother is strict with me, and my dad is spoiled with me. They always loosen and tighten and complement each other.
My father is working hard outside, and my mother manages the family properly. In my opinion, this is the happiest.
But my mother told me: "Your dad may be a good dad, but he is definitely not a good husband."
I was stunned after hearing this. This sentence came out of my mom's mouth, thinking about his weight.
it turns out that my dad has another unknown side.
In their nearly thirty years of marriage, my mother is not as happy as I have seen.
The glamour I see on the surface is the harmony that my mother has endured.
Although my dad is not tyrannical, he is not cold and violent.
But he is an absolute machismo and has a very serious concern.
My mom said that the only thing my dad is not very macho is that he doesn't dislike me as a girl.
My dad didn't know how to cook before getting married, and he didn't have the will to work after getting married, so he pushed them all to my mom.
At all times, I say I'm busy with work and too tired. I either ask for a party with my buddies or lie down when I go home.
Although the money is given to my mother on a monthly basis, I often check the accounts as if I were to be careful of thieves.
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My father’s hometown is in the countryside. He can’t save money every few days.
But my dad insisted that my mom was a big deal and spent money where she shouldn't have spent it.
In my dad's eyes, he should pay whatever money he spends, and even if my mom buys a piece of clothing, it is unnecessary.
My mother said that my dad never scolded her in front of me. Every time it was late at night, I lowered my voice and started to show my power.
No wonder my father has a kind father image that has never made me doubt it.
it turned out they were acting all the time.
My dad is the leader of the unit, while my mom is just a small accountant of an enterprise.
In the era when they got married, people were not that realistic. My father also wanted my mother's beauty and then he chased her back home.
But as my status increases, my dad looks down on my mom a little.
always dislikes others and sometimes belittles my mother, which hurts her self-esteem.
My mother wants face, and she endured it in her heart, and she still pretended to be a smile on her face.
My mother said that the reason why she was strict with me since childhood was that she wanted me to study hard.
can help her to be angry and not be influenced by men.
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My mother said that since my father became a leader, he has a very superior sense of superiority.
You need to eat well, wear well, and you need famous brands from the beginning to the end.
But my mother couldn't bear to spend a penny more, and her clothes and shoes didn't cost more than 300 yuan.
That's it. My dad thought it exceeded the standard and thought my mom spent too much, so he kept nagging.
My dad is also super good at acting, one set in front of others and the other set in the back.
Usually, in front of outsiders, including in front of me, I care about my mother and care about my well-being.
However, when the two were alone, he had another face.
In his eyes, my mother was nothing, and she couldn't even deserve him.
His sense of superiority is particularly obvious with the promotion of his position.
I let my mother vent my vent. He blamed my mother all for not being happy at work or in a bad mood. He could even scold my mother if he found a fault.
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This kind of life constraint is not the most hurtful thing.
My dad's scrupulousness is the most deadly thing.
My dad will interrogate any man my mom would say to me for a long time.
There was a smile on my face, but my heart was covered in dirt.
My mother said that my dad was the most overwhelming one. After the year-end dinner at the end of the unit, the leader took my mom home, but my dad hit me.
He was kind to others on the surface and said countless thanks,
but turned around and pulled my mother home.
While I was asleep, he closed the door and asked my mother what her relationship with that male leader?
My mother explained it countless times, but he just didn't believe it.
Afterwards, I warned my mother to keep her mother away from men.
said that he is a person with status and status, and that my mother cannot embarrass him.
It is since then that my mother has never attended any party again.
My mother said that she had been enduring it for me.
Over the years, the only thing he has fought against my dad was to attend a class reunion for 20 years with my dad on his back.
result, my dad got it and got furious.
In front of my mother, I deleted all the students' phone calls on my phone.
also warned my mother that she would not be so polite next time and would make my mother unable to come to Taiwan in front of everyone.
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My mother told the story, but I was stunned.
I never knew that my parents who looked quite loving were so incredible.
What shocked me the most was that in the past 30 years of marriage, my father actually tamed my mother with his "face change".
My mother has been doing so many years, in order to avoid conflicts and not to stimulate my dad,
House and home are two points and one line, no social engagements or gatherings, and devotes all her body and mind to this home.
My father's usual behavior made my mother subconsciously feel that she is really inferior to others.
