Qing Dynasty Wang Yongbin wrote in "Waihuo Night Talk": "When talking about the traces, no matter the heart, there is no perfect person in the world."
When interacting with people, everything depends on what others do. Their words and deeds and actions are their truest side. If we only focus on their psychology and values, then there will be no perfect person in the world.
Everyone’s views and psychology are different. He likes to eat noodles, you like to eat rice, are you just having conflicts over this matter? This is not necessary.
interacting with people is just for emotional "communication". As long as the other person treats us with feelings and treats us well, that is enough. The rest should not be too demanding.
Just after we left society, we would have too high demands on others and think that others should be kind and sincere, easy to talk and get along with. Later, I met all kinds of people and understood completely that there was no such perfect person?
Generally speaking, others have no malicious intentions towards us, no calculating ideas, and no despising behavior. Then the two parties can maintain a long-term relationship.
If one day, when people around you treat you like this, they will "dislike" you, then don't compromise anymore. Reducing contacts is the best choice.
1. You greet him, but he will not respond to you.
Lao Liu has no money. In the eyes of relatives and friends, he is just an ordinary person. So when he returns to his hometown, few relatives are willing to interact with Lao Liu, and even the brothers from the clan look down on him.
Once when he went home for the New Year, Lao Liu met a relative and said hello to him. Who knew that others ignored him and didn't even look at Lao Liu, and walked away, just like meeting a stranger.
Old Liu was puzzled, so he said hello to each other, and did not ask for your help, nor did he take advantage of you. Do you have to be so indifferent and so heartless?
After experiencing these things in my hometown, Lao Liu also figured it out. Since relatives look down on me, then forget it. Why use your hot face to stick someone else’s cold butt? Just reduce the number of exchanges.
Until today, Lao Liu has no contact with his relatives in his hometown. Since his parents left two years ago, he rarely returned to the countryside.
In his words, kinship , which has no feelings, is just like an outsider's relationship and is meaningless.
2. On WeChat, if you look for him, he will not reply to you for a long time.
offline, there is a situation where "say hello and others ignore it". And this is the same thing online. For example, in WeChat chat, often happens when "it takes a long time to reply" .
I believe many people have encountered the situation of "the other party has been back for a long time". Of course, we will comfort ourselves, maybe it is normal that others did not see it, so we did not return to us in time.
But in fact, usually does not reply for more than 24 hours, or even does not reply after a few days, which means that others "do not pay attention" to our relationship.
has been studied by investigators. Nowadays, everyone has basically no time limit when browsing their mobile phones. Except for late at night, you can basically find him every time period. As long as he pays attention to his relationship with you, he will definitely be able to return in seconds.
has seen some cases. Xiao A regards Xiao C as a friend. The former sent a message to the latter. Who knew that the latter would not reply three days later, and said that he was busy with work and had no time to look at his phone.
Can you say that you have no time to eat, go to the toilet or sleep until you work? In fact, is just that others don’t value your relationship with you and look down on you, so they don’t reply to you. Talking about things is just an excuse.
3. He has a good temper with others and is irritable to you.
There are two college graduates who come to work in a company. One of the graduates' grandfathers are the masters of the boss of the company, and their parents are also leaders of the unit. Another college graduate is an ordinary person without a background.
The boss respects the former very much, and goes from nine to five. He not only takes him everywhere to experience, but also arranges him to do some projects and cares for him in every way. As for the latter, the boss basically looked down on him and asked him to do more tiring work.
Many people will not be able to see it, so why do you have to rush to the point of being strong and step on the low? Can you say that if the former has a background, you must be respected by the boss?
In fact, Jianghu is a "arena". People who can beat others in the arena will most likely be respected by others. The best here is either because of the good family background or the strong personal ability.
For ordinary people, if you want to know what others think of you, you just need to look at other people's "attitude".
is good to you and tolerate you, that is to look down on you. If you have a bad attitude towards you, have a bad temper, and make things difficult for you, you basically "look down on" you.
4. Speak coldly to you, full of mockery.
Mr. Chen, who is with him, is an honest person. He is very kind in dealing with people, giving people the feeling of "hurtless humans and animals" . However, his colleagues around him looked down on him.
When talking to Mr. Chen, others like to say "sarcastic" words to mock Mr. Chen. However, Mr. Chen is more tolerant and is not calculating with these people.
Even Mr. Chen’s friend would speak coldly to him, bullies Mr. Chen’s kindness and will not resist. And Mr. Chen is particularly puzzled. Can kind people be bullied?
The so-called "A good person is bullied, and a horse is ridden by others." This is a world where the strong prey on the weak. The strong will be respected by others, while the kind and weak will only attract ridicule from others.
is not that the world has changed, nor is that the human heart has become worse, but that this has always been the case in the world.
Stay away from those who "dislike" us and become cruel and stronger, and perhaps more respected by others. No matter how bad it is, you can protect yourself.
text/Shushan Youlu