I really can't deserve the man in front of me.
so that she became more and more willing to accept her fate. Except for having some requirements for me, she could not see any dissatisfaction in the rest of the world.
My mother said that she had also thought about fighting and giving up, but when she saw my dad doting on me, he couldn't bear to leave it.
She was afraid to make me lose this complete home and lose my father's love.
so, my mother naturally cooperated with my dad to act and did a lot of tricks.
I can't tell at all that my mom is actually inferior to my dad.
I also naively hoped that my marriage would be enough to live like them.
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Until my husband, who could not bear the cold violence, ended his marriage and returned home.
My mother realized that it was time for her marriage to end.
is my courage that illuminates her front and gives her strength.
She said that she really wanted to face the unhappiness in the marriage like me.
But she didn't have the courage, and she didn't dare to tell my dad that she didn't dare to think about what the ending would be.
Until that day I told her that I had been divorced for half a year and lived a good life with An An, very free, and enjoyed the current time.
She couldn't sit still and said she didn't want to continue acting with my dad for the rest of her life.
She said she was so tired of acting. She wanted to be as free as me, not controlled by others, and not threatened by others, and not be afraid of talking on the phone with a friend.
My dad suppressed my mom for nearly 30 years. He enjoyed that sense of control too much, the pleasure of a woman being convinced by him.
so, my dad was shocked and angry when my mom suddenly filed for divorce.
will only go crazy and smash the house.
and my mother's favorite pot of Clivia were not spared.
My dad didn't pursue my mom. He was too confident and arrogant.
He thought my mom was still the woman he used to be, and was obedient to him, like a gentle kitten. Even if he had a little temper, he would take the initiative to go home if he was angry.
But he never expected that my mother was determined to divorce him.
especially the death of my grandma, which made my mother feel free to worry and even more understand.
more than one life is precious. She doesn't want to go to the end of her life with grievances and unwillingness...
My mother even said to me: "Xue'er, as long as I let me leave your dad, I'm willing to do anything, I feel relaxed and happy."
What a humiliation and ruthlessness, my mother doesn't like that man so much.
it turns out that the extreme cold in my heart can really break through the ice.
The native home I thought was happy turned out to be my mother's cage.
I am very happy that she has the courage to break through the cage and regain her life...
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If I had not experienced the pain of marriage, maybe I would comfort my mother.
Using the selfishness of a daughter, seeking the completeness of a family.
will also ask my mother to let him go and reunite for the sake of the father who pampered me.
Now, I am a woman who suffers from marriage. I can experience any subtle feelings a woman suffers in marriage.
so, I support my mother and I stand with her very firmly.
My dad’s choice was shocked and angry, but the rest was full of disappointment.
He didn't expect that the little cotton jacket he had pampered for many years would be betray him at this critical moment.
I was hoarse in my voice and only said to my dad: "Dad, if your daughter is suppressed, looked down upon, and suspicious, would you not feel sorry for her?"
My dad was silent and did not speak.
At the end of that month, my mother and my father went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the procedures.
Later, my mother told me that my dad had gone to find her, apologized, and even knelt down to give in.
But my mother said that her heart was dead and she could no longer get hot.
My mother said that my dad was not reluctant to let her go at all, but was considering his own face, afraid that others would make fun of him.
My mother analyzed my dad to the point, saying that my dad is as selfish as most men and always thinks about himself.
My mom said that in real life, few men really feel sorry for their wives.
To them, women are just free nanny, and may still be their slave.
I stared at my mother in a daze, without saying another word...
This is an online story of emotional convexity...
Anyone's marriage will have problems of this and that,
Some even have a worse life,
like the heroine and her mother in the story.
endures and feels wronged, but dares not speak out until he can't bear it anymore and makes up his mind.
such marriages are indescribably uncomfortable and have caused internal injuries.
What others see is glamorous, but what they endure is loneliness.
What kind of partner can be worthy of a woman who devotes her entire life to marriage?
No one can give an answer, because marriage itself is a gamble.
No one knows whether you are a human or a demon who is with you.
No one should want to control anyone, and no one should want to imprison anyone.
State weakness does not represent lifelong cowardice.
Maybe it is a certain point in time, and I wake up instantly, and I wake up instantly...
Author: Xiaofeng
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